listen babe, grapes or food is not going to have an immediate effect you need 2 stop pushing have 2/4 ducolax and wait for nature 2 take its course .I had to get it out myself(use your imagination rubber glove anyone.) so I know what I'm talking about here.This will clear up but you need to be patient not easy I know. put some ice in a tea towel also and sit in it.good luck!!! Also insert a suppositery like anusol after it does come out and some anusol cream 2 stop this happening again.