This is a bit of a long story so bear with me pls...
I have been asked to be Matron of Honour for my hubby's brothers wedding. There are 3 other bridesmaids - all perfect size 10. I am not a perfect size anything - I am 14 bottom and 16/18 top with size 34JJ boobs. As you can imagine finding dresses is pretty difficult as they never fit all over and the syles I can physically fit in are limited because of my boobs.
So tonight I get a text from the bride to be saying that she has chosen the dress for us and has 'ordered' me to go on 9th May to try it on. She has had to pay to order the sample dress in to the shop and this is the only chance they can be tried on. I imagine she has ordered the dress in a size 10 as all the other BM's are that size.
The dress she likes won't suit me because I am not a perfect size 10 and have big boobs - I can not wear empire style dresses because my boobs don't fit in the bust section. I won't be able to try on the sample because I won't get it over my backside.
Am I wrong for being annoyed that she has chosen our dress w/o any consultation? I didn't do this for my BM I let her choose a dress that she liked and that suited her. I obviously expect to be told colour and the designer range but surely I should have a say in the style. I cannot wear the same things as the other girls. The bride is a perfect size 8 so just doesn't understand about not being 'perfect'.
My hubby thinks I am being unreasonable but then his family can do no wrong in his eyes.
I just want to cry because I am going to look dreadful and have low enough confidence / self esteem as it is w/o wearing something thats looks stupid on me. :cry:
I'm thinking of resigning (before I'm sacked for non-compliance!).
Just wanted some opinions before I talk to her.
Thx
I have been asked to be Matron of Honour for my hubby's brothers wedding. There are 3 other bridesmaids - all perfect size 10. I am not a perfect size anything - I am 14 bottom and 16/18 top with size 34JJ boobs. As you can imagine finding dresses is pretty difficult as they never fit all over and the syles I can physically fit in are limited because of my boobs.
So tonight I get a text from the bride to be saying that she has chosen the dress for us and has 'ordered' me to go on 9th May to try it on. She has had to pay to order the sample dress in to the shop and this is the only chance they can be tried on. I imagine she has ordered the dress in a size 10 as all the other BM's are that size.
The dress she likes won't suit me because I am not a perfect size 10 and have big boobs - I can not wear empire style dresses because my boobs don't fit in the bust section. I won't be able to try on the sample because I won't get it over my backside.
Am I wrong for being annoyed that she has chosen our dress w/o any consultation? I didn't do this for my BM I let her choose a dress that she liked and that suited her. I obviously expect to be told colour and the designer range but surely I should have a say in the style. I cannot wear the same things as the other girls. The bride is a perfect size 8 so just doesn't understand about not being 'perfect'.
My hubby thinks I am being unreasonable but then his family can do no wrong in his eyes.
I just want to cry because I am going to look dreadful and have low enough confidence / self esteem as it is w/o wearing something thats looks stupid on me. :cry:
I'm thinking of resigning (before I'm sacked for non-compliance!).
Just wanted some opinions before I talk to her.
Thx