Not been on in a while (again) but after setting a date after over a year being engaged I'm determined to stay at target and even thinking of lowering my target weight to lose another 1/2 stone. For those wondering why I've chosen a date so far away it's because the venue we wanted is currently closed for a refurb and renovations and opens at the end of next year. It does mean we have plenty of time to plan and save though!
I was thinking of guests concerning my side of the family and came across a bit of a dilemma - one of my cousins. Basically he's an idiot, expelled from schools and in trouble with the police from being a kid and in more recent years he's been in prison for driving and theft related crimes. I invited him to my engagement party last year and he very nearly caused trouble - he got really drunk and it was obvious he'd been taking something else too. He was trying to start a fight with his brother and my dad and uncle had to stay with him all night to keep the peace. He was an embarrassment and put a bit of a downer on the night. His brother might I add is the complete opposite, and as a kid/teen he was tarred with the same brush and had to really prove to people he wanted to make something of his life.
I'm worried how my aunt and uncle will take it, when I only have 2 cousins and intending to invite one to my wedding. I asked my family and immediately my dad said I can't invite him because of his appalling behaviour at the engagement and the risk of ruining the wedding. My mum thought the same but she was also unsure how my aunt and uncle will take it. Part of me thinks they will be OK as they've had to put up with a lot of s**t from him, he's stole and taken advantage of them and he only goes to see them when he wants money. The other (albeit smaller) part of me thinks they'll be upset when my family is quite small and I'm snubbing one of my family members who happens to be their son, especially when I'm inviting the other. Also, I'm worried that if I do decide to not invite him, he might find out and turn up anyway!
Sorry this is long, I would really appreciate any words of wisdom.
I was thinking of guests concerning my side of the family and came across a bit of a dilemma - one of my cousins. Basically he's an idiot, expelled from schools and in trouble with the police from being a kid and in more recent years he's been in prison for driving and theft related crimes. I invited him to my engagement party last year and he very nearly caused trouble - he got really drunk and it was obvious he'd been taking something else too. He was trying to start a fight with his brother and my dad and uncle had to stay with him all night to keep the peace. He was an embarrassment and put a bit of a downer on the night. His brother might I add is the complete opposite, and as a kid/teen he was tarred with the same brush and had to really prove to people he wanted to make something of his life.
I'm worried how my aunt and uncle will take it, when I only have 2 cousins and intending to invite one to my wedding. I asked my family and immediately my dad said I can't invite him because of his appalling behaviour at the engagement and the risk of ruining the wedding. My mum thought the same but she was also unsure how my aunt and uncle will take it. Part of me thinks they will be OK as they've had to put up with a lot of s**t from him, he's stole and taken advantage of them and he only goes to see them when he wants money. The other (albeit smaller) part of me thinks they'll be upset when my family is quite small and I'm snubbing one of my family members who happens to be their son, especially when I'm inviting the other. Also, I'm worried that if I do decide to not invite him, he might find out and turn up anyway!
Sorry this is long, I would really appreciate any words of wisdom.