alexmummy07
Silver Member
Hi Girls
Well yesterday was a total emotional day, was a complete mess (TOTM really not helping, but it's a weird TOTM it's there but not and for me that's extra weird'ness sorry TMI also!)
Didn't want to eat either, but got to about 3 and thought I've got to sort myself out before the MIL comes, so decided to have my shake & bar, some water, dry the eyes, re-do make up, and sort the house.
Anyway, MIL came over and we told her the news, which started me off again, not good, but I think she could see it was coming anyway. She has said we can't go on without a car, and wants to help how she can. My nan has also said the same thing, and between them, they have come up with a sum of money they want to put together to help us get something hopefully half decent to get fiance to/from work and to keep us going for the future. They are both non believers in very cheap run arounds, more because of Alex than anything else, because they worry I may be out getting shopping or stuck on Motorway and if it breaks down we could be on our own or something, which I understand I guess. We've got to try and scrap our car for as much money as we can, and then boot sale everything that we don't use (again for as much as poss) also going to get rid of the bridesmaid dressed I bought in January in the Deb's sale, as we won't be getting married next year as planned (funds just wont allow, and I think by the time we do, our thoughts on dresses may have changed etc) So we can give as many pennies as we can towards the car, and they will give the rest.
With regards to CD, neither of them want me to give up completely but having seen the price etc, they agree that it may be time to go up a plan. I weigh in at 12 stone 4 3/4 now, so nan has said get under the 12's then drop it to the 1000 plan, (I'm hoping maybe 2 weeks?) I know will buy more fruit, but I can't see it being over £14 a week, seeing as the boys already have fruit and always end up wasting some as they have so much left over, so I'm hoping this will save some money in that department. If it gets much worse then I will have to go up further to 1200 and drop down to 1 CD meal a day and work up from there. I know in my head and in my heart how much I don't want this to end and how much I do not want to gain the weight, and how much I still want to lose so much more weight, but right now, my priorities have to lay with getting our finances back on some kind of track.
I do have the best family and friends (especially included on Mini's!) but my head yesterday was so messed up, I just feel like I'm so sick of having to ask for help all the time.
On the plus I've spoken to a few more agencies, and e-mailed our local youth centre about some possible positions, and will see what comes of them.
Right, well I'm off to finish packing bag, as going off for a swim (a free one, as Alex is free, and I have a free bottle top - cheap skate me eh! Try to clear my head a bit before the weekend kicks in!)
Thanks for all your replies so far, they really are all appreciated x
Well yesterday was a total emotional day, was a complete mess (TOTM really not helping, but it's a weird TOTM it's there but not and for me that's extra weird'ness sorry TMI also!)
Didn't want to eat either, but got to about 3 and thought I've got to sort myself out before the MIL comes, so decided to have my shake & bar, some water, dry the eyes, re-do make up, and sort the house.
Anyway, MIL came over and we told her the news, which started me off again, not good, but I think she could see it was coming anyway. She has said we can't go on without a car, and wants to help how she can. My nan has also said the same thing, and between them, they have come up with a sum of money they want to put together to help us get something hopefully half decent to get fiance to/from work and to keep us going for the future. They are both non believers in very cheap run arounds, more because of Alex than anything else, because they worry I may be out getting shopping or stuck on Motorway and if it breaks down we could be on our own or something, which I understand I guess. We've got to try and scrap our car for as much money as we can, and then boot sale everything that we don't use (again for as much as poss) also going to get rid of the bridesmaid dressed I bought in January in the Deb's sale, as we won't be getting married next year as planned (funds just wont allow, and I think by the time we do, our thoughts on dresses may have changed etc) So we can give as many pennies as we can towards the car, and they will give the rest.
With regards to CD, neither of them want me to give up completely but having seen the price etc, they agree that it may be time to go up a plan. I weigh in at 12 stone 4 3/4 now, so nan has said get under the 12's then drop it to the 1000 plan, (I'm hoping maybe 2 weeks?) I know will buy more fruit, but I can't see it being over £14 a week, seeing as the boys already have fruit and always end up wasting some as they have so much left over, so I'm hoping this will save some money in that department. If it gets much worse then I will have to go up further to 1200 and drop down to 1 CD meal a day and work up from there. I know in my head and in my heart how much I don't want this to end and how much I do not want to gain the weight, and how much I still want to lose so much more weight, but right now, my priorities have to lay with getting our finances back on some kind of track.
I do have the best family and friends (especially included on Mini's!) but my head yesterday was so messed up, I just feel like I'm so sick of having to ask for help all the time.
On the plus I've spoken to a few more agencies, and e-mailed our local youth centre about some possible positions, and will see what comes of them.
Right, well I'm off to finish packing bag, as going off for a swim (a free one, as Alex is free, and I have a free bottle top - cheap skate me eh! Try to clear my head a bit before the weekend kicks in!)
Thanks for all your replies so far, they really are all appreciated x