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Discussion in 'Exante - Diaries' started by wellyb, 23 May 2014 Social URL.

  1. wellyb

    wellyb Member

    AM writing this for the same reason as everyone else, to capture my reasons for being here and hopefully to help me stay focussed and motivated. I started this diet on Monday and was 100% until last night, first time someone offered me a glass of wine and I just caved, no coercion on their part, just lack of willpower on mine. Lesson learnt, and back to it.

    I have been around 13st for about 5 years, generally losing 7lbs every so often and then putting on 8 so the creep upwards has been gradual, my horror when I stood on the scales and saw I was nearly 14 stone made me realise it was time to take decisive action.

    I have done LL before, maybe 9 years ago and I lost a lot of weight, getting to 11 stone, where I was really happy and it was probably the best year of my life, being thin and feeling so good really is worth giving up the piles and piles of rubbish I shovel down my neck each day.

    I am an excuse maker and I tell myself that I deserve food/wine to compensate for things going wrong in other areas of my life. I also do have a very active social life and I enjoy being out and about having a laugh.

    I live alone, so if I have a night in, I think I deserve a treat, I will get wine and crisps or wine and cheese or wine and pizza. I go out a lot after work for drinks and food, always make the wrong choices. Example Pizza Express with a thin friend - she orders a Leggera <500 cals and a gin and slimline tonic, me I order the biggest pizza and an enormous glass of wine >1000 cals.

    Its these simple things I need to learn, along with things like Birthday's are a day long, maybe stretch to a weekend but do not mean you can eat like a pig for an entire week and lie to yourself that you won't put weight on. Similarly Christmas does not begin on December 1st and it is not actually the law to eat a mince pie and sweets and crisps EVERY DAY (I wish it was though).

    I think the biggest realisation for me was that I had accepted my life as it was, I was never going to be thin again, I would just become a middle aged single tubster who will wear whatever fits and is a fan of the elastic waistband. I think I have been a bit depressed to be honest with you because as soon as I made some changes to my working life, like boundaries, not working so hard I suddenly discovered this urge to look nice again and to be glamorous and slim and all that stuff. So here I am determined to make it a reality.

    Please do drop by and say hi and share any thoughts, am dreading my first Friday without any of the usual accompaniments, am considering a swim.
     
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  3. Aryathebrave

    Aryathebrave Well-Known Member

    Hello and welcome. I'm at the start of this journey myself (day 5) and feel that writing a diary really helps. I took me about 3-4 days to feel better (ketosis?)feel excellent now (and still 100%). Good luck resisting the Friday temptation - I am off the whole of next week and will probably struggle, too. x
     
  4. Thornhill Cate

    Thornhill Cate 50+ and fabulous

    Welcome and well done on biting the bullet and deciding to do something about it. Quite a lot of what you said sounded like me. Hovering around 13st for years; losing lots of weight but then putting it back on; accepting that I wasn't meant to be thin; then hitting a point at which I just had to get a grip. You've done a VLCD before so you know the pitfalls. Wishing you lots of luck and determination and if your own is failing then get on here and conjure some up from someone. :)
     
  5. wellyb

    wellyb Member

    Hi Arya - Great to hear from you. I actually feel great, also on day 5, if I overlook the wine last night. I know it sounds stupid but I already feel like walking is easier and my energy levels are up, my concentration is still pretty shocking but I suppose all Exante can do is make us thin, not work miracles! Would be great to stay in touch and follow your journey, am here for moral support if you need it on your week off. Are you doing any kind of exercise? I am going to start swimming and try and walk a mile or 2 each day.
     
  6. wellyb

    wellyb Member

    Hi Cate - you are doing so well and thanks for reading, a stone already, have you set yourself mini goals/rewards to keep yourself motivated?
     
  7. wellyb

    wellyb Member

    Friday night is tough and its not even 7pm, luckily someone just mailed some pictures they took of me where I look like a hulk compared to the women I was standing with. Resolve reaffirmed, I can totally do this. Will keep looking at pics whenever I am thinking about going off plan.
     
  8. Susie58

    Susie58 Well-Known Member

    Welcome to the forum Wb & well done on making the decision to bring about a change.

