Don't know what to do

[futureyummymummy]

For the past few days especially today I've been eating, not just a little either a huge amount and I don't know what to do. I don't even know why I'm doing it, I feel so **** afterwards and so disappointed in myself.

Has anyone else been through this and how did you end the cycle/would you end the cycle any help would be hugely appreciated?

xXx

 

[bekimo]

Hiya hun, I've been through this very recently. I had to take on BL's wise words and give myself a talking to.
I just had to re-evaluate this whole thing. "do i really want to do this", "what is more important, that there biscuit or my health, longer life, new clothes etc..."

It sounds easier than it is. I know how you feel, but you just need to focus and everytime you reach for something, stop and ask why you want it. If your anything like me the answer will be "oh one bite won't hurt" or "I'll get back on it after this one thing". But the fact of the matter is that it never stops at that one bite. So isn't it best to not have it in the first place!?

Thought records help too. I don't know how to do the ones LL give us, so i just sit down and write what's going on in my head don't think about what I'm writing just do it, and then read it back.

I don't know if you're the same hun, but I really found that I got to a point where I began to get complacent and thoughts like, "i've done really well, i deserve a break/treat" seemed to creep in. I have well and truly kicked that in the head.

Keep working at it honey and remember that it's never too late to start again!!

B x

 

[PurpleButterfly]

Have you been eating cos you've been hungry? Or just because you wanted to?

I know you recently started that exercise class and from my own experience, I get really hungry and tempted to eat in the subsequent days after exercise, even though I'm in full ketosis etc.

But I think you need to do some journalling or something and discover the real reason why you decided to lapse? Is it emotional eating or what? And if it is, then what was the actual trigger?

Most of all, believe in yourself that you CAN do this, even if you have to tell it to yourself in the mirror every day - that you're beautiful, fully in control of your weight and weight loss, and fully capable of sticking to the diet.

 

[daisydoll]

sorry to hear you are going througha bad patch - but is just a patch, you can get back on track.

Im sure there are loads of people who will give you lots of good advice - ive only just started so can't really help but just wanted to say You have done so well - i was looking at your pics the other day, and i know you haven't updated for a while but there is such a change. I always read your posts and you have inspired me so please, please don't beat yourself up about this.
tomorrow is another day
daisy x

 

[pete10141748]

first and foremost, don't beat yourself up about it; chances are, a bit part of the subsequent days eating stems from your feelings about the previous eating incident.

second, you really need to try and figure out what made you eat the first time. think back to that day; did anything out of the ordinary happen? anything at all?

thirdly, if you go to eat again, really really try and remember how you felt the last few times after you ate. don't just think about how you felt; picture is so vividly that you make yourself *feel* that way again, before you eat. hopefully you'll find that helps put you off eating.

fourth, others have said this before, but when you get closer to your goal, and are getting so many strokes from everyone, that it gets easy to feel comfortable with where you are, to 'reward' yourself for doing so well, and so on.


Most of all, remind yourself of why you are doing this.
All of the benifits you are going to see when you are done.

write yourself a letter, give yourself a 'talking to' in front of the mirror.... whatever works for you.



you CAN do this. you have been doing this, and you will get back to doing it again.

 

[Poppysparkle]

Sorry to hear you're going through a tough time FYM!! Can't add too much more to the wise ones who have already posted, but you've just had a big goal reached by going into overweight instead of obese in your BMI - is there any issues going on around that by any chance that might make you sabotage yourself??

 

[futureyummymummy]

Sorry to hear you're going through a tough time FYM!! Can't add too much more to the wise ones who have already posted, but you've just had a big goal reached by going into overweight instead of obese in your BMI - is there any issues going on around that by any chance that might make you sabotage yourself??

Think you might have hit the nail on the head there, not entirely sure why but I just feel weird about it all.

I was sooo happy to get there, I mean everyone saw my post but since then I just can't seem to stop eating, I so want to lose more but I feel a bit I dunno scared?

I really don't know how to put what I'm feeling into words.

Emma xXx

 

[Foxtrot]

Come on FYM!!! Climb back on again, you've done so well! Do what they all said, give yourself a talking to, make a few markers so you can see the triggers and move forward, one step at a time. We're all here!! :grouphugg:

 

[Thin_on_the_Inside]

Oh FYM. I know just how you're feeling. I too have been eating this week. Im blaming it on TOTM carb cravings which threw me off the wagon, they were so unexpected and strong and then once I'd caved I couldn't/didnt stop.

I made a concious decision that after my WI tonight I would draw a line under this week and give myself a fresh start. Im feeling ready to get stuck in and next month I will be better prepared for the cravings and will have a game plan in place for dealing with them.

I think Poppy has a good point about reachign 'overweight' being a trigger for you, maybe you just needed some breathing/eating space to adjust to your new status. Its a blip and you will get back on track, you've done so well and know that you have the strength of character to carry on to goal.

 

[Poppysparkle]

FYM, I posted about this too, I tend to sabotage when I'm doing really well, although I've not done this (or felt like doing it) on LL. But, if you have anything going on with self esteem, even in a tiny way, making you feel like you're not worth the success that you're acheiving, then this might be one reason. Can you think of any reasons why you might sabotage yourself and not let yourself become the person you were designed to be (quoted from LS a few nights ago and this made a huge impact on me as I realised I'm designed to not be overweight and therefore deserve to let myself be successful and not abuse myself by overeating). You and your little one deserve for you to be slim and healthy more than anything in the world.