OH wants me to quit CD :-(

[Charlie Woo Woo]

Hi ladies and gents,
Ive had a really crap couple of days, not on CD side.. im really focused on diet and not tempted by food but I am aware that ive been really moody and quiet and snappy over the last week. The last few days ive been horrible to my boyfriend and kids and this morning my boyfriend said its because of the diet and he wants me to stop it straight away. He said he'd rather me be fat and happy... he didnt mean that in an insulting way but that upset me. I said I dont want to be fat and I dont want to stop the diet as ive lost 18lbs in 2 weeks and on what other diet do you get them results??? If I was really struggling to stick to SS then that would make me consider eating BUT, like I said, im focused and am finding SS no problem. Can anyone advise me on if my moods will improve or anything I can do or take to stop me snapping and being so miserable? Please?
I dont want to snap at my kids... thats not me amd I dont want to fall out with my boyfriend as he has been great since I started the CD. BUT i cant stay in a mood. Feeling a bit sorry for myself mentally.... x

 

[LV30]

Oh. Well, can I just say that i've been mega moody as well - and when i was out having tea (i'm SS+) I was in a good mood (because I was eating), my OH said I've been horrible to live with this weekend too. I think it's because it was Easter, TOTM (i'm a moody cow then anyway - so you can just imagine how evil i was this weekend), and just generally feeling fed up.

It's hard to know what to say - but definitely don't give up! You've either got to make a real effort not to be moody (in front of him) or he just has to accept you the way you are for a few weeks/months. It's alright for him to say he'd rather you fat and happy - but can't he see the bigger picture? There are so many reasons why i want to lose weight - i'm not getting any younger (41 this year!) and i don't want to have achey joints and to find it difficult to walk up the stairs. Would he like you fat, happy and not being able to walk very far? Great.

We all have to put up with our OH's little habits that probably bug the hell out of us - but we live with it - because we love them.

It's hard to say what you can do to change your mood - it's very difficult doing CD, but maybe pretending you are not in a mood - pretend to be happy even tho you would cheerfully kill someone?!

He'll have to put up with a moody poody you for a little while - for the sake of YOUR health and wellbeing.

I want to say selfish sod - but i wont. Oh i just did. Ooops.

All the best lovely, and come on here and be moody with us other moody cows.

Lx

 

[Charlie Woo Woo]

Thank you,
thays true, he is being a bit selfish. I decides yesterday to just keep myself to myself so I didnt snap and he even moaned about me being quiet and staying out of the way.
I may try SS+ BUT I really dont want to if I am coping on SS physically.
Maybe your right about it just being easter and it was also my time of month.
Your right.. its not forever and he has to think of the end result, like im doing. Healthier, thinner = happier. I plan on doing SS for another 6 weeks then working up the plans so surely we can cope with this and surely I wont feel like this every day!
Kids being on holiday doesnt help either so when im back at work and they are back at school harmony should be more balanced x

 

[lumpyandbumpy]

i think the problem is that this sort of diet brings out the best and the worst in people, plus the fact that others who would never conside a VCAL diet or dont need to do one like my OH dont really understand how difficult it is. they just assume that coz you're getting good losses every week that you're 100% happy but they dont necessarily see the daily effect that cutting out food has!

for me the worst is being grumpy about not having food now and again and having mood swings and the best is the determination and willpower i have to follow CD through. my OH mentioned the other night that sometimes i make him feel guilty about eating, this is not my intention at all but sometimes when he's tucking into a chinese or indian (all the lovely really unhealthy too i might add!) then sometimes i'll joke about saying 'there's nice for you' or i'll put on a sad face but its not coz i'm trying to make him feel guilty i'm just trying to make light of the situation i'm in with SS! Before i started SS, i would have had the takeaways with him every week so all i'm doing is just dreaming of being able to have a nice treat in moderation. that will come in time but until then its SS all the way for me and i'm sure for you this is just a little mood swing that'll pass. once you get into the diet more in becomes routine so perhaps the mood swings wotn be as noticeable as SS will be the norm for you and you wont have to think about it so much! x

 

[LV30]

Exactly. If you are out of your normal routine, it does get more difficult. I even find the weekends hard because i'm not in work. And i don't have kids to feed and tempt me with their leftovers.

