My husband is on CD, curretly weighs 17 and a half stone, but at the start weighed 21. He started in march, and I know it sounds like hes done ok, but he has yo-yo'd up and down in that time, his lowest was 16.4 a few weeks ago. As of 14th sept he promised me that this would be the last time and that he would stick to the diet - I even went on it with him as I had gained a little weight. He works away all week, and takes tetras with him, but there have been times when hes eaten and not told me, until its painfully obvious when he gets weighed - hes one of those terribly un lucky people who can gain almost a stone on a day of eating, even when not on CD, as am I, so there is no hiding it.
I know it sounds awful, and please dont judge me, but I am fed up of him being fat, and I am fed up of him messing around on this diet, if he had stuck to it, he would have been at goal by now. Yes, he was overweight when i met/married him, but so was I - I was 17 stone. 4 years ago, we agreed that enough was enough, he was almost 30 and we had to do something, so we embarked on a low cal diet. Trouble is, I lost half my bodyweight, he didnt.
Its been a bone of contention these past 4 years, and I dont know what to do. I really thought CD would be the best option for him, as hes in hotels all week, and says its hard to find healthy food.
I am so fed up of having no life, this year we have had to turn down countless invites to lunch ect, and seeing as we have moved into a new village, its not exactly made us popular (he could go and have a shake, but he would be unbearable afterwards, its not worth it, and hes by his own admission not capable of just having a small portion, he would eat and eat and eat again when he got home).
Our DS has started a new school, and one of the mothers hs invited us all over for sunday lunch this week, and I have accepted, if only for DS's sake, I dont want to make ourselves unopoular in another place, and you know what people are like about CD, they hardly understand.
DH has promised me he will only have one small plate of food, but I just dont believe him. I am dreading it.
How can I help him? I cant go on living with him like this, its driving me mad! DS has also started saying he wishes his daddy was thin like the other dads, and he was upset the other day as an older kid said his dad had boobs. that breaks my heart as the sole reason I lost all the weight I did was that I didnt want DS to be picked on for having a fat mum (as I was as a kid).
I know it sounds awful, and please dont judge me, but I am fed up of him being fat, and I am fed up of him messing around on this diet, if he had stuck to it, he would have been at goal by now. Yes, he was overweight when i met/married him, but so was I - I was 17 stone. 4 years ago, we agreed that enough was enough, he was almost 30 and we had to do something, so we embarked on a low cal diet. Trouble is, I lost half my bodyweight, he didnt.
Its been a bone of contention these past 4 years, and I dont know what to do. I really thought CD would be the best option for him, as hes in hotels all week, and says its hard to find healthy food.
I am so fed up of having no life, this year we have had to turn down countless invites to lunch ect, and seeing as we have moved into a new village, its not exactly made us popular (he could go and have a shake, but he would be unbearable afterwards, its not worth it, and hes by his own admission not capable of just having a small portion, he would eat and eat and eat again when he got home).
Our DS has started a new school, and one of the mothers hs invited us all over for sunday lunch this week, and I have accepted, if only for DS's sake, I dont want to make ourselves unopoular in another place, and you know what people are like about CD, they hardly understand.
DH has promised me he will only have one small plate of food, but I just dont believe him. I am dreading it.
How can I help him? I cant go on living with him like this, its driving me mad! DS has also started saying he wishes his daddy was thin like the other dads, and he was upset the other day as an older kid said his dad had boobs. that breaks my heart as the sole reason I lost all the weight I did was that I didnt want DS to be picked on for having a fat mum (as I was as a kid).