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The Insecurites of being overweight

S: 20st8lb C: 12st11lb G: 11st0lb BMI: 29.8 Loss: 7st11lb(37.85%)
#1
I have been overweight since childhood so i have so many insecurities because of that, I'm i good enough, i dont do confrontation (protection i guess from childhood, if you dont fight with someone you dont get called names), ive kinda built up a wall around my heart, one of my friends says I reject men before they even have a chance to reject me. I dont mean to be a downer as i'm in a good place, but was just wondering if anyone has advice about shedding the emotion baggage as you are shedding the pounds, thanx as always,,xoxoxo
 
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S: 17st6lb C: 17st6lb G: 10st0lb BMI: 63.4 Loss: 0st0lb(0%)
#2
was trying to find a way to answer this but dont really think any1 can!! this is all up to you no one can make you braver louder stronger its all up to you ... at this moment in time you are doing the most difficult diet ever so you should be proud in yourself for that, that is one major step to changing your life i think you just need to realise who you are not the school kid you use to be as your weight reduces treat yourself to hair,nails,clothes nights out you ll probably come out of your self as you become the person you really are as for relationships one step at a time its not like your gonna get married tommorrow meet people get to know them and build up from there. probably sounds like a load of crap but there is only u that can help xx good luck

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get past 1st week
get in to 15 stone
get in to 14 stone
get in to 13 stone
get to 12 1/2 stone
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#3
I can relate to this huni, , I didnt put weigh on until I started having children but I do think sometimes we use the extra pounds to insulate us from the world and put barriers up to keep people away. For every 20 compliments we receive we will still always remember the one negative thing someone said. I think it takes a long time after losing weight to see yourself as others see you. I can also relate to meeting someone and although it could be going really well Im looking for one wrong thing so I can cut and run and prove it never works out for me because I feel comfortable with things going wrong lol I feel nervous when things are going right. Im only just really starting to feel good about myself and know that I can be happy with someone if I just chill out and stop over thinking everything. I dont know if this helps with your post but I do believe that losing the weight is just one battle, as we near the end of it we start looking for the next challenge liking ourselves for who we are, now that we cant hide behind and blame the weight for everything lol :)
 
S: 20st8lb C: 12st11lb G: 11st0lb BMI: 29.8 Loss: 7st11lb(37.85%)
#5
Thanks lovely ladies, i think even writing the issues down and admitting them to someone else helps them go away a little, i so agree with your comment about blaming the weight for everything, i guess i will just take it one step at a time, i have a date on sat nite, I'm brickin it but i promised myself i would out there and meet people so i will let you know how it goes,
 


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