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Roch
Minimins gal x
Thank u all so much for all you support i really appreciate it big time i was feeling so down and ended up getting myself in a right state and crying.
Anyway i decided to call back my uncle last night and tell him that i have decided to cancel my app and not go ahead with the op now and he asked me why and i told him that i felt guilty for adding more debt to the financial problems he already has and if he could not meet the payments for what ever reason i would feel responsible and i could not cope with that. He said that if i dont have this op now and something happened to me then he would not be able to cope,but i did this to myself i ate and caused myself to weigh 29 stone its completely different, well to cut a very long story short, so i dont bore u all he said adding the extra 10 grand or so to his debts will not make a difference and he is only financially strapped for the moment as he is waiting for the probate to come through on his uncles will then he will be ok financially.
This convo with him was for about 2 hours and he eventually said to me that if i want to i can pay back half the amount to him or a charity starting in a years time when i have lost enough weight to start working again and i can pay back 500 pounds a year.
I aggreed with him and thanked him big time.
So thats the end of my dilema roll on wednesday Mr Hashemi here i come.
Anyway i decided to call back my uncle last night and tell him that i have decided to cancel my app and not go ahead with the op now and he asked me why and i told him that i felt guilty for adding more debt to the financial problems he already has and if he could not meet the payments for what ever reason i would feel responsible and i could not cope with that. He said that if i dont have this op now and something happened to me then he would not be able to cope,but i did this to myself i ate and caused myself to weigh 29 stone its completely different, well to cut a very long story short, so i dont bore u all he said adding the extra 10 grand or so to his debts will not make a difference and he is only financially strapped for the moment as he is waiting for the probate to come through on his uncles will then he will be ok financially.
This convo with him was for about 2 hours and he eventually said to me that if i want to i can pay back half the amount to him or a charity starting in a years time when i have lost enough weight to start working again and i can pay back 500 pounds a year.
I aggreed with him and thanked him big time.
So thats the end of my dilema roll on wednesday Mr Hashemi here i come.
Summerskye
Gold Member
Good luck on Wednesday, Roch. Thinking of you xxxxxxxxx
FatFairNForty(ish)
Gold Member
Hi Roch
Sorry for not being around that much of late. Only on here very briefly as it is!
Glad to see you are going ahead with this and hope the appointment goes really well.
Stay upbeat, keep the goal in mind hon and you'll be fine. xx
Sorry for not being around that much of late. Only on here very briefly as it is!
Glad to see you are going ahead with this and hope the appointment goes really well.
Stay upbeat, keep the goal in mind hon and you'll be fine. xx
pandora
finding my way again !
hi hun,
what i dilema, but imo i think i agree with the others about going ahead. Your uncle sounds as though he's thought this thru quite comprehensively & fully understands both his side of things & the need for you to have this done.
good luck for Weds & let us know how things progress
xx
what i dilema, but imo i think i agree with the others about going ahead. Your uncle sounds as though he's thought this thru quite comprehensively & fully understands both his side of things & the need for you to have this done.
good luck for Weds & let us know how things progress
xx
MadamDotty
Back again!
that's really good news Roch, so glad you're going ahead with your op. Your uncle sounds an absolute gem, who really cares about you, it's so lovely that you've got him on your side.
All the best for Wednesday, let us know how you get on.
xx
All the best for Wednesday, let us know how you get on.
xx
soulsister
Silver Member
Hi Roch,
I'm so glad it's all sorted, I know how much this op means to you.
Will speak to you on Wednesday (I'm sure it's someone's birthday this week....just can't think who it is !?!? :giggle: :giggle:
I'm so glad it's all sorted, I know how much this op means to you.
Will speak to you on Wednesday (I'm sure it's someone's birthday this week....just can't think who it is !?!? :giggle: :giggle:
soulsister
Silver Member
just in case I don't get to call you today......
FatFairNForty(ish)
Gold Member
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU
HAPPY BIRTHDAY DEAR ROOOOOO_OOOOCH
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOU!
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HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU
HAPPY BIRTHDAY DEAR ROOOOOO_OOOOCH
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOU!
:clap: :clap: :clap: :clap:
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Roch
Minimins gal x
Thanks 2 all of u who have offered me so much support and kind words.
Sorry have not been online 2 respond 2 u but am finding it kind of hard at the moment.
I have decided to go ahead with plannning for my op and i have my app today with the consultant.
I have decided to go ahead with my op and not feel guilty about it.
I know this might sound selfish but i have to concentrate on myself and Aaron otherwise it might be me in a hospital bed this time next year or earlier and my chances to live will be gone and things will be well and truly out of my hand.
Well as for my birthday i am not really doing anything at all just a normal day for me, sciatica is chronic today and have really dosed myself up today as i have to drive up to the west end to see the consultant.
Anyway off to lie back down as it hurts to sit at the pc, thanks again to all of u, take care xx
Sorry have not been online 2 respond 2 u but am finding it kind of hard at the moment.
I have decided to go ahead with plannning for my op and i have my app today with the consultant.
I have decided to go ahead with my op and not feel guilty about it.
I know this might sound selfish but i have to concentrate on myself and Aaron otherwise it might be me in a hospital bed this time next year or earlier and my chances to live will be gone and things will be well and truly out of my hand.
Well as for my birthday i am not really doing anything at all just a normal day for me, sciatica is chronic today and have really dosed myself up today as i have to drive up to the west end to see the consultant.
Anyway off to lie back down as it hurts to sit at the pc, thanks again to all of u, take care xx
Roch
Minimins gal x
Oh Roch,
so pleased to read your latest post... Thats a great idea of his...
good luck for wednesday, be sure to let us know how you get on
hi hun,
what i dilema, but imo i think i agree with the others about going ahead. Your uncle sounds as though he's thought this thru quite comprehensively & fully understands both his side of things & the need for you to have this done.
good luck for Weds & let us know how things progress
xx
Morning,thank u all so much for all ur posts, sorry i cant respond individually as i can barely manage to sit here at the pc:cry: :cry: as my sciatica has been so bad for the past 48 hrs and the i had to drive for about 3 hrs yesterday all in all and my legs and ankles are so swollen:cry: :cry:
Anyway Mr H my consultant was such a lovely man made me feel so comfortable and i felt the right vibes with him.
He was absolutely horrified to find out that i had a gastric balloon 8 yrs ago and never had it removed and said i must of been one of the first peeps to have the surgery done as it was a new op 8 yrs ago.
He also said that he was shocked that my gp had not referred me to a specialist to get checked up for breast cancer and said he is going to talk to me another time about going to see a specialist unit and partake in gene study tests to see if i have the unfortunate genes to have breast cancer becuase of my family history.
He aggreed a bypass was right for me and asked me how come i did not go along the nhs funding route as over 90% of his patients manage to get funding from their local pct, he then asked me which borough i live in and i told him Enfield nand he said that he is still fighting with them for a few clients to get funding as they r not an easy pct to grant funding for weight loss surgery.
He then said to me that i have to have an xray to see if the balloon is still there in my belly and if so i will have to go on his endosocopy nhs list and have it removed which would take around 5 weeks then wait 2 weeks for my tumy to heal then have my op, well i felt gutted big time, so off i went for my xray at around 7.30 pm, lucky it was a private hopsital as they had really top notch equipment as i have been told b4 because of my size it might be difficult for a xray machine at my local hospital to see if the balloon was there, but at the wellington the subject was not even bought up.
So i had my first xray and i said to the radiographer can u see anything yet she said no but will do another xray bit higher up and then she said she can see the balloon but i should wait to see the consultant to be double sure, i said to her pls can u tell me its my birthday and i am dersperate to have the op and the consultant has gone home plssss can u tell me and she then took it to her boss and after around 10 mins they said there is def no gastric balloon there, god knows where it has dissapeared to as they said it is made of sillicone so it cant really rot but mine has gone
so no endoscopy for me So to cut a very long story short my surgery is booked for the 8th may
and i start my pre op diet on friday which is a liver shrinkage diet its atkins diet and i have to follow it to the letter as if my liver has not shrunk enough then they wont operate also protein helps u recover after major surgery.Well i am shattered and although excited am in alot of pain with my sciatica and could not sleep get 2 b4 3 am as i had so much going on in my head, so many emotions, am off back to bed after aaron leaves for school, just wanted to come online and post.
Thanks 2 all of u for soooo much support and although i have not been posting much recently as i have been having hard time phyisically and emotionally u have not forgotten me and thank u so much for that.
Take care xxxxxxx
Roch
Minimins gal x
morning hun,
i'm so really pleased for you that a) you don't have to have an endoscopy & b) you have a date for your op.
i will be in Egypt on the 8th but i will be thinking of you & sending some +ve :vibes: your way
xx
Thanks hun u have shown me so much support and i r such a sweetie. Wow u r going to Egypt hope u have a wicked time hun, take care xx
AmandaJayne
Trainee Maintainer
I am excited and anxious for you Roch. I feel enormous sympathy too for your terrible back pain. It is SO debilitating. Try and rest as much as possible (!) yes, I know it just isn't feasible most of the time!
Can you imagine how you will be feeling one year from today? How much weight you have lost, how your other aches and pains will have reduced. How you will be busy planning for your brighter future at last....
Can you imagine how you will be feeling one year from today? How much weight you have lost, how your other aches and pains will have reduced. How you will be busy planning for your brighter future at last....
