Does anybody else feel...

[Laura_jane]

Like everybody else in the world is trying to jeopardise your weight loss?!

What's started off this rant is my mother this evening. She is also supposed to be doing sw with me (i live at home and the idea is that we support each other) as she also wants to lose around 2.5 stone, but she won't commit to the diet and it's starting to really get me down

She's come home and bought a massive chocolate cake, profiteroles, (my fav) loads of choccy goodies and a really fatty chinese takeaway for tea. Then we had a big row where she said, 'we'll never stick to a diet if we can't have a treat now and then!' i do agree to a certain level but it's only been a week since we started the diet!! I've pretty much been 100% all week but her doing things like this will eventually make me think 'sod it' and it'll all go wrong a treat to me is a cadbury creme egg after a hard week!

Apart from all the great support i get on here i do feel like i need someone to keep me on track, especially as we also live with my dad, brother and boyfriend who are really big eaters but also need to shift a few pounds!

Anyone else in or have been in a similar situation?? I've got rubbish will power usually but i've been so determined and focused all week

 

[jaylou]

Oh my goodness - I'm all for treats but that's a bit more than that!!!
That's awful for you so I just send you hugs! You can do it and you will lose the weight, not your mum!

 

[Tealight]

Oh thats rubbish for you, sorry you are not getting any support, something like that would make more determined tbh, don't let nobody sabotage your goal, you can do this please don't give up, do this for you and show them how strong you can be.

We're all here to get each other through

Stay strong and good luck

 

[Laura_jane]

Thanks so much ladies- i agree it is far too much of a 'treat' especially when i've been doing so well, i don't even want to eat crap like that!!

Right now theyre all tucking into special fried rice and i've got sw chips, cod in parsely sauce and a side salad on the go! I'm so annoyed that i feel more determined than ever! I love mom to bits but i can't wait to shift the pounds and look great in the summer! Grrrrr rant over! xxx

 

[choccybuttons]

That would send me over the edge too. You can have a Chinese once a week i would say. I love chicken breast in black bean with lots of veggies and boiled rice. Its a real treat but healthier option. I would stock up on low syn treats like choc Alpen lights. Just remember why you want to lose weight and try to ignore sabotage. I found exercise has helped me say no as it makes you feel good and not want to ruin my efforts.

Iv also started giving myself manicures when dh is digging into a bag of choc goodies as helps me resist

 

[choccybuttons]

Good for you. Keep doing your own thing and you will do great

 

[vanilla_cupcake]

That would send me over the edge too. You can have a Chinese once a week i would say. I love chicken breast in black bean with lots of veggies and boiled rice. Its a real treat but healthier option. I would stock up on low syn treats like choc Alpen lights. Just remember why you want to lose weight and try to ignore sabotage. I found exercise has helped me say no as it makes you feel good and not want to ruin my efforts.

Iv also started giving myself manicures when dh is digging into a bag of choc goodies as helps me resist

Yeah I have vegetable black bean with boiled rice every Tuesday after weigh in, it's within my syns so it's not as if I'm cheating or going off plan!

Don't let your mummy ruin your chances of becoming thin, stick with it and you'll be so happy that you did! Your mummy will soon realise that she should have stuck with it too!!

Good woman for sticking to your guns!!

 

[Tealight]

Good girl, i'd be in smug mode now if i was you, knowing your the one tucking into a decent healthy meal, stick with it and keep that idea of looking fab by summer, thats the mindset to be in

 

[xMandyDx]

Being Irish, a lot of our culture is based around being social - going for dinner, going for drinks, going OUT!
Since I started SW I might average going out for a few drinks once a month. People are starting to get impatient with me now.
My mother asked me last week what was the use in dieting if I can't go out and have a life and have fun?
She doesn't seem to understand that it's not going to be like this forever. I mean, when I don't have to lose every week but only maintain, I can go out once a week and do something with people like have a few drinks or whatever.
But I'm not going to have a STS every time someone asks me to go out. This is a journey. I've started and I'll damn well get where I need to go!
Grrrr lol

 

[Tealight]

Tbh I think it's my nose that tries to sabotage my weigh loss not my stomach because most takeaway food smells better than it tastes, cooking for your own food always tastes better, maybe it's just me i like all the effort it takes, all ways shows at weigh in. You'll be fine stay focused x

 

[evilpenguin]

Like everybody else in the world is trying to jeopardise your weight loss?!

What's started off this rant is my mother this evening. She is also supposed to be doing sw with me (i live at home and the idea is that we support each other) as she also wants to lose around 2.5 stone, but she won't commit to the diet and it's starting to really get me down

She's come home and bought a massive chocolate cake, profiteroles, (my fav) loads of choccy goodies and a really fatty chinese takeaway for tea. Then we had a big row where she said, 'we'll never stick to a diet if we can't have a treat now and then!' i do agree to a certain level but it's only been a week since we started the diet!! I've pretty much been 100% all week but her doing things like this will eventually make me think 'sod it' and it'll all go wrong a treat to me is a cadbury creme egg after a hard week!

Apart from all the great support i get on here i do feel like i need someone to keep me on track, especially as we also live with my dad, brother and boyfriend who are really big eaters but also need to shift a few pounds!

Anyone else in or have been in a similar situation?? I've got rubbish will power usually but i've been so determined and focused all week

I feel your pain! My mum is the same. Living here is a constant test of my will power. Only once did I say yes to the offer of a biscuit, on pancake day when I had boycotted the whole thing I had one of her toffee waffles, 8 syns and not worth it! The other night she bought cheesecake and left one slice in the fridge and told me & my bf we could have it. It was 22 syns or something! I told her to get fat on her own, which didn't go down too well tbh. Bf wasn't as strong and he ate it

The less junk you eat, the less junk you want to eat, so just ignore it! Easier said than done I know! But stick at it and you'll succeed.

