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Low self esteem issues.


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I, guys, have low self esteem issues and would love to know if it's just me?? or if there are people out there with the same problems. I have tried speaking to my partner about it all but because he's pretty happy with himself, he cant understand why I am the way I am.

To cut a very long story short... We both had a "discussion" last night... You know one of those not quite an argument but not a conversation sort of things. Anyway he was upset with me because I had shown a glimmer of jealousy with regards to one of his female co-workers who he happens to be talking a lot about recently.

Now I trust my partner fully... I know full well that he has no desire to cheat on me and I know that he loves me a lot. Yet I still get these little glimmers here and there that make me feel awful. Ive tried to explain that obviously its a me problem, because I hate the way I look etc and not his problem... and mainly that the low self esteem flairs up because I know that the person infront of me is skinner then me and therefore, stereotypicaly, prettier then me.

I think im kinda going off track here... But recently its really bugged me. I'm trying my hardest not to be jealous of his female friends... and most of the time it works pretty well. And I cant help being over protective of the things that I love. But its the insecutiry and low self esteem that I just got to work with... and I dont know the best step forward.

So is it just me? Does anyone else know that what they are feeling doesn't make sense but it does?
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What do you like doing?

What made you most proud of yourself during your entire life?

What is it that you always wanted to do and you never found the time?

What role does money play in your life?

What is it more important for you, you family life or your career?

How much do you depend on others?

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small steps

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Your posting, in a strange way made me smile about think about my relationship. I have talked to my boyfriend about self esteem before. He cannot comprehend that women lack confidence about themselves or have glimmers of jealousy about other women. My boyf is full of confidence (even though he is balding, chubby and farty)

Obviously, your partner loves you. You just feel protective, because you see him as a catch. Also remember, that you are a catch - he is with you because he sees something in you, which meant he wanted to spend his time with you.

Possibly the best person to discuss your insecurities with are women. Men, bless them, don't understand.....


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I am intrigued by your answer. I have to admit that when I wrote my post, I didn't think that anyone would come back with the answer of meditating. From a cynical point of view, I guess I have always thought of meditating as 'just a waste of time' because I've always seen it as a trance thing.

Yet in a way you have managed to put a point across. I instantly thought while reading your post that it was a 'waste of time' and that I didn't have time to be doing those sorts of things. However upon reflection, I SHOULD be putting more time towards myself. The modern day person is constantly rushing around and we never take a break. Maybe sitting down and actually thinking through my problems might actually make it better. Or if it doesnt then at least I have had a bit of 'me time.' ;)

Small steps-

It is nice to know that my man isn't the only one who doesnt understand. ;)

I have thought about speaking to other women such as friends and family but I always find that it is too biased towards me. They, like my boyfriend, can't understand why I am feeling the way I do. Actually apart from my mum. I spoke to her a few days ago after a small blip, and she actually acknowledged that after my recent weight gain, she could see that in some situations I wasn't as comfortable as I used to be. It made me feel good that she could acknowledge it... but awful at the same time because I wondered then if it was obvious. haha.

I think deep down I know my problem is that I dont feel happy with myself at the moment. So therefore I find it hard to accept that people are happy with me... if that makes sense.

I guess talking it through really is the best way forward. :/


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