Feeling tip top positive - thank you!
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Julesy
Likes being a girly girl
Hey Julesy.....please don't feel like a failure ! sounds to me like you are doing a fab job bringing up your kids single handed !!!
Why not think about the 790 plan ?? that would mean you could have some protein and veg/salad with them every day.......losses are still great - 10 to 12 lbs per month.....
I think you are amazing and certainly not a big fat failure.....you rock !!!
stick with it....a couple of blips along the way is common for most of us - this diet IS hard....and doubly so if you have other pressures in your life as well.....
wishing you every success in your weight loss journey - I know you can do this
lotsa love
Debz xx
Awwwwwwwww thank you Debz, I am definately giving the 790 a go! :hug99:
Julesy
Likes being a girly girl
Thats the way it is with my daughter.......there is always someone around with those naughty goodies, even if she can't get them sold to her at school.....
I work in a prison so I suppose it could actually be a helluva lot worse though!
Thank you!
GREAT !!! think it'll really help and fit in with the kids.....
....and dont forget to keep us posted with your progress !!
love
Debz xx
Julesy, you are FABULOUS... not a failure... it is tough bringing up 3 kids let alone on your own. I have one and a very helpful husband and I find that hard enough...
I think as everyone else has mentioned 790 would probably be the best way for you to go...
I know you mentioned when the kids were asleep that you used to binge at night... why not try taking those night times and spoil yourself with that quiet time... long luxurious baths/showers, reading a soppy book, watching a feel-good film, whatever works for you...
That way you're still treating yourself which you deserve...
All the best to you and your family... hang on in there... you're made of tough stuff
I think as everyone else has mentioned 790 would probably be the best way for you to go...
I know you mentioned when the kids were asleep that you used to binge at night... why not try taking those night times and spoil yourself with that quiet time... long luxurious baths/showers, reading a soppy book, watching a feel-good film, whatever works for you...
That way you're still treating yourself which you deserve...
All the best to you and your family... hang on in there... you're made of tough stuff
mummytoni
Full Member
I cant get over the support you get on here well done everyone.Julesy must b feeling so much more . positive what ever she decides to do. I can totally see where she is coming from. I have four energetic boys and struggle to find the time to concentrate on me. This diet is so hard.......... im only day 4 and cheated already. you all inspire me so much.
julsey dont b so hard on yourself it is wonderful that you put your kids first , im sure they are very proud of you . keep your chin up (chins in my case) and smile.
Good Luck
TONI
julsey dont b so hard on yourself it is wonderful that you put your kids first , im sure they are very proud of you . keep your chin up (chins in my case) and smile.
Good Luck
TONI
Julesy
Likes being a girly girl
Julesy, you are FABULOUS... not a failure... it is tough bringing up 3 kids let alone on your own. I have one and a very helpful husband and I find that hard enough...
I think as everyone else has mentioned 790 would probably be the best way for you to go...
I know you mentioned when the kids were asleep that you used to binge at night... why not try taking those night times and spoil yourself with that quiet time... long luxurious baths/showers, reading a soppy book, watching a feel-good film, whatever works for you...
That way you're still treating yourself which you deserve...
All the best to you and your family... hang on in there... you're made of tough stuff
Thank you so much! Your kind and encouraging words mean so much to me!
Y'know night times have been the easiest times for me.....strange but true...once the kids are in bed, I've been heaving a huge sigh of relief and getting on here and getting early nights.......but I think I do need to start treating myself more......maybe having my bath when the kids are in bed and not up and about and needing a poo every time I lay down! (Why do kids always need a poo when we are sat in the bath?
) Thank you xxx:hug99:
Julesy
Likes being a girly girl
Thank you Toni......
I am feeling a squillion times more positive....everyone on here is always so supportive and friendly and helpful.....its like being part of a huge extended family, with many sisters/brothers and friends all rolled into one!
Good Luck to you too Toni on your journey......you will do it and with everyone on here behind you 100% you cannot fail to find some support and guidance!
