thanks soon2b, Ihave a close friend nearby which will be good as I live 30 miles from town.. My mum is 50 miles away but helps when she can, they are both in creche, havent thought about the financial implications yet, wont surprise me if he tries to patch it all up, he has and has succeeded before, I dont know, I feel like whatever happens I need a few weeks on my own, to think, not been happy for a while neither is he, well he certainly doesnt act it anyway, without going to into it all, maybe we will work it out, but I need him gone... The girls will be ok, i dont think he will be an awol father but then you never know with them do you... hope he doesnt make things difficult but I have a feeling he might, but heho, Im a strong lass.. soryy to waffle this is a lipo forum not dear dierdre lol xx thanks for the replies x