Oh Loulou,,,sorry to hear about you struggling..I am only on Day 2 of refeed and it is all so new to me that I am finding it ok at the minute!!!!
What Jan has said is absolutely brilliant and hope it helps.
I re-red my refeed notes....not sure if you got any, but this really hit home to me...might help you too and to make you realise that this happens!
What is harder to deal with is the fact that you are still a fat person, but only you know it. The world sees you as a thin person. When you were actually fat, people could see part of your problem. Now you are a normal weight and others may not understand your special needs. When you rejected their hospitality or other offerings of love or bribery through food, during your diet, the reasons were more easily explainable. Rejecting these offerings as a thin person is often misinterpreted as a rejection of the person making the offering. They may not take to it easily.
You have to learn to deal with these situations. A fat person is expected to do something about eating behaviour. You, however, no longer appear to be a fat person and, therefore, many people will go out of their way to try to break down your food control defences. Some of these people will be people you care about. How do you go about rejecting love and a friendship on a plate?
Hope this helps......it kinda hit home to me as it is always the "going out" that gets me into trouble...unfortunately, in our life, food is used for everything!!! But to us, with food issues, this becomes very stressful.
I think it is good you have come on and asked for help......apparently people who cotinue to seek advice etc.....are more able to maintain their weight...so you are one step closer.
Hope you are ok...Take care