randomgurl
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I've just spent a nice xmas with my family. I had to come of cd (not enough supplies to last over xmas - oops!) and I did end up slightly overindulging for the past few days, but back SS tomorrow! (Well, ater today!)
I haven't seen my family in a few months, so it was really nice to see them especially getting lots of nice comments about the weight loss!
However, while recently I've shrunk... my brothers really been putting it on. I brought him a sweater for x-mas.... he asked if I had the reciept as it was a wee bit small, I didn't have the heart to say it was already the biggest size.
I've also noticed the amount he's been eating recently... like even if he's just had seconds he'll go make himself a snack straight after...
I'm not sure if it would be appropriate to bring up his weight with him? In some ways I'm thinking to leave things, as it always embarrassed me the few times people did about mine. (It even does having lost some, knowing I still have quite a way to go). I also don't want to be one of these smug people that having lost a bit, think they know everything (again, especially as I still am far from slim myself!)
But.... another part of me is wondering if I should, knowing its easy to delude yourself your just 'naturally big' or that noone else is noticing quite how much your putting on. Maybe introduce him to CD, or places like minimins.... admit to him how much I've got out of it (I'm quite dismissive, possibly still not wanting to admit I was bordering on clinically obese and how I felt about it... though im sure people probably knew!)
So... the point of this rambling... before you started shrinking... if someone had sat you down and adviced you you needed to do some about it, would it have spurred you into action? Or been horrifying?
I think if he could get fitter it could do wonders to his confidence (he has a really bad self image and low confidence) ... but is it more of a personal thing, and a point people have to reach on their own?
Happy xmas everyone!
RG x
I haven't seen my family in a few months, so it was really nice to see them especially getting lots of nice comments about the weight loss!
However, while recently I've shrunk... my brothers really been putting it on. I brought him a sweater for x-mas.... he asked if I had the reciept as it was a wee bit small, I didn't have the heart to say it was already the biggest size.
I've also noticed the amount he's been eating recently... like even if he's just had seconds he'll go make himself a snack straight after...
I'm not sure if it would be appropriate to bring up his weight with him? In some ways I'm thinking to leave things, as it always embarrassed me the few times people did about mine. (It even does having lost some, knowing I still have quite a way to go). I also don't want to be one of these smug people that having lost a bit, think they know everything (again, especially as I still am far from slim myself!)
But.... another part of me is wondering if I should, knowing its easy to delude yourself your just 'naturally big' or that noone else is noticing quite how much your putting on. Maybe introduce him to CD, or places like minimins.... admit to him how much I've got out of it (I'm quite dismissive, possibly still not wanting to admit I was bordering on clinically obese and how I felt about it... though im sure people probably knew!)
So... the point of this rambling... before you started shrinking... if someone had sat you down and adviced you you needed to do some about it, would it have spurred you into action? Or been horrifying?
I think if he could get fitter it could do wonders to his confidence (he has a really bad self image and low confidence) ... but is it more of a personal thing, and a point people have to reach on their own?
Happy xmas everyone!
RG x