BarbaraG
Uncovering the real Me
OK, so I'm approaching two thirds of the way through my campaign... 6.5 stone gone, 4 to 4.5 to go. My goal is a bit of a guess,really, because I've never been a healthy weight in my adult life (and been overweight since I was 8) - but now that I've found the wonderful slimpods which have dealt with my binge/emotional eating, I am able to eat normally, and along with regular exercise, the weight is coming off.
So far, so good. But, for at least the last stone and a half, I have had people saying "Don't lose too much", and even "Don't lose any more.". They add to this something along the lines of you look lovely/perfect/beautiful as you are, which is all very well, but.... I'm still obese! My BMI at the moment is about 33 - so, not only am I nowhere near to being underweight, I have still got close to four stone to go before I reach even the top of the healthy weight range.
So what is going on? Are people just so used to me being morbidly obese (peak BMI was 48) that even being still a size 18-20 they think I'm skinny? Or, is it that the average person is now overweight, so they think I'm average? Then there's the skin thing (anyone else had that) - if you lose too much you'll have wrinkles round your neck. As if appearance is more important than health?
Any ideas? Without being nasty - is there anything I can say to these people which will get them to shut up? Or shall I just ignore them?
Now, if I were in my healthy weight range, and several people who I trusted told me I was too skinny, that would be different. But that's a million miles away.
Barbara
So far, so good. But, for at least the last stone and a half, I have had people saying "Don't lose too much", and even "Don't lose any more.". They add to this something along the lines of you look lovely/perfect/beautiful as you are, which is all very well, but.... I'm still obese! My BMI at the moment is about 33 - so, not only am I nowhere near to being underweight, I have still got close to four stone to go before I reach even the top of the healthy weight range.
So what is going on? Are people just so used to me being morbidly obese (peak BMI was 48) that even being still a size 18-20 they think I'm skinny? Or, is it that the average person is now overweight, so they think I'm average? Then there's the skin thing (anyone else had that) - if you lose too much you'll have wrinkles round your neck. As if appearance is more important than health?
Any ideas? Without being nasty - is there anything I can say to these people which will get them to shut up? Or shall I just ignore them?
Now, if I were in my healthy weight range, and several people who I trusted told me I was too skinny, that would be different. But that's a million miles away.
Barbara