Why is it so quiet in here?.....

[Dunder Doodles]

Hi everyone,

It seems so quiet in this forum compared to others, such as Lipotrim for example...
Do you think the cost is part of the problem? I know a lot of people say Slim and Save is so much cheaper, and the packs are supposed to be really nice.
I know what I'm like, if I didn't have the weekly WI, plus the opportunity to meet the other people in my group each week, I would have caved in by now - just knowing other people are going through the same, seems to make it feel easier

Hope everyone is doing ok!

 

[Minerva]

Dunder you're doing so amazingly!! I'm very impressed with your losses

To be fair, those meetings and the weekly weigh in is exactly what kept me going the first time I did the VLCD. I NEEDED someone else to take control for me.

Subsequently I worked on the self-control and willpower elements on my own, so I find SnS works better for me. I don't find it difficult to stay "on the wagon". Even with food around me - I know what I want, I know I can get there, so this diet thing is easy.

The cost is a big issue, the packs on SnS are nicer and I do feel LL are very ... brainwashy in a way? It's also very much a luck of the draw with LLC's.

I do realise that it's a little hypocritical for me to say "I attended LL meetings, I've learned everything I needed" and still be obese (having obviously regained). I do see how it looks... but - in retrospect - LL didn't and couldn't possibly teach me everything, there was nothing in the manual about how to deal with extreme situations. I didn't regain weight because I went back to old habits, quite the contrary. I changed a lot of those old habits for good ones which my OH and I still keep 5 years later. I regained because I didn't know how to cope with panic attacks, stress and bereavement all at the same time. But, unfortunate as it is, it was a learning experience which I dealt with on my own...

Doing this SnS VLCD after going through all that is easy, as those coping strategies - no one can teach you, except yourself.


Either way, if you're feeling lonely - you are more than welcome to post on the other VLCD forums, after all - we're all going through the same things!

x

 

[Dunder Doodles]

Hi Minerva,

Thanks for your reply! I totally hear what you are saying, sometimes, life throws some really horrible things our way, and we have to cope whatever way we can :-(

I never judge anyone who's struggling with a weight issue, I know only too well the daily challenge we face and how it almost feels impossible to overcome the issue when it's all we've known for so long.

One day at a time, that's how I'm going about it this time.....

You're doing just GREAT too!

 

[Minerva]

Indeed... struggling with weight is such a lonely place to be. I mean, when we secret eat - are we secretly eating to hide it from others or from ourselves too? Probably a bit of both, because we don't want to admit to what we're feeling... being fat is also such a comfort zone, being unnoticed and ignored is sometimes a 'safe' place to be. I've been big all my life, so the first time I lost this weight - it was F***ING SCARY. I felt like an alien, my body wasn't my own and people were noticing me.

Hopefully, this second time it won't be such a shock.. I know what to expect and realise that my weight isn't ALL that I am. For some reason I got wrapped up in some idea that all I was - was my body, not ME in my heart and mind. Do you know what I mean?

I know you'll get there, you seem positive and learning things from group. One day at a time, one foot in front of the other... before you know it, you'll be at the finish line.

x