Good grief!
I agree with klare - women can be just as bad - and it's a sad state of affairs (no pun intended).
Here's something you might find interesting...
I once worked for the Jane Goodall Institute of Primatolgy and read some very interesting science papers as a result. One was based on the similarities between how different species of ape interact in the mating sense. Apparently, there has been study into humans and their relationships and some scienctists think we're more like chimpanzees (for instance) than we realise. There is some belief that humans are not 'designed' for monogamy as such, but that it is natural to want a 'top' partner but with many other 'options' too. It's like that in chimpanzee troops - males tend to prefer one female and her company, but will 'mess around' with the other females in the troop too, especially if his top choice going through gestation or nursing (I saw this for myself as my job was to translate the trackers notes from the Gombe National Park into 'science' lingo and then write a report on it. Certain males really did like certain females, and funnily enough this seemed stronger as they aged...the younger males were more promiscuous...sound familiar?).
Now a know a lot of people will say 'pffft' to this - and I am not saying for a moment I believe in it. Perhaps it was the scientific 'thinking' of someone wanting to justify their own behaviour
hehe
But it did make me think...people who have affairs find it hard to leave their wife/husband and a lot of times they never do...with the affair fizzling out. I know finances play a part in it a lot of the time, but it still made me think.
I was cheated on with a boyfriend and it hurts like h*ll. The feeling of betrayal runs deeply, regardless of how close the couple may be (perhaps this is the fact that nobody likes to feel second best, and again links to natures use of hierarchy etc - nobody wants to feel lower down eh?).
I feel for this woman - she must be devestated.
I often wonder why people do this...is a fumble worth losing everything over? Hard to see that it is personally.
xxx
P.S I really am not defending his actions - just sharing something with you x