 

[kingleds]

My mother asked me last week what was the use in dieting if I can't go out and have a life and have fun?

Next time she asks this reply with

'Whats the point of going out and socialising every week if I'm going to be dead by the time I'm 45 due to being overweight?'

Its sounds dramatic, but its no more ridiculous than suggesting that looking after your body is a dull and boring thing to do that should be avoided!

 

[vanilla_cupcake]

Being Irish, a lot of our culture is based around being social - going for dinner, going for drinks, going OUT!
Since I started SW I might average going out for a few drinks once a month. People are starting to get impatient with me now.
My mother asked me last week what was the use in dieting if I can't go out and have a life and have fun?
She doesn't seem to understand that it's not going to be like this forever. I mean, when I don't have to lose every week but only maintain, I can go out once a week and do something with people like have a few drinks or whatever.
But I'm not going to have a STS every time someone asks me to go out. This is a journey. I've started and I'll damn well get where I need to go!
Grrrr lol

I'm 100% Irish and didn't know that going out, going for drinks and going for dinner was part of my culture thats down to every person if they want to do all those things. You can still do all these things and just pick the healthier option

 

[dreamslim]

I know how you feel, my Dad isn't bothered about losing weight but my mum keeps making him eat SW food and it was such a nightmare when I lived there as my dad would suggest a takeaway all the time, lol. He meant well enough and most of the rest of the time he would be buying up all the mullerlights they had in Asda and things like that but he misses his curries and his chineses and his chicken and tiger bread from Asda. Lol.
As for going out an socialising though, I do that every week and most weeks I can still lose I just have to be careful to control it. Only one night of drinking and one night of eating out. I do weekly syns though so maybe that's where it's different.

 

[gemmiegem]

Stick with the plan Laura and you'll do just fine I'm lucky that I now live with my fiance so I'm not at home with the parents. They (well, my mum) always claim to be trying to lose weight but their cupboards are rammed with chocolate, biscuits and cakes galore! It's so hard when I nip round and they're tucking into fish and chips and think that's ok. I dread going round for a meal (not because I don't want to see them obviously) but even though they know I'm on SW they insist on massive plates of unhealthy convenience food. SW has really opened my eyes to healthy eating!!

And like you...my mum always says that I should have a treat - but I don't want treats like that!! It does make me more determined to prove her wrong actually.

My OH isn't on slimming world so it can be tough living with him as we still have a few crisps and chocolate treats in the house...but he's really conscious about only eating them when I'm not in the room, or he just takes them with his lunch to work.

At the end of the day, this is your healthy eating plan - stick with it, the results will show in weight loss and your determination to continue will increase

 

[lydia150970]

Like everybody else in the world is trying to jeopardise your weight loss?!

What's started off this rant is my mother this evening. She is also supposed to be doing sw with me (i live at home and the idea is that we support each other) as she also wants to lose around 2.5 stone, but she won't commit to the diet and it's starting to really get me down

She's come home and bought a massive chocolate cake, profiteroles, (my fav) loads of choccy goodies and a really fatty chinese takeaway for tea. Then we had a big row where she said, 'we'll never stick to a diet if we can't have a treat now and then!' i do agree to a certain level but it's only been a week since we started the diet!! I've pretty much been 100% all week but her doing things like this will eventually make me think 'sod it' and it'll all go wrong a treat to me is a cadbury creme egg after a hard week!

Apart from all the great support i get on here i do feel like i need someone to keep me on track, especially as we also live with my dad, brother and boyfriend who are really big eaters but also need to shift a few pounds!

Anyone else in or have been in a similar situation?? I've got rubbish will power usually but i've been so determined and focused all week

Maybe you need to find yourself a diet buddy that isn't your mother, she's obviously not in the right mindset right now. So you really need to step away and do your own thing and stick to the diet your way. Perhaps put a call out on here for a diet buddy. I suspect that once your mother sees the weight falling off you she'll soon get on board and if she doesn't well in some ways you have to be selfish and accept thats not your problem or your fault, just concentrate on yourself and your own diet. Good luck

 

[Laura_jane]

Aww thankyou all so so much for the comments! Its encouraging to know i'm not alone in having to deal with families and other halfs and their eating habits aswell! I'm just so used to eating crap and massive portions thats its really hard to resist the temptation, and it annoyed me that it was being dangled right in front of me! I know how selfish that sounds but i do agree that sometimes we need to be selfish!!

I just needed that bit of motivation to keep going, thanks ladies, all this will be worth it in the end!! xxxx

 

[Laura_jane]

Maybe you need to find yourself a diet buddy that isn't your mother, she's obviously not in the right mindset right now. So you really need to step away and do your own thing and stick to the diet your way. Perhaps put a call out on here for a diet buddy. I suspect that once your mother sees the weight falling off you she'll soon get on board and if she doesn't well in some ways you have to be selfish and accept thats not your problem or your fault, just concentrate on yourself and your own diet. Good luck

Thanks lydia, funnily enough i've got a friend at work who wants to lose around the same amount of weight as me, and we're both dieting, although not doing the same diet. I only see her on the weekend shift so each week we've made a pact to tell eachother what we've eaten and how we've both got on its not much but i think it'll spur me on

I completely agree, i'm losing weight for me and i'm determined not to let anyone get in my way! xx

 

[lydia150970]

Good for you! Theres loads of support in here for you x

 

[HazeyBlue]

Theres loads of people on here that will give you lots of support. Just imagine how jealous your mum will be when she sees you are slim and healthy in the summer and she isnt