kerry b
Silver Member
Nothing to do with Sw but it does affect my mood and how I react affects my weight. Sorry, its a long one.
My son is 3yrs 5mths and has been potty trained for 8 months ( he was 2yrs 8mths when we did this). He was clean and dry within 2 weeks with the very odd accident then he got ill at xmas & the medication he had to take was so vile I had to hide it in hot chocolate (warm for him) to disguise the taste. I buy highlights so that is what we used. Around this time he started to wet himself again approx 10 weeks after being trained. I put it down to him being ill.
After having 7 months off work to be at home with him I started a new job in January (im a nanny and he comes to work with me). When the wet pants continued I put it down to me going back to work. We also sold our house in January and moved house in February. He seemed to take this in his stride but again, another viable reason for him wetting himself.
After 3 months of him wetting himself, not every day we would have dry days and even dry weeks, I dot the dr to do a urine test which came back clear and I was told he was very young to be trained for a boy ( he was 3yrs 2mths by that point) and I should put him back in nappies. I disagreed and refused to put him back in nappies as I felt that if he could have a whole week with no accidents then he was probably just being lazy.
When we had a long weekend away with a friend she pointed out that the hot chocolate which he was drinking twice per day has aspartme in it ( he has to have special milk formula as he had allergies and couldnt drink cows milk and refuses soy milk and to make sure he has enough calcium he has to have 2 large cups per day and it reached the point he would only drink it as hot chocolate). Aspartme is a bladder irritant. We changed the hot chocolate immediately and stopped everything that contains sweetners and within 3 days he was completely dry again.
That lasted 2 weeks and 3 days. Last week he started to wet himself again and I got cross with him (doesnt bother him). On wednesday he wet himself 5 times in 3 hours and soiled himself which he has NEVER done since he came out of nappies. He has wet himself 4 or 5 times per day since wednesday and soiled himself every day since then.
I have finally admitted defeat and put him in a nappy yesterday as we were going to a christening and I couldnt take enough clothes with me and I didnt want other kids laughing at him when he had an "accident". When we left the christening I knew he had soiled himself as i could smell it as soon as he came near me. When I asked him why he had done it he just looked atr me and asked me to change the nappy. He had obviously been dirty for a few hours as it was completely stuck to his skin.
He starts nursery in August and I have been told if he soils himself they will call me and I will have to go to nursery to clean him up. He will be there while im at work and I cant keep running to nursery to clean him up.
Im really at the end of my tether with this to the point that I was in tears talking to someone about it. OH says he should be put in nappies and treated like a baby, take away all his big boy toys. Being in a nappy doesnt bother him (yesterday for example). Nothing seems to get through to him. I have tried getting cross with him, praising him when he does go, giving treats and rewards for using the loo, taking toys away for not using it. When he soiled himself on wednesday sfter 5 wet pairs of pants I just sat down and started crying. He said sorry then went off to play. NOTHING seems to work with him.
Any advice is welcome. There have been no changes in his life since we moved in February, he doesnt have an infection (tested last week) and I dont think he is too young to be trained. There are no medical issues that would explain this and it has reached the point that I just cant deal with this anymore:cry:. I am now so stressed with it all that all I want to do is hide away ignore the problem and eat rubbish. I feel terrible:sigh:
My son is 3yrs 5mths and has been potty trained for 8 months ( he was 2yrs 8mths when we did this). He was clean and dry within 2 weeks with the very odd accident then he got ill at xmas & the medication he had to take was so vile I had to hide it in hot chocolate (warm for him) to disguise the taste. I buy highlights so that is what we used. Around this time he started to wet himself again approx 10 weeks after being trained. I put it down to him being ill.
After having 7 months off work to be at home with him I started a new job in January (im a nanny and he comes to work with me). When the wet pants continued I put it down to me going back to work. We also sold our house in January and moved house in February. He seemed to take this in his stride but again, another viable reason for him wetting himself.
After 3 months of him wetting himself, not every day we would have dry days and even dry weeks, I dot the dr to do a urine test which came back clear and I was told he was very young to be trained for a boy ( he was 3yrs 2mths by that point) and I should put him back in nappies. I disagreed and refused to put him back in nappies as I felt that if he could have a whole week with no accidents then he was probably just being lazy.
When we had a long weekend away with a friend she pointed out that the hot chocolate which he was drinking twice per day has aspartme in it ( he has to have special milk formula as he had allergies and couldnt drink cows milk and refuses soy milk and to make sure he has enough calcium he has to have 2 large cups per day and it reached the point he would only drink it as hot chocolate). Aspartme is a bladder irritant. We changed the hot chocolate immediately and stopped everything that contains sweetners and within 3 days he was completely dry again.
That lasted 2 weeks and 3 days. Last week he started to wet himself again and I got cross with him (doesnt bother him). On wednesday he wet himself 5 times in 3 hours and soiled himself which he has NEVER done since he came out of nappies. He has wet himself 4 or 5 times per day since wednesday and soiled himself every day since then.
I have finally admitted defeat and put him in a nappy yesterday as we were going to a christening and I couldnt take enough clothes with me and I didnt want other kids laughing at him when he had an "accident". When we left the christening I knew he had soiled himself as i could smell it as soon as he came near me. When I asked him why he had done it he just looked atr me and asked me to change the nappy. He had obviously been dirty for a few hours as it was completely stuck to his skin.
He starts nursery in August and I have been told if he soils himself they will call me and I will have to go to nursery to clean him up. He will be there while im at work and I cant keep running to nursery to clean him up.
Im really at the end of my tether with this to the point that I was in tears talking to someone about it. OH says he should be put in nappies and treated like a baby, take away all his big boy toys. Being in a nappy doesnt bother him (yesterday for example). Nothing seems to get through to him. I have tried getting cross with him, praising him when he does go, giving treats and rewards for using the loo, taking toys away for not using it. When he soiled himself on wednesday sfter 5 wet pairs of pants I just sat down and started crying. He said sorry then went off to play. NOTHING seems to work with him.
Any advice is welcome. There have been no changes in his life since we moved in February, he doesnt have an infection (tested last week) and I dont think he is too young to be trained. There are no medical issues that would explain this and it has reached the point that I just cant deal with this anymore:cry:. I am now so stressed with it all that all I want to do is hide away ignore the problem and eat rubbish. I feel terrible:sigh:
