Newbie - What to do??

[Pink Robin]

Hi All

Well I have literally just joined this site after reading through some of the posts and becoming inspired to join what appears to be a great support group.

I am in desperate need of losing weight but cannot decide the best plan to follow. I am looking at either Slimming World or Atkins and would be grateful for your opinions, I have done both in the past and for various reasons fell off the wagon on both of them. I need to do something that is not going to break the bank either as I have a very tight budget to stick to. I do like slimming world but I find the classes all a bit happy clappy for me and all the ones I have joined are massive so by the time you have got through the clapping stages a couple of hours have gone past and you haven't learn anything. I did look at the online version but it's quite a bit of money in my opinion so suggestions please.

I would like to lose a minimum of 5 stone and I need to start sooner rather than later otherwise I will be still mulling things over months down the line.

So why now.... big wake up call really - I recently found out my husband was having a fling with someone he worked with, to say my world was turned upside down is a complete understatement because I feel that everything has been a lie, he has not left me (well he did the day I found out but came back the next) but things are strained, he has not returned to work - that was a stipulation of mine as I couldn't bear him to still be seeing her (hence the tight budget) but he is distant and I have no idea how he feels about me, he says he still loves me but his actions do not say the same unless I'm missing something, so I am very up and down at the moment.

I am convinced the fact that I have put so much weight on since we got together has not helped matters and feel that he is not attacted to me anymore so I want to lose the weight, I want to be clear that I do not want to do this to please him NO, this is me taking back control. I want to feel better in myself, I want to improve my self confidence because right now it is rock bottom and tbh if it all goes tits up I want to feel that I am confident enough to "get back out there" at least to have a laugh with the girls if nothing more. It may be that its the wrong time to commit to a diet but I am thinking that I need to take control of my life, I want to be proud of me, I want to become strong, happy and confident in the skin I am in but have no idea how or where to start.

So guys & girls if anyone can offer any advice to get my butt in gear I would really appreciated it.

Thanks x

 

[lyndsey159]

WOW.... Major changes in your life?!?!?

I dont really know what to suggest diet wise. I follow slimming world but also find the meetings a bit too happy clappy, so i'm trying to go it alone. Since you are on a tight budget, you can pick up some of the SW books on ebay and at least that would only be a one off cost......

Good Luck
Lyndsey x

 

[honeybun55]

Hello,
I am so sorry to hear about your problems, I really hope that things work out for you, and I can really empathise with your lack of confidence when the bottom has dropped out of your world, from personal experience. I think it is a good time to commit to a diet, for all the reasons you have said, to take back control, to feel good about yourself.

I have done just about every diet going, most on more than one occasion, and have come to the conclusion that Slimming World is the easiest plan to follow in terms of flexibility and being able to eat unlimited quantities of healthy food so you don't feel hungry. It's also easier to socialise and eat out on this diet. I lost 5 stone on Cambridge and found that diet suited me, but it was a nightmare if you got invited anywhere, and difficult to stick to if you cook for other people. My partner who is built like a stick insect really enjoys the SW meals, as most recipes can be adapted with low fat/calorie options. I do agree with your comments about the classes and if you can go it alone that's great; personally I've tried to do that as I have all the books etc. but just haven't been able to stick to it so have rejoined going to group. There are lots of nice recipes on the SW website and if you are going it alone I find it helps to keep a food diary.

I really do wish you all the best. I have only joined the forum today, but I'm sure it will help to come on here to keep the motivation going.

Love Nicky x

 

[IreneH]

Have you decided yet? A SW class might be good for you.

Good luck.

Irene xx