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Dating and weight loss?!?!

I am a 20 year old college senior. I have honestly always been very shy, and because of this I have not had many social ties or dating prospects. I know that gaining confidence is more than just losing weight, it is also about changing how you see yourself. So as I work on these things, I see my self perception improving greatly, and the pounds are coming off too..:)

Now that I am losing weight, I want to start dating and meeting guys. I start my final year of college in two months.

Does anyone have any tips for someone who has absolutely no dating experience?!? What about hooking up? When is it appropriate to start a relationship?

Is it generally true that attractive qualities are: confidence, nice appearance, and a smile?

I am really unsure...I can't even imagine someone asking me out, I've never experienced it haha

I feel like I am generally socially confused, because I am still working on going from very little interaction with people (yes I was very SHY lol) to becoming myself around others.

Any TIPS or ADVICE will help!!!
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S: 17st9lb C: 10st9lb G: 10st7lb BMI: 23.3 Loss: 7st0lb(39.68%)
Think about the sort of people you like to be around, those that make you feel good, and then analyse what qualities it is about that person that makes them attractive. Im not talking about sexually attractive, because this could apply to both sexes. Im sure you must have come across people that are just nice to know. I would bet that they smile alot and come across as friendly confident and interested in what other people have to say.

Then try and work on those qualities for yourself. Dont try to be overconfident as it just comes across as false and pushy, but even a simple smile and asking how another person is doing just makes you seem like a nicer person yourself and someone that someone else would want to get to know more.

If come across as friendly and approachable you might find that the dating process happens naturally.
S: 14st5lb C: 10st4lb G: 9st12lb BMI: 24.7 Loss: 4st1lb(28.36%)
Well done on feeling better about yourself. My only advice is smile a lot, once men realise you are friendly and approachable they will talk to you, then just be yourself, and ask them some questions - in my experience men love talking about themselves sometimes too much;)
Enjoy your final year!!!


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S: 22st7lb C: 18st0lb G: 15st0lb BMI: 31.5 Loss: 4st7lb(20%)
Well done on your losing success. Everyone has to adapt into the dating world at one point. If you find someone that you are compatible with, you will find your comfort zone :) x
Here are some general dating rules for you:

Always look great, whatever your income. Gorgeous hair and some lipstick with rags will still turn his head. You have the advantage. You are the woman. Look your best as you could meet a potential Mr. Right anywhere at any time.

Never reveal information you don't have to. An enigmatic woman drives men wild.

Keep dates brief, but your men interested. Less is always more.

Try and stay in shape and involve some fitness regime at a gym. However much you hate it, your Mr. Right loves your body as much as your mind.

Let your man pay. If he is interested, he is interested enough to ensure you eat well and get home safely in a cab.

Ensure you receive flowers. If he doesn't know what a florist is, dump him.

Never ever sleep with a guy until he has fallen for you. Sex early in your dating game plan will ruin everything.

Always keep a guy waiting and never turn up early. It is a lady's perogative.

Never be available when he wants you to be. Never be at the end of a phone when he calls and always let him leave a message or two first before replying.

If he is available Tuesday, you are available Thursday.

Weekend shopping trips with girlfriends are sacred and not available for dates.

Keep your man standing on quicksand by shifting landmarks and goalposts constantly.

Ensure you are a good kisser. Men will walk away if you cannot kiss. Practice on a mirror if you have to.

Never ever talk about previous boyfriends, particularly their prowess in the bedroom. Your ex-boyfriends are your business only.

Never assume anything about your date until you choose to know him better. You cannot always tell by looking.

If any man shows the slightest signs of possessiveness or insecurity, run like the wind. Life is too short for boys.

If his shoes or hygiene are a disgrace, dump him.

Never talk too much about your father and how your date measures up in comparison.

Never ever come across as too available or too desperate. He will run a mile. He is the one doing the chasing.

If the guy in the corner is gorgeous, go get him and create the need in him for you. Never wait for men to come to you because you may watch him leave with someone else.

You may well have all the bodily functions of a man, just try not to demonstrate them early on.

If you want a child, don't mention it on the first few dates.

Never ever criticize his mother unless you want to remain single.

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