Look after yourself xxx:hug99:
ninababes
Gold Member
Big Big hugs hunny, as everyone's said you are NOT a failure, you're addressing the problem rather than just shrinking in the background and reverting back to your previous eating habitsand it's wonderful that you've been able to sit down with your children and get their point of view
You can do this hunny regardless of what plan you WILL lose weight and you will look and feel fantastic!!!! xxxxx
You can do this hunny regardless of what plan you WILL lose weight and you will look and feel fantastic!!!! xxxxx
Julesy
Likes being a girly girl
Big Big hugs hunny, as everyone's said you are NOT a failure, you're addressing the problem rather than just shrinking in the background and reverting back to your previous eating habitsand it's wonderful that you've been able to sit down with your children and get their point of view
You can do this hunny regardless of what plan you WILL lose weight and you will look and feel fantastic!!!! xxxxx
Thank you so much!!!!
Do you know what, I am going to print this thread out and look on it when I'm ever feeling down or upset.......you have all been so kind and encouraging and it truly has meant the world to me........I cannot thank you all enough!
I feel so much more positive and ready to start 790 and actually enjoy sitting down on a night time eating with my children whilst also losing weight and feeling great!
:thankyou:
Daisybank
Hmmmmmm!
Hi
I am so sorry that you are feeling so down. Please don't say you are a failure, it sounds to me like you are doing a pretty amazing job as a mum and I really admire you, not every one could cope with that! It is difficult to stick with any kind of diet when there is a lot going on in your life. I don't think you should compare yourself with any one else as we all have a different experience of weight gain and loss. What is right for one person may not be right for you and you shouldn't feel bad about that. Also behind those posts that you have read about how much weight people have lost you don't know how many time they have tried before that and felt just like you do now - I know I did. Maybe you could try another system? Only you can choose, but you sound like a lovely person and deserve to find success. Whatever you decide I wish you well and send you a hug cos I think you deserve one! Lots of support on this site if you need it
I am so sorry that you are feeling so down. Please don't say you are a failure, it sounds to me like you are doing a pretty amazing job as a mum and I really admire you, not every one could cope with that! It is difficult to stick with any kind of diet when there is a lot going on in your life. I don't think you should compare yourself with any one else as we all have a different experience of weight gain and loss. What is right for one person may not be right for you and you shouldn't feel bad about that. Also behind those posts that you have read about how much weight people have lost you don't know how many time they have tried before that and felt just like you do now - I know I did. Maybe you could try another system? Only you can choose, but you sound like a lovely person and deserve to find success. Whatever you decide I wish you well and send you a hug cos I think you deserve one! Lots of support on this site if you need it
annie_d
Silver Member
My daughter was fat at aged 14 and i took her to slimming world. THEN worked out how much money her diet would cost. THEN went food shopping with her and she bought what she needed for a week of her diet. Because she was so involved in the process she loved it and kept to it and became a slim Jim!
I have had an eating day today too, just fruit and veg but still FAR too much of it.
Tomorrow is another day...onwards and upwards!
x
I have had an eating day today too, just fruit and veg but still FAR too much of it.
Tomorrow is another day...onwards and upwards!
x
So pleased you're feelin more positive
you are AMAZING and doing a FAB job with your kids....on your own !
790 sounds like the plan for you ! - good luck with your losses
and dont forget to keep us posted !
Debz xx
daisydaisy
Full Member
Hi Julesy,
Just wanted to add my support - you are doing brilliantly and you can do this, definitely! I don't have the difficult childcare issues you face on a daily basis, and I still struggle like mad with this diet. So you have my total admiration. It is sooo hard, but you are obviously a strong and determined lady and you deserve to do well.
As all your replies show, you have so many people on here rooting for you - so go for it, it's all yours for the taking!
I might well join you on the 790 plan, as SSing is just not happening for me this week!
Good luck honey xx
Just wanted to add my support - you are doing brilliantly and you can do this, definitely! I don't have the difficult childcare issues you face on a daily basis, and I still struggle like mad with this diet. So you have my total admiration. It is sooo hard, but you are obviously a strong and determined lady and you deserve to do well.
As all your replies show, you have so many people on here rooting for you - so go for it, it's all yours for the taking!
I might well join you on the 790 plan, as SSing is just not happening for me this week!
Good luck honey xx
Isis
Ancient Egypt Nut!
OK, so I've fallen off the wagon big style.....won't go into what I've done too much, but needless to say I caved in last night and have written off today aswell....not too drastic and certainly nowhere near like what I was eating before but still.......strangely I was still in ketosis this morning....odd...but I'm definately not now....
This diet is just so bloody hard isn't it.....I'm a single mum with 3 children so all the cooking, shopping etc has to be done by me.....
I've been getting to the point where I couldn't face cooking for my children as it was just bloody hard, and my children were all asking when I could sit down with them like I always did on an evening and have a meal with them.....I had started having to run upstairs and hide in the bath etc when I had dished up their teas.....missing out on our usual evening chat around the table.....(am filled up with tears writing this)
Anyways, my daughter is 15 next month and wants to lose about 2 stone, and she had started to get silly about her food which I think has alot to do with seeing me living on soups and shakes and water all day.....
My middle son is 11 and has ADHD/ODD and dealing with his behaviour and with all the stuff that the school has been throwing at me have left me a wreck to be honest.
I'm a terribly good actress and have pretended for the past weeks that all is well and I'm happy, but I'm really really not.....
I genuinally don't know what to do.......have considered going to SW and taking my daughter with me....have considered giving this diet another go and just seeing what happens....have considered trying this diet for a short while and then switching to SW after I have given my self a head start.....oh I don't know......
I read about everyone else sticking to this diet 100% and managing quite easily to lose substantial amounts of weight and I so wanted to be just like that......I had a 100% determined head on me when I started and now I'm just all messed up and confused and feel like such a stupid failiure.....all my goals I had set myself have flown out of the window now and I feel as if I've let myself and my family down so much.
Once a failiure always a failure is how I feel about myself right now......
Sorry for all the negativity, I just needed to write down my thoughts and feelings.....
Please change the title of your thread hun as you are NOT what you describe yourself as!!!!...:hug99:
You say you genuinely don't know what to do honey......that's something you could for starters and then let us all help you to find the best way forward to suit you and your lifestyle....
Much love....xxxx
Ti@ra-M@ker
member
Hi, I know you've already decided to do 790. I just wanted to say that I think you're doing the right thing. My hubby and I do that and sit down with my 11 yr old daughter in the evening for a meal. Often she will have the same as us but maybe a jacket potato too. Although she doesn't have a weight problem I still feel that it's important to show her healthy eating. Anyway, I just wanted to say that 790 is great and I think that you'll love it and it won't be too long till you feel confident about going out and doing some sporty things with your children. I've more weight to lose that you and my daughter actually manage to get me skating on the ice with her the other week. I'm putting my foot down to the swimming just yet but it won't be too long before I feel I can go. It's amazing how this diet makes you feel so much better about yourself. Today I tidied out my wardrobe and found 3 pairs of trousers that didn't fit before but do now...I've started wearing make up again and I painted my toe nails tonight!
Sorry for waffling on... I just wanted to say...enjoy 790...stick with it and before long you will start to feel better. I promise.
Tx
Sorry for waffling on... I just wanted to say...enjoy 790...stick with it and before long you will start to feel better. I promise.
Tx
Julesy
Likes being a girly girl
We shall have to start a new thread next week to keep us going on the 790 eh hun? We can do this y'know!
Julesy
Likes being a girly girl
Please change the title of your thread hun as you are NOT what you describe yourself as!!!!...:hug99:
You say you genuinely don't know what to do honey......that's something you could for starters and then let us all help you to find the best way forward to suit you and your lifestyle....
Much love....xxxx
Thank you so much! Will certainly change the title!
I have decided to do the 790 plan starting either Tuesday or Wednesday (just as soon as I am back in ketosis!) and I really do think I can do it! The only real problems I had with the SS was meal times with my children, so I know that once I'm sitting down eating again as a family the rest will just click into place and I will get it done!
Thank you for your support! :hug99:
Julesy
Likes being a girly girl
Wow...you have just totally put my mind at rest - thank you so much!
And as for the 3 pairs of trousers that now fit - well done you - that is brilliant! I'm so glad that you are starting to feel better about yourself and have started wearing make up and even painting your toe nails! Very girly indeed! Yayyy! Next it will be nail extensions and new shoes and handbags!
Thank you sweetie :hug99:
