Husband not happy

[suzyqirnbru]

Dont know if it is my imagination or not but my husband is being a moan since I started this diet. When I sit and think about it he hates it when I go on a diet he says a waste of money or u will never stick to it and if i do he always tries to get me to come off it, been with him for nearly 30years and out of those years I have only been thin for the first 10 so not really sure what his issue is or is it me that has the issue Anyone had similar?

 

[iwannabeme]

My husband tends to be ultra supportive if he is also trying to lose a bit of weight and eat healthy but when he is not trying, he can be my worst enemy. Feels like he is deliberately eating my favourite foods in front of me and encouraging me to 'have a break' from the diet. He will also get grumpy if I suggest healthy meals for him to have instead of a takeaway and then go quiet on me! Not sure what goes through the mind but it is almost as if he can't stand to see me motivated when he clearly is not! It comes and goes in phases so I have learnt to ignore it now. Just remind yourself you are doing this for you and if you want to do it, that is all you need to know. Your husband will come round when he sees you are feeling happy and healthy as a result of your efforts! x

 

[Calorina]

I agree - sounds like it's his problem. My BF is generally supportive but has said it's like he's "going out with a diet, not a person". Must be v hard to ignore but maybe keep a list of reasons with you to remind yourself why you're doing this? He might be unaware of it, too, so might be worth telling him it hurts and you could use his support, not his naysaying. Hang in there, you're going great guns!

 

[Freedom Pass]

I think we could write a very thick book on other people's reactions to our attempts to become a healthier weight. With total VLCD's there is an impact on our loved ones, not sharing meals and treats, the socialising minefield, if they need to lose pounds, the fear of being "shown up" and the BIG one, fear of 'losing' the suddenly slimmer partner. We really need to stress the HEALTH part of our regimes to anyone who tries to interfere, the size we were, the way we were eating made us UNHEALTHY, the sooner we dump those excess pounds the sooner we will be healthier. Using the word slender instead of slim, stressing the advantages of being able to buy clothes in the sales, being able to walk, climb stairs, join in with children, dance together, swim together, those things which will improve family life rather than just our individual lives may help. Inside you know you're doing it for YOU.

 

[Calorina]

What a wonderful, true and inspiring post. Thank you.

 

[willowmcg]

Thanks for that, fortunately my husband is very supportive!! Do think some partners could be slighty afraid though that they might lose the person they love, but that is their insecuritiess, you need to do this for yourself and try to make them understand that. You will feel a lot more confident having lost that weight, but maybe reassure him that you do still love him as much as before.

 

[theapple]

my hubby hates it too, says he hates the fact i don't sit with him and our kids etc.

 

[time2go]

My husband has been great, very supportive inv all my dieting lol but one day I made us all lunch and he said "this is the first meal we have had a meal as a family" and another time I sat down at table one evening to have dinner and he said "oh I'm not eating alone tonight" so it made me realise that it had been affecting him. I think bee forget how much our actions affect others x

 

[sliemox]

i used to ignore thejibes and omments from my hubby . until i started getting slimmer and he saw the difference it made even to our sex lifeand he started to be more encouraging. until i messed it up all by myself. hang in there make his food then sit down with him and have your shake and keep him company if he makes a silly comment just smile and ignore, it will all stop, push on until he sees wat the diet is oing for you.

 

[Texty_F]

I got sick of the amount of times hubby would say to me "how can you eat that amount when your on a diet" " surely you cant have that on your diet" ( I think he meant I wasnt eating lettuce for every meal !!!! So this time around I thought to myself just let him continue to be grumpy and nit pick im gonna do this. Now .... he can see the difference and even he has started saying make me a salad for lunch whilst your making yours, and oh ill just have whatever your having for dinner, reason being im eating healthier and he can see the difference ( he needs to lose a few pounds from his beer belly) lol. Again I think the insecurity bit can kick in because now im buying smaller size clothes and every day is not leggings and a baggy top, Ive actually bought as skirt today for the first time in about 20years. Do it for yourself and not others I say

 

[harry m]

Hi all, my husband is really supportive at all time.he is the one who encourage me the most. In my exante journey so far I lost 9 kg in two month's and yesterday he said to me when u lost another 9 kg u deserve something special. I don't want anything but I was so glad that he said that to me and I feel more motivated and strong. We all know in our hearts that we r doing this for healthy and active future so why listen to others.Stay Focused and determine, succees will follow you

 

[sliemox]

sometimes it could just be stemmed from being insecure, feeling jelous of the fact that u will be slimmer and different while he still looks the same

 

[sliemox]

hey how are u getting on