Thread: Feeling Frumpy

Hi all

I have decided that I don't want to wait until I have shed the pounds to start feeling better about the way I look. The trouble is, I am so clueless. I am 31 years old, and I can't paint my nails nicely, pluck my own eyebrows, or choose clothes. I wear make-up, but I am spotty so very little cover-up, though I use eyeshadow and lipstick. I probably do it all wrong, but hey ho, at least I am trying.

I really don't like most of the clothes I see about at the moment, and I really just feel so stuck in a rut. I also hate drawing attention to my appearance, so I don't like the "I like what you have done with your hair" or "is that a new top" comments that come with changing my look.

I hope this doesn't come across as shallow... I just feel so dowdy all the time and I would love any tips on where to start turning it around.

Thanks

im the same
i feel stuck in a bit of a rut too
and kinda wanna treat myself now but i think do i wanna buy this just to need a smaller size soon
i also do wear lipstick during the day, dunno if its a confidence thing or what but i hate people thinking im too done up for the day if you get what i mean
but i would wear any bright colour on a night out etc
are there any styles of clothes you like ? or celebs you like the dress sense of?

Hi Lottiebird, have you tried going to boots and asking them to do your makeup? It's free and you only pay for the makeup that you actually want to buy and take home with you!

Lots of department stores also offer a personal shopper. I done this last year and it was also free, only things I paid for we're the clothes that I wanted to buy but I got to try on loads while the assistant helped pick what suited me etc.

Hope these help and good luck x

Thanks both for your replies.

I am not sure what celebs I like the look of, or even what I aspire to look like, so that's a great question! I will start to think about what I would like to look like...

Great idea about the makeup counters, I will definitely give this a go! Nothing to lose!

I am going to put the money I want to spend on clothes in a jar until I see something I actually want. Clothes right now are just not my taste! And sods law I never have money when I see things I like

I was feeling really down on myself, really feel a bit silly now. I'm going to get my eyebrows and nails done at the weekend as a start. No point feeling crappy when I look much better than I did, and there is plenty I can do to improve further.

Thanks again

too right may aswell pamper yourself

im the same i never find any clothes i like when i want to find them but when i have like no money thats when i find all the best stuff

I've never learned to do makeup either. My daughter has worn the stuff since she was about 14/15 and taught herself (she's an adult now)

I think if you start at as a teen you can get away with experimenting but when you're over 30 people are going to stare if you've got weird makeup...

I've just googled and I think after reading this I may treat myself to a makeup lesson at some point (I've even found one using cruelty free cosmetics!) - maybe if I can stick to this diet for the next 3 weeks? What do you think?