why are they so mean!
So last week I got to target, but I am still at the high end of a normal bmi. So tonight a group one lady was basically asking me why I am even here for. It really made me feel so upset - felt like I was back at school. I have worked so hard to lose the weight ( 1stone 5lb). And instead of feeling proud of all my hard work, I was made to feel like crap! I did gain a little this week, so I am now even more determined to lose it. And get to the lower side of my target. Anyone else made to feel like this?
Cheeky mare. don't listen to her you have done fantastic you should be very proud of yourself x
Congratulations on getting to target! Everyone has a right to be there, it's no way just for people with a lot to lose. I would tell your consultant that was such a mean thing to say and undermining your weight loss. You've done great and should feel very proud. That's one thing I hate about the groups even though no one has the right to judge anyone.
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You should have just said that you still want to come and get weighed to prevent putting all the weight back on like so many other people who've lost weight before, and the support you get keeps you at target. That would have shut her up but still been polite! X
Why should you worry what anyone else thinks? You have a right to be anywhere you want to be!!
Well done for getting to target. You've tackled things head on now, rather than let it become4, 5 or even 6 stone or more to lose. So well done for taking control now.
People say that to me sometimes as well, and I tell them my journey doesn't stop just because I've got to target. I need to be able to have support to maintain my weightloss, or I'll put it all back on and after all my hard work to lose in the first place, am determined not to. xx
As others have said above, just because you have reached target doesn't mean that you no longer need the advice and guidance to help maintain. If she believes that the very week you reach target is the week you quit then she will be one of those people who reach goal (if ever) and immediately pile it all back on, because she is seeing this as a diet, a temporary eating plan to reach a certain weight, at which time she can start to eat " normally" again, i.e. her old way of eating that made her put the weight on in the first place.
I do not enjoy confrontation so if it were me I would have a word with my consultant and ask her to make a deal of the maintaining side of the plan. This months magazine has a story about a woman who reached goal 8 years ago and still attends her group. She does it to help her maintain, to inspire other people in her group and because she has made wonderful friends and enjoys the social aspect. Perhaps your consultant could do a little feature about this story and then invite you to share some of your inspiration with your group. This might shut up the mean cow by answering her stupid question!
And congratulations to you for reaching target. I for one am inspired.
Was this someone who doesn't know about your weight loss journey? I'm sure when I go to group there may be new people wondering why I am there, although nobody has ever said anything to my face. They would soon shut up when the consultant gets to me during image therapy though. People are going to think what they want, you can't change what anyone else says or thinks. But you are in control of you you react to it and at the moment you are giving them permission to make you feel bad. You should be proud of what you've achieved, and of the fact that you are working to maintain your target weight because we know that this is even more difficult than losing weight
Originally Posted by kpnutt
"That was a rude thing to say!" followed by a shocked face usually puts these sorts of people right in their place.
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I have been at target and I am a few pounds over target at the moment. I have been going to group for the last 3 years and during that time I have mostly been at target. I got to target some years ago and put all the weight back on. This time I have kept going as it helps me even if I gain and I have made lots of friends at the group.
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Well done on getting to target, thats excellent!!! Don't let her make you feel bad, she sounds very jealous!! and PeggyDee is right, if she sees SW as a diet, she will end up piling the weight back on if she gets there.
Dont let her put you off and enjoy your success, and def mention to a consultant so that she won't do that to others, the little bully needs to be stopped.
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