Westie, thanks for that its useful info.
That doctor just didnt seem to get it at all, I might ask a different one again in a couple of months but to be honest my confidence is dented a bit, it took a lot to go and tell someone i thought i had a problem, and to just be told to stop being silly really got to me.
I think i'll try and get some books on the subject for now, I did look into paying for my own cousellor, but its £80 an hour.. not something we can afford ontop of paying for VLCD too.
xx