Truth about failure

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  1. KD

    KD Gone fishing

    Was Cambridge, now maintaining
    A Little About Failure

    "There is no failure except in no longer trying. There is no defeat
    except from within, no insurmountable barrier except our own inherent
    weakness of purpose."
    Elbert Hubbard (1859-1915, American Author, Publisher)

    Failure is one of those life experiences most of us would rather not
    encounter. It's associated with self judgment and negative worth.
    Often, people are hesitant to begin working on their food and body
    challenges because of past failures. They would rather not fail
    again. They say, "Oh well, I tried", and take the failure as "a
    lesson to be learned". Too often, they conclude that the lesson is,
    "I better not try that again."

    Somewhere in our lifetimes, the word failure became synonymous with
    the word "loser." There's often great embarrassment and even shame
    for grownups to have this experience. As children we repeatedly
    allowed ourselves to fail. Without failure none of us would have
    learned how to walk, talk, write, or even ride a bicycle. As adults,
    we shy away from new experiences to avoid risking failure.

    Let's say you've tried to lose weight several times before -- with
    great success. Only to have experienced gaining it all back again.
    So why bother trying again? People will see you as a failure and
    judge you negatively (although not nearly as harshly as you judge
    yourself). They will have pity on you and gossip behind your back.
    You certainly don't want to endure that again.


    "Knowledge rests not upon truth alone, but upon error also."
    Carl Jung (1875-1961 Swiss Psychiatrist)

    Failure is not bad. Actually, it's probably the only way you will
    ever become successful. The obstacles, setbacks, and failures are
    part of your successful journey. Failure is really just feedback
    telling you how to adjust your plan. It is essential to success.
    While it's certainly a giant leap to welcome it with open arms,
    perhaps begin with acceptance that failure is part of every
    successful journey.

    The only true failure is when people give up. Actual failure is
    when we beat ourselves up and learn nothing from our setbacks.
    Confucius is quoted as saying, "Our greatest glory is not in never
    falling but in rising every time we fall." If we embrace our
    failures along with our successes, learning from each, we will grow and
    achieve. The only people who never fail are those who never try.

    A little known formula for success is that success happens because
    of failure. Legend has it that Thomas Edison tried 10,000 different
    filaments before successfully creating the electric light bulb. When
    asked if he ever felt discouraged with so many failures, he answered
    none of his attempts were failures. They were each successful
    experiments in finding what didn't work!

    Henry Ford went bankrupt 3 times before he created a car that
    worked. Colonel Sanders was 65 years old when he tried to sell his
    chicken recipe. He took this recipe to over 1000 restaurants before
    he found a buyer. Walt Disney spoke with over 297 banks before he
    was able to attain a loan for his successful dream.

    The National Weight Control Registry is a research study that seeks
    to gather information from people who have successfully lost at least
    30 pounds and kept it off for at least one year. They report that
    everyone who successfully loses weight and maintains this weight loss
    has tried to lose weight before. Part of their success was that what
    they had learned from past failures.


    What's the lesson in this? Successful people fail more often than
    unsuccessful people. In fact, they fail over and over and over
    It's the failure's themselves that provide learning experiences.
    Wisdom and experience to succeed comes from failure. Successful
    people don't give up because they've failed. Instead they sit back
    and view these experiences as learning opportunities.

    To be successful, we need to design an alternative paradigm for
    failure. Allