Feeling miserable!!

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  1. Kaalin

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    Hiya. Nearly through my 15th week and my first week of developers...and REALLY struggling tonight.
    I'm training as a nurse and we've had a really stressful time lately with many assignments. Two are due in on Monday and one Friday. Just found out the class are planning to go out and celebrate straight from college after the last assignment (next Friday) and have a damn good night out. Normally I'm not bothered, but right now I'm wishing I could go and take part. I have found it too difficult to go out and not drink so far, but other than that have been extremely positive and have not strayed at all! What is wrong with me?
    I'm going on holiday in 2 weeks and have planned on having just a protein dinner in addition to my shakes. But now I'm starting to think I would like to start RTM early, but at the same time I don't as I want to get down further. I just can't understand it, it's like I've lost the plot!! Any words of wisdom greatly received xx
     
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  3. flirty40greeneyes

    flirty40greeneyes Busy busy busy!!

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    No real words of wisdom - but (((hugs))) as we all feel like this at some time or other.

    Where are you off to on holiday??? Try focussing on that with lots of travel brochure piccys stuck in your kitchen and hang your bikini or an outfit you want to get into in your bedroom so you see it every morning and night.
     
  4. Blonde Logic

    Blonde Logic Yes. You can.

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    Hi Kaalin

    We see this often when foundation ends and development begins. FOr many I think its a "false finish" in that they have COMPLETED 100 days, which is the initial focus. I think the work COMPLETED is what triggers feelings of restlesness - you think you are done. Then realising there may be weeks still to go, it can be unsettling.

    I would reccomend not viewing the diet as two sections - foundation and development. I never looked at it that was as I knew I had many mnay more days then 100 to go!!

    Maybe you can spend some time quietly, refocusing your goals, and your acheivement so far, and where you want to go, and when you will be satisfied and considering yourself done. Its just a matter of getting your thoughts back on track, and accepting your not done. Yet.

    Its to bad you struggle with the drinks ona night out. I am very very lucky in that manner - I do not drink. So I quite enjoy, and always have, being the sober one. Its quite a laugh to watch those around you get drunk and do things they will regret hearing about the next day when you have the clarity of mind to tell them all the gory details, blow by blow!! :D

    Good luck hon.....don't be discouraged - you are doing so so well!!!

    XXX
     
  5. Kaalin

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    Thanks for your replies, I think that is so true! Last week when I started developers, LLC said to refocus on goals and that and at the time I didn't have a problem. I know what weight I want to take my goal at, but I've found some people are starting to make remarks like I'm obsessive and it's ridiculous to want to lose more! My mum is the worst culprit. She had an eating disorder and I don't think it's ever completely gone away, she keeps reminding me, "that's how it starts" and keeps going off on one saying that I'm heading down that road...
    Years ago I lost weight (not this much!) and got to a really nice weight that was only just within my healthy weight range. I reminded her that I'm still almost 2 stone over what I was then when everyone said how great I looked. I don't really want to get down that much as it was a struggle to maintain and to be honest I was miserable so I'm fairly sensible this time and nowhere near as obsessed as I was then! I think it's these saboteurs playing with my mind. Even my husband said how well I've done and they'd be no crime in going down the sensible eating road now. These previously supportive people seem to have thought it's the 100 days and that's it!
    I wish I could go out and not drink, I just find everyone very annoying when I'm sober and they're not. I'm usually the one that makes everyone laugh with a few drinks inside me and I feel like I've lost my personality a bit at the moment. Hoping I'm not going to be thin and miserable like I was last time!!
    Hope you have a lovely Saturday everyone xxx
    PS: I'm off to Crete Flirty40greeneyes
     
  6. Blonde Logic

    Blonde Logic Yes. You can.

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    Don't let those folk muddle up your thought of where you want to be at goal. Its ALL down toyou - no one else, and sometimes its necessary to remind them of that - gently or not.

    I had a women at work this week make comment. It was the first "air sucking through teeth" moment. She said "oh no....no, you don't want to lose 2 more stone?? C ertainly not. <air sucking> oooooh, I don't know Jan - ..."

    At which point I interupted her and said, "Well, actually - the diet is done when I (great emphasis on "I") am happy...no one else" and she started to go again, and I interrupted her, and with even more emphasis repeated wrd for word what I had said. She got the message.

    She has gone up and down on WW for the 5 years I have worked here. SHe ain't bringin me on the see-saw with her!!

    Its never the slim ones that tell you to stop - its always the heavier ones - so that should put a red flag up.

    Its noones business but ours.

    You carry on as you see fit, and do what you need to do to get through it. Sorryyour mum had a disorder, but that was her prob - don't let her try and influence you one way r another, but remember her doing so is only done out of love and concern for you. But yeah - its all your call baby!

    :)
     
  7. MinnieMel

    MinnieMel Why Be Normal?

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    Hey Kaalin,

    I have been reading the research and the people who are most successful at keeping the weight off are those who go through the management program -- once they have reached their goal weight.

    Without the gradual return to eating and THIS TIME making heathly choices and developing good habits -- such as realistic portion sizes, etc. and developing regular exercise routines -- we all will revert to our old ways and, thus, we gain the weight back -- because that is how we gained it inthe first place.

    We have to change a lot about our lives to have better ones -- healthier and longer and more productive ones! Try to keep your eye on the prize -- you have accomplished so much and proven that you can do it... so, keep on keeping on. :party0011:

    MinnieMel
     
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    Thanks ladies, think i'm back on track again now. I think it's natural to have the wobblyness and internal chatterbox really - trying to picture that goal!!! :)
     
  9. Blonde Logic

    Blonde Logic Yes. You can.

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    WEll done Kaalin - glad you are on track and feeling good. I agree - I think that inner chatterbox may be with us for a long long time - so we just need to learn how to speak louder and with mor conviction then it does. It will be trial and error for some time I reckon - important thig is that we learn from each wobble, and use the tools the next time we feel wobbly. Best we can. We'll get it! WIth a little practice, we can perfect it! :)
     
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    Thanks again for your postiveness BL. You've been a massive help these last few days. I'm just back from my meeting and do feel even better about things even despite only losing 1.5lbs!! Shame it wasn't more, think that would have boost me up all the more! Anyway, onward and upward! xx
     
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