SLACK ALICE
Silver Member
Sorry -gonna be long !
We all know its easter break for the kids,So Once again the owness falls on me to look after our disabled son- Now dont get me wrong ,I lov him to bits , but why is it always me ?
This was the argument I had with OH yesterday and sorry to say it still carrying on today- he just dont get it.
Yes I know he goes to work 5 days a week and brings home the money - I work 12 a week - cant work more
1, no hours at work
2, Have to be home for son
3, Not allowed to work more than 16 hours per week(carers allowance)
But It got to the point where he said ..I should find a job that pays the same amount of money he gets and then he would stop at home and look after son !!
but on the same token I will have to do all the ''Man'' things he does ??ie gardening, building,fixing things etc
afterall his money pays the mortgage!!
For all I care this place could burn down I dont care
He just doesnt get it.
I dont want to stay at home ,looking after son, changing him feeding him etc. I ve had to do it for 20+ years and it has always been me that has to do part time work and stay at home -not him.
Last week he has been coming home at 7.30 or later - I told him he better not do it this week I will kill him.
i dont go out - I would feel guilty leaving OH at home with son. But wot I want to know is why is it always me?
I phoned my sister and she says . That thousands of women do this - look after their kids- Yes I know but not for 20+ blooming years. so she dont get it either.
We have also lost sons respite - we are now allocated 13 nights per year and I need to save them for september. So we wont get a break till then. so it will be until then just the 3 of us day in and day out. Even then they cant garantee any respite- I live in hope
I am finding this is having an affect on my SW aswell Im STS or gaining cos i just dont give a dam anymore. This is all gonna fall apart -I can see it now.
Has anyone on here gone through this and made their OH understand?
sorry for going on but Im upset- I want a life :cry::cry::cry:
We all know its easter break for the kids,So Once again the owness falls on me to look after our disabled son- Now dont get me wrong ,I lov him to bits , but why is it always me ?
This was the argument I had with OH yesterday and sorry to say it still carrying on today- he just dont get it.
Yes I know he goes to work 5 days a week and brings home the money - I work 12 a week - cant work more
1, no hours at work
2, Have to be home for son
3, Not allowed to work more than 16 hours per week(carers allowance)
But It got to the point where he said ..I should find a job that pays the same amount of money he gets and then he would stop at home and look after son !!
but on the same token I will have to do all the ''Man'' things he does ??ie gardening, building,fixing things etc
afterall his money pays the mortgage!!
For all I care this place could burn down I dont care
He just doesnt get it.
I dont want to stay at home ,looking after son, changing him feeding him etc. I ve had to do it for 20+ years and it has always been me that has to do part time work and stay at home -not him.
Last week he has been coming home at 7.30 or later - I told him he better not do it this week I will kill him.
i dont go out - I would feel guilty leaving OH at home with son. But wot I want to know is why is it always me?
I phoned my sister and she says . That thousands of women do this - look after their kids- Yes I know but not for 20+ blooming years. so she dont get it either.
We have also lost sons respite - we are now allocated 13 nights per year and I need to save them for september. So we wont get a break till then. so it will be until then just the 3 of us day in and day out. Even then they cant garantee any respite- I live in hope
I am finding this is having an affect on my SW aswell Im STS or gaining cos i just dont give a dam anymore. This is all gonna fall apart -I can see it now.
Has anyone on here gone through this and made their OH understand?
sorry for going on but Im upset- I want a life :cry::cry::cry: