Im guessing that this is where the difference between the sexes comes into play; from what I gather from reading posts on here, you ladies seem to rely on the group aspect of LL, making new friends, the journey together etc.
Obvisouly I cant speak for other guys on here, but I know that I am the opposite to that; as much as I get on with the other guys in my group, I don't feel in any way that I require them to be there for me to succeed. I guess part of that is that there are so few of us, for the last 3 weeks there has only been me and 1 other guy at the meeting.
I go to hear what my LLC has to tell me, talk to him about anything I need to, and that's all. I find I only hear from the other guys what I've said/though/am thinking anyway.
I've come away from several meetings thinking they were a bit of a waste, but those were the ones where he didn't do any of the TA or CBT stuff, being sciencey that's what I find really intrguing about LL (hence why I read up on the entire program before I even started it!
) so the meets where it's just having a 'chat' I find a waste, as the other guys are not very open and only talk about things that I already know anway and quite often have posted about on here or talked to my family about weeks before they bring it up (OK, so thats a very big-headed thing for me to say, but its been true every week so far).
The one thing I am greatful about thge group aspect for is that it has actually shown me how well I can do something I put my mind to and how thorough and determined I am, by giving me other people who are doing the exact same thing to compare myself agasint.
The "changing your mentality" stuff is what I go to the meetings for, not the group aspect and and as BL says, perhaps that would be a good approach for you too, look at it as just going as part of your individual journey?