    Visual prompts are always a good motivational tool aren't they. Have you thought about any mini goals you would like to achieve that may help you along the way ?

    There is lots of support on here & keeping a diary will help you stay accountable to yourself.

    Enjoy your evening xx
     
  9. Aryathebrave

    Aryathebrave Well-Known Member


    Not done any exercise yet apart from walking but planning on squats and some other resistance ones. Can't do much cardio due to tendonitis :mad:
     
  10. wellyb

    wellyb Member

    Hi Susie, thanks for the tips, having this forum to vent and get inspiration from is so helpful. I have actually got things every few weeks, so plenty of reasons to keep going and hopefully friends and colleagues who haven't seen me for a while will notice my shrinkage and that will help me to stay motivated. Just need to be careful to minimise the risk when I am socialising. Am off to stay with a friend next weekend - and have told him to make me low carb stuff and that I will probably miss breakfast etc and just have my packs. I have a big party to go to at the beginning of July where I will see hundreds of people and I really want to look nice for that and be able to wear a nice dress.

    You must be getting lots of nice comments by now from family and friends? What keeps you going?
     
  11. wellyb

    wellyb Member

    Hope everyone has had a good BH in between dodging the showers? Tough going for me sticking to 100% as I was away staying with family, however they were all really good and I asked them if they wouldn't mind ignoring me at mealtimes and just letting me stick to my soups and shakes and they were great, no one even tried to tempt me and we enjoyed a few walks and time in the garden so feel really pleased and don't feel like I have missed out.

    Was my first official weigh in today but though I would wait till I got home in case their scales are different, in any case I have definitely lost 7lbs so am pretty delighted with that, just over a stone and a half to go - sounds easy when you say it like that :). Tomorrow morning will be the official result. Does anyone else try balancing on one leg etc to see if it makes them weigh less on the scales?

    Anyway, am feeling really motivated and have said no to a few drinks in the sun this afternoon to go swimming instead, energy levels are the highest they have been for possibly a year!

    Hope you have all managed to keep losing and not been led astray my family members bearing food and booze x
     
  12. x-Katie-x

    x-Katie-x Well-Known Member

    Hurray to feeling motivated and positive - on the plus size you don't have so much to lose so you shouldn't be doing the diet for very long, all credit to you for taking control of this (and other areas of your life ) and for doing this now and not just doing nothing and putting on more weight which is what I've done in the past.

    Its a really good idea keeping a diary as you can capture the highs and lows (hopefully none ) and reading it back at a difficult moment really can help.
     
  13. wellyb

    wellyb Member

    Thanks Katie, sounds like you had a great weekend too. Its amazing we let ourselves get in that rut, but it is so easy, the diary and people on here really help. It was definitely a cross roads for me, am even thinking about starting online dating in a few weeks. Next weekend is tricky as away with friends and will definitely be off plan for a day but am going to let them know so I am not pressured and can make sensible choices. Here's to a good week and plenty of weight loss all round x
     
  14. Thornhill Cate

    Thornhill Cate 50+ and fabulous

    Well done for being good with your family and for your 7lbs weight loss so far.
     
  15. Aryathebrave

    Aryathebrave Well-Known Member

    Well done for staying strong!
     
  16. wellyb

    wellyb Member

    Thanks Arya, am amazed I lasted the week and feel so upbeat. Did my official WI this morning and have lost 9lbs since I began, pretty pleased with that it has to be said. Just another 3 lbs off and I will have hit the 12s. Squeee, if I am dead good that could be this week/early next.
     
  17. x-Katie-x

    x-Katie-x Well-Known Member

    Well done that's a great loss - you'll be in the 12's in no time :)
     
  18. Aryathebrave

    Aryathebrave Well-Known Member

    What a great loss! Keep strong, you'll get there! X
     
  19. Thornhill Cate

    Thornhill Cate 50+ and fabulous

    9lbs is fab. Well done. :)
     
  20. Susie58

    Susie58 Well-Known Member

    You're doing so well Wb, that's an excellent loss. Stick with it & the 1st stone will be gone before you know it xx
     

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