Curse of the yummymummies!

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  1. letsgetlosing

    letsgetlosing Full Member

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    My children have a few friends, whose Mums i would not normally be close to but cos of the kids, we are kinda thrown togther everynow and again for things like birthday parties.
    One was last night. I made a real effort, as some hadnt seen me since I began SW and was hoping to get a few nice comments( narsisistic? Yes but am only human!) Well, I got none.:(
    Found it really bizarre that no one even mentioned my diet.
    And then I have just seen some photos on facebook of me at the party. Some are nice, I can see my weighloss and I have tagged myself. But there is one, where I am bend over picking up my son, and my behind looks like the size of an elephant! Really dont think there was any need to put that photo on!! And this photo was tagged!

    Also without kidding myself, I think some peoples cameras are just nasty- i thought i looked reasonable slimish in my harem jumpsuit...the photos tell me something different. !
     
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  3. *Emsie*

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    Some times it does take a while for the weight loss to show but you know you are losing it and are doing well so keep going :)
    Oh dear as if having to mix with people that you wouldn't normally mix with isn't bad enough having to have them on fb and be tagged by them as well!?!? :eek:
    You can change your settings so that when people tag you it doesn't show up on your profile...only to you if that would help?

    Nasty camera's! nasty tagging! and nasty yummy mummies! Sod the lot of them and keep going to where you want to be x
     
  4. vanilla_cupcake

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    I think it depends on how much weight we have lost before people will notice and I also think we sometimes think we look better than we actually do! At my heaviest I was 15st 6lbs and at the time didn't think I looked 'that' big but when I see photos...holy Jesus I was huge!! :eek: It was only when I had lost about 2st that you could actually see it starting to come off me, I remember looking at a photo when I had about 1st 4lbs off and I still looked the same even tho I had dropped about 2 dress sizes :sigh:

    You're loosing so keep up the good work and it will all pay off in the end :)

    PS...nothing worse than having to socialise with people we don't want to be with!!
     
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  5. sugar n spice

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    also they may not have mentioned anything because some people can get jealous when someone else is losing weight and i wouldnt worry too much about it ----they prob worried u gonna look better than them :):p:)
     
  6. Circes

    Circes Strutting her stuff

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    I also think that people don't feel comfortable mentioning it even though it may be obvious you have lost weight. They are not sure how it will be received as acknowledging the weight loss almost implies that they thought you were a 'fatty' before and that's quite a personal thing to say to someone you don't know that well. They are not sure how it will be received so they don't say anything. Also because I work in the health field people tend not to mention in in case the weight loss is due to illness.
     
  7. AnnaFaraday

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    What's wrong with socialising with different types of people? They are just that - people!
     
  8. vanilla_cupcake

    vanilla_cupcake Silver Member

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    You only socialise with people you want to be around :confused:
     
  9. GrannieAnnie

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    Wouldn`t worry about these so called "yummymummies". Sounds like they looked down on your before your weight loss and are jealous of your success. Don`t let them put you off.
    I haven`t had any comments either but I feel loads better & that`s the main thing
     
  10. kingleds

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    I don't hav kids, and have no wish to have them either, but one of my friends has a group of mummy friends. I have spent 2 nightsi nheir company and can safely say they were the dullest people I have ever encountered. Wanted to talk about nothing but their children and how much they hate their husbands.. I really feel for you if the people you were with were anything like that. I sincerely hope that they are the exception rather than the rule when it comes to stay at home mothers.
     
  11. ILoveCake

    ILoveCake 8.5st lighter!

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    Lol I suspect they were dull before children too.

    Don't take the yummy mummies too seriously, I bet they noticed you're slimmer. There are some lovely mums out there be selective and avoid the rude ones.x
     
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    Circes Strutting her stuff

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    I dont see anything in the OP to suggest that these people were looking down on her or were in any way nasty to her - it seems more about how she feels about herself. :confused:
     
  13. Lady A

    Lady A Loves to Shop!

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    So they only tagged you in on the photo of your bottom that you think is not flattering and not the nice one's that you had to tag yourself in? I suspect some jealousy here but that should motivate you to carry on doing what you are doing hun. Why should you let other people's insecurities get you down?

    I got asked if I was eating enough by a size 6 girl that I hardly know in my office today (I'm a size 10). The funny thing is she sees me snack regularly at my desk and she lunches the same time as me so sees me eating in the lunch hall most days so. You'll get mixed reactions to your weight loss my family and 'real friends' are proud of me yet the girls at work hate it. One's even started baking every other day thinking I'll break but I just find it sad.
     
  14. chocolatetrish

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    Dont worry about these "Barbie Mums" ... take no notice of them ... can u de-tag yourself from the facebook pictures???

    Keep going with the loosing weight - u are doing well x
     
  15. Cherry-Blossom

    Cherry-Blossom I CAN do this

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    You can de-tag and say it can't be re-tagged.
     
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    Compliments are contagious and the chain dies with misuse.
    Be generous with your own praise, if you like their hair say so, if you love their shoes say so, if their child is polite mention it, don't become a sycophant, be honest, look for nice things to say. It's really hard to be horrible to someone who is nice to you.
    it takes courage to praise another person, because noone wants to look like they're envious of another person. But envy is silent.
    Try not to go pouring your praise onto just one person, or they may suspect an ulterior motive lol!
     
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