Avoiding people !!!

[Fatladyslim]

Well since I put weight on during pregnancy (4st heavier at mo) I HATE seeing people that haven't seen me since I put it all on.

We've been invited to a wedding reception tomorrow evening and I really don't want to go, I don't know the happy couple (partner does) but i know a couple of his friends that are going and they've not seen me since I was 6 month pregnant.

the thought of going makes me want to cry, I've nothing to wear, I know I'll just be sitting there feeling BIG FAT AND MISERABLE and accusing partner of eyeing all the thin women up,

my partner doesn't understand how I feel he just thinks I'm being silly, I know most people couldn't care less how much I weigh BUT I DO and it's really getting me down, I just feel awful about myself and disgusted that I undid all my hard work(was 7lb from target before)

so do I go and feel miserable or stay at home and feel miserable ??

 

[chiefbridesmaid]

Ok so you could stay at home and be miserable OR you could find something nice that you feel comfortable in and get dressed up and enjoy a night out, you had a baby, so it's going to take a little bit of time to get back to where you were before you became pregnant.
Go have some fun and use it as a motivating factor that the next time you will see these people you will wow them with your weight loss, and more importantly your self confidence and happiness with yourself go for it and you know if your not having fun then make your excuses and sneak away early

 

[*EB*]

Please go and enjoy yourself.....

I was close to target for my wedding (just under 13st....target was 12ish!) and i gained 5 stone with my pregnancy getting close to 18st when I gave birth. My little one is 9 months old now and i am getting close to 14st again - just over a stone left to go.

Beauty is within.

Xxx

 

[Fatladyslim]

Thanks guys

my little one is 13 months now so I'm thinking that I should have knuckled down and lost it already but just can't seem to motivate myself to stick to it 100%

ellebear you're doing really well x

 

[Fatladyslim]

Been looking at dresses online tonight but not sure if its worth paying for something that I'm not gonna like wearing and if I go shopping for one tomorrow I know it'll end in tears :cry:

i know I sound like a miserable so and so but just can't help it at the mo.

 

[*EB*]

Thanks guys

my little one is 13 months now so I'm thinking that I should have knuckled down and lost it already but just can't seem to motivate myself to stick to it 100%

ellebear you're doing really well x

It is really hard babe - being a mummy is demanding (i had my lunch at 4:30 today!!!) so dont put yaself down. I have had a few months of bobbing around, this week i am fully focused and sticking to plan! I hope to actually lose this week! Cant remember when I last lost weight - think it was start of May!

Thank you hun xx

 

[*EB*]

Been looking at dresses online tonight but not sure if its worth paying for something that I'm not gonna like wearing and if I go shopping for one tomorrow I know it'll end in tears :cry:

i know I sound like a miserable so and so but just can't help it at the mo.

Get some spanx and get to the shops hunnie xxx hugs xxx

 

[Fatladyslim]

It is really hard babe - being a mummy is demanding (i had my lunch at 4:30 today!!!) so dont put yaself down. I have had a few months of bobbing around, this week i am fully focused and sticking to plan! I hope to actually lose this week! Cant remember when I last lost weight - think it was start of May!

Thank you hun xx

yeah it is hard my little one is a cling on he's at the stage where I can't be out of his sight, I forgot what hard work it is too cos my daughter is nearly 16

think I need more than spanx, I still look 9 months pregnant cos I'm one of those that puts loads on my belly so I can't even suck in in anymore

 

[AnnaFaraday]

Try looking at it this way. Someone has invited you to a wedding reception - presumably you accepted the invitation. So you are expected to be there.

And people may be disappointed if you don't go.

Your partner may be disappointed if you don't go.

There will be friends there who haven't seen you for ages and they may be disappointed if you don't go.

"so do I go and feel miserable or stay at home and feel miserable ??"

Well, there is an alternative - you could go and make other people feel glad. Find a cheap bright baggy top, wear it over your comfy trousers, find some nice jewellery, slap on the lipgloss and SMILE. Take your baby photos to show people, look happy, and who knows - you might even feel happy.

 

[Fatladyslim]

Well.....I went :clap:

i went out and got a new dress and shoes and got all the underwear to hold everything in put some slap on, hair up and went to the do!

we took our son so he was sat on my lap 90% of the time and he enjoyed himself and had a little dance on my lap, nobody mentioned the weight (didn't think they would). It was nice to see his pals again and they got to see our son for the first time.

so a good time was had by all x

 

[*EB*]

Really glad u chose to go and bet u looked lovely xx

 

[Fatladyslim]

Really glad u chose to go and bet u looked lovely xx

Thanks x

 

[chocko1]

I'm so glad you went and had a good time too. It is really hard when you'd really rather stay in because you don't feel good in anything. The main thing now is to build on the fact that you went, you're doing something positive about the weight you want to lose and you know that in the future your shopping trips won't be ending in tears. Well, maybe they will but tears of joy instead because you'll be feeling confident within your new body. Good luck with your SW journey.

 

[chiefbridesmaid]

I'm really proud of you for going, brilliant step and so glad you bought your son and you enjoyed yourself