You'll need to tell him that you aren't going to give up - you need to see this through. You don't want to quit and then regret it. Men like having something to moan about, and you can't ever satisfy them!! If he was wise, he'd keep out of your way... lol

If you are coping quite well on SS, just keep on going. I always cheer myself up by looking at how much weight i'm losing... oh it makes me have a lovely warm glow... relish it - enjoy it - i'm smiling to myself just thinking about it now!! lol A whole 17lbs... i'm good. CD is good...

Look - whatever diet i'm on, i'm in a bad mood - i never used to be happy with a 1.5lb loss with WW... week in week out i'd come out of that class rather dejected because i'd try SO hard ALL week and all i'd have to show for it was a 1.5lb loss. Hideous.

When i leave my Consultant's house after WI- i'm absolutely bouncing because i've just lost another 4lbs... lol or whatever it is!! It's fab!!

Come on - be happy and moody with us. We can share the good and the bad times!! lol

Lx

 

[nicci79]

I have found that i have been moody, i snaped at my oh because i got up and made dinner yesterday morning when i came home he cooked a pizza instead of eating the dinner i cooked for him i was really miffed! but he said he didnt know if it was his as it was a smaller portion (i.e big enough for him lol) i am a childminder so i let him off,but i couldn't help having a rant. i think the the best thing is keeping yourself occupied! take the kids out even if it is raining they love that. when oh comes in go run yourself a nice big deep bubble bath and go read a book while having a soak (i might do that lol) and if you really need to grab a cushion and have a scream into that.

I know it it tough i remember from the last time i did it, but your oh really needs to bare the brunt for a while lol its not for ever and we always moan at the kids sometime or another. Do they know what you are doing? and why you are drinking shakes? only 4 days left until normal routine begins, Say to oh you want to see how things go when the kids return and if there is no change then maybe think about doing ss+. does any of this make sence lol. xxx good luck xxx

 

[AnnieAnnie]

I find I'm in a vile mood for first few weeks then loads better once it becomes routine & you feel less deprived. In fact, my bf said how much happier I seemed as before I never wanted to socialise etc. However, I'm a chronic binge eater so this diet gives me a release from that & gives me some sanity where I don't have internal half hour debates about eating a biscuit. I'd say stick with it, you'll only be resentful of him if you give in.

 

[Charlie Woo Woo]

This forum and the support network on here is fantastic. I feel more determined to stick at this and ive told him, politely, that im seeing it thru for the 6 more weeks I plan to do SS and asked for his support in the 'mood' side of the diet.
I dont know whats putting me in a grump - im coping without food and will happily cook or make food for the family. I havent got much energy tho and the kids are hardwork right now so thats making me snappy. They dont understand tho bless them so this is what I feel more guilty about.
Just a bad day... it'll pass and tomorrow i'll probably be bouncing off the walls .
Thanks...your replys an advice is greatly appreciated x

 

[Charlie Woo Woo]

I have found that i have been moody, i snaped at my oh because i got up and made dinner yesterday morning when i came home he cooked a pizza instead of eating the dinner i cooked for him i was really miffed! but he said he didnt know if it was his as it was a smaller portion (i.e big enough for him lol) i am a childminder so i let him off,but i couldn't help having a rant. i think the the best thing is keeping yourself occupied! take the kids out even if it is raining they love that. when oh comes in go run yourself a nice big deep bubble bath and go read a book while having a soak (i might do that lol) and if you really need to grab a cushion and have a scream into that.

I know it it tough i remember from the last time i did it, but your oh really needs to bare the brunt for a while lol its not for ever and we always moan at the kids sometime or another. Do they know what you are doing? and why you are drinking shakes? only 4 days left until normal routine begins, Say to oh you want to see how things go when the kids return and if there is no change then maybe think about doing ss+. does any of this make sence lol. xxx good luck xxx

Yes it does make sense and its a good idea to see how I feel next week when im
back to a normal routine. I did have a bath last night which helped and I layed with my daughter afterwards and stroked her hair and she feel asleep in my arms which made me melt .
I just need his support because I feel bad for doing it if I dont have it and if I think he doesnt understand. I usually have my 1st CD meal in the morning before work but this morning I didnt want to make it infront of him... how stupid is that!!!
My daughter is 3 so doesnt understand and my son (7) is really good and doesnt really ask about the diet as I explained it to him when I started and havent mentioned it since xx

 

[Charlie Woo Woo]

I find I'm in a vile mood for first few weeks then loads better once it becomes routine & you feel less deprived. In fact, my bf said how much happier I seemed as before I never wanted to socialise etc. However, I'm a chronic binge eater so this diet gives me a release from that & gives me some sanity where I don't have internal half hour debates about eating a biscuit. I'd say stick with it, you'll only be resentful of him if you give in.

Im going to stick with it and if he doesnt like it then tough titties lol, he'll be glad when ive got a body like holly willoughby lol... x

 

[supergran]

:-( no how you feel, I feel so grumpy and weak. Kids grown up but my poor puppy takes the brunt.

 

[Charlie Woo Woo]

:-( no how you feel, I feel so grumpy and weak. Kids grown up but my poor puppy takes the brunt.

Pupps are just as bad as kids arent they....
Im drinking lots of coffee for energy and going to take kids out soon to a indoor play area. Boyfriends at work so he's well out of the way. I'll plan to eat my choccy cranberry bar just before he gets home and see if that picks me up a bit.
The Easter Fair is in a local town tonight so we are taking the kids... well, Daddy can take kids if im feeling fiery lol... big crowds, pushing to get on rides, smell of hotdogs and burgers etc lol
and Mummy can relax in the bath x

 

[losemenow]

Why don't you up your plAn instead of quitting fullstop? Xx

 

[Charlie Woo Woo]

Why don't you up your plAn instead of quitting fullstop? Xx

I wouldnt quit... no way, I wont quit until I make the decision too. Im going to try ss+ this week to see if it helps and if it doesnt affect my loss to much but improves my moods then i'll do that instead

 

[supergran]

Pupps are just as bad as kids arent they....
Im drinking lots of coffee for energy and going to take kids out soon to a indoor play area. Boyfriends at work so he's well out of the way. I'll plan to eat my choccy cranberry bar just before he gets home and see if that picks me up a bit.
The Easter Fair is in a local town tonight so we are taking the kids... well, Daddy can take kids if im feeling fiery lol... big crowds, pushing to get on rides, smell of hotdogs and burgers etc lol
and Mummy can relax in the bath x

Nice one ';-)))

 

[flab fighter]

I would suggest giving SS+ a go. I love my little meal and leave it for dinner time, so I have a tetra for brekkie as late as I can, a crunchy bar for lunch, my SS+ meal at 5-7pm and a chewy bar at night (munchies time normally for me). I have lost 3 stone in 8 weeks. I find I lose more on SS+ than SS mainly because I am happy and cope with it. I have had to curb my coke zero (6 plus cans a day) as the caffine is not helping. Perhaps the coffee is a problem are you on decaf? I have discovered peppermint tea which is lovely. Good luck Jayne x

 

[Charlie Woo Woo]

Hi Jayne...
I had my first ss+ meal just now .
Had qourn chicken and veg and it was yummy. I'm going to try it until tue - next WI and see if I can loose atleast 3lbs doing this and if it improves my mood i'll continue with SS+
Thanks for the advice... still a but moody tho lol x

 

[LV30]

Well, glad you enjoyed your tea!

I love SS+ and being able to have an evening meal (and going out - Wetherspoons have a new menu and they do Chicken Skewers on salad leaves - I swap the piri piri sauce for balsamic dressing - omygod - it feels good to go out and feel normal and to eat like a normal person! lol).

Whatever gets you through your journey - just go for it. For me that's SS+!

Good luck!

Lx

 

[LV30]

ps. I'm still moody too... but eating alleviates my mood - for a little while!! lol

Lx