loula
Full Member
Evening all,
Need to vent and share!
I went round to a friend's last night - there was me and two friends. Another friend and her boyfriend came over, and I haven't seen the boyfriend very much over the last couple of years. He gave me a hug, quite clearly looked me up and down, and said "nice to see you Lou, you look.....errrr.......uhhhhh..... well....". I read this as "Hi Lou, you look like a big fat whale and have blatantly stacked on shedloads of weight". OK, he might have been genuinely saying I looked well but I just can't see that. Apart from the fact that I looked hideous last night - thought it was just a quiet night in and so was wearing jeans/sweater/ no makeup etc.
I just didn't know what to say. So I removed myself pronto, went into the garden and smoked 3 cigarettes back to back, and made an excuse and left shortly thereafter.
Am I being too sensitive? It was probably just a little comment that meant nothing to him but it really knocked me sideways. I've been sulking about it all day today in fact.
Why couldn't he have just said "hi how have you been" or "good to see you", rather than having to comment about my appearance. GAH!!!!!
Loula x
Need to vent and share!
I went round to a friend's last night - there was me and two friends. Another friend and her boyfriend came over, and I haven't seen the boyfriend very much over the last couple of years. He gave me a hug, quite clearly looked me up and down, and said "nice to see you Lou, you look.....errrr.......uhhhhh..... well....". I read this as "Hi Lou, you look like a big fat whale and have blatantly stacked on shedloads of weight". OK, he might have been genuinely saying I looked well but I just can't see that. Apart from the fact that I looked hideous last night - thought it was just a quiet night in and so was wearing jeans/sweater/ no makeup etc.
I just didn't know what to say. So I removed myself pronto, went into the garden and smoked 3 cigarettes back to back, and made an excuse and left shortly thereafter.
Am I being too sensitive? It was probably just a little comment that meant nothing to him but it really knocked me sideways. I've been sulking about it all day today in fact.
Why couldn't he have just said "hi how have you been" or "good to see you", rather than having to comment about my appearance. GAH!!!!!
Loula x