Hmm.. not quite
Okay, here's the deal; I'm in a very happy loved up relationship and have been with my bf for 2 years and been living together for 1. Over the last few months I have totally lost my s*x drive and can't seem to find it anywhere! It has happened in previous relationships when i've not been happy but this time I couldn't be happier and I don't want it to get to the point where it tears us apart! I over think it all too much and so get myself into a vicious circle of thinking that it's going to go wrong, then it does go wrong and then I think it'll get worse etc etc.
I'm not really sure which way to turn to get some help but not sure I can wait a year to see someone at Relate!
Hi there, I have had Relate counselling, & frankly I didnt think it was worth it. Not for the same issues as you but nevertheless... The counsellor was basically just a mediator between warring parties... I believe you can get much better than Relate. I have no experience in your predicament, but have heard/read that removing "IT" altogether from the equation is possibly the best way forward. Try lots & lots of the fo*ep*ay type stuff, for a good while, but absolutely no "IT". I guess its supposed to heighten the anticipation, which then eventually happens when you are both ready to do so. Whatever you do, very best of luck. x
I am exactley the same!!! I swear to god it is due to the pill im on (friends that are on the same have noticed also) its been about 3 years for me..and it makes me feel awful for him, but he never moans!! I think half the time people exagorate how often they do it..if you asked people to be honest i think you would be very surprised!!iv also heard the pill has a side affect of affecting your sex drive, and although i recently switched from depo injection to the pill, iv been like this for almost a year ( god, cant believe its been like this so long)
i really do feel for my OH, hes so wonderful and treats me like a princess, always trying to help me and make things better, i have nothing to complain about, but he does get frustrated about it somtimes which i can completly understand! and like you alwyn, i love my sleep! LOL
i actually find it painful now, as im so tense all the time, OH googled it and apparently when your relaxed and turned on, your pelvic muscle/bone (im not entirly sure what he said now) moves upwards and thsu makes it all easier, but when your not, it doesnt and can make it uncomfortable.
Its not his fault, and i honestly couldnt tell you why, and i really wish i could fix it, but i just dont know how! i just dont want sex.. much to his dissapointment! - poor lad lol .. its bizarre, were so young!
your not alone hun, and im always here to chat to if you need someone! - let me know if you do go ahead with the counselling, id love to know if it helps at all. x