How to treat your OH

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  1. Leapfrog

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    I think we could all learn something from this article, reportedly taken from a 1955 issue of Housekeeping Monthly :D
    • Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready, on time for his return. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospect of a good meal (especially his favorite dish) is part of the warm welcome needed.
    • Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you'll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people.
    • Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him. His boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it.
    • Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives.
    • Gather up schoolbooks, toys, paper, etc. and then run a dust cloth over the tables.
    • Over the cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for him to unwind by. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering for his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction.
    • Prepare the children. Take a few minutes to wash the children's hands and faces (if they are small), comb their hair and, if necessary, change their clothes. They are little treasures and he would like to see them playing the part. Minimize all the noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet.
    • Be happy to see him.
    • Listen to him. You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first – remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours.
    • Make the evening his. Never complain if he comes home late or goes out to dinner, or other places of entertainment without you. Instead, try to understand his world of strain and pressure and his very real need to be at home and relax.
    • Your goal: Try to make sure your home is a place of peace, order and tranquillity where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit.
    • Don't greet him with complaints and problems.
    • Don't complain if he's late home for dinner or even if he stays out all night. Count this as minor compared to what he might have gone through that day.
    • Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or have him lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him.
    • Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice.
    • Don't ask him questions about his actions or question his judgment or integrity. Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will always exercise his will with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question him.
    • A good wife always knows her place.
     
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  3. *EB*

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    oh my word! im off to put a ribbon in my hair and be a little gay! :D
     
  4. peachy7

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    My husband read a few of these out in his speech at our wedding!!! I think the look on my face said it all!! lol
     
  5. ilovelife

    ilovelife Wishing and hoping!

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    omg that is so sexist, I just done a gender lecuture so don't start me off lol
     
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    All sounds good to me :D

    (although I should be careful - I believe my OH registered on here the other day - so keep an eye out for a Mrs H*Bomb knocking around)
     
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    But surely Mrs H*Bomb is too busy clearing away the clutter and being a little gay to come on here ;)
     
  8. funcurls

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    That is class!! Love it! Great post!! LOL!XXX
     
  9. Shirleen

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    I would do all these things.....except my hubby works nights and all he would get at 4am or 7am (depending on which week it is) is a pig like snore!
     
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    Couldn't you make the effort to make that snore low, soothing and pleasant for him, Shirleen? And nothing to stop you wearing the ribbon either :D
     
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    All excellent advice-for 1950's women who didn't have full time jobs themselves! My guy would think I'd been up to no good if he came home to a tidy house and a cooked meal!
     
  12. Mrs H*Bomb

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    Ha, I wish! Mrs H*Bomb is too busy working a full time job herself!

    And, if the truth be told, H*bomb cooks my meal every night. However I would appreciate it if he could talk with a more soothing voice to me - I am tired when I get home from a long day's work. ;)

    As for running a dust cloth over the tables, I think you have to be able to see the table top underneath all the 'clutter' to be able to do that don't you??
     
  13. tinkerbellsmum

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    i do most of the above (not all cause some r so sexist its unreal meaning the woman has no life or isn't worth anything) and what thanks do we get for it me and my hubby both work part time (to share childcare) yet i do everything. the sad thing is alot of men still expect this
     
  14. The Punisher

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    Agreed! This is very true of my dad and all his brothers and nephews...I always thought it was an Irish thing, hence my 'no Irish guy' rule! dad goes mental if his dinner isn't ready for him getting in from work, and mum has been known to be woken up at 5am because he needs his shirt ironing!
    He cooks the Sunday dinner and walks the dog at weekends. Everything else is womens' work
     
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    my husband won't even make his own sandwich and if i keep saying no he will go in kitchen moan about state of it (only gets like this while i'm at work) then bang lots things about
     
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    ;) Where is the article on how to treat your wife
     
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    oooo a couple! Welcome Mrs H*Bomb!
     
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    Ah that sounds very familiar to me (Irish) my dad/bro even have to get the mug of tea handed into their hand it drives me nuts when I go home.

    My husband & I share cooking/cleaning etc but it's my job to look after the baby...
     
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    Don't shoot me when I say this......

    Me and my OH dont have children and soon we will be moving and this means his new job is much more than enough money to support us both.. I'm going back to college one day a week.

    As I am at home all day I won't expect him to lift a fingers as he essentially earns enough to pay my wages....

    He wouldn't get his feet rubbed but the house would be spotless and his dinner ready he walks in....... but with regards to staying out all night etc then that is down to common courtesy and respect and I would expect to know if he is going out as that would interupt with his dinner.... purely a respect thing.
     
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    I received a worse one from a 1960s text book about how women are suppose to 'give it out' whenever her man requests it, etc. Im really trying hard to paste it but it wont :(

    I agree with Kissme when me and OH live together i would love to have the house, tidy for him and his dinner ready when he gets in. We both work but i like to make him happy :) he's a very clean person though so there wont be much 'cleaning' involved! xx
     
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    I'll write it out - hold on...

    This better be worth it lol
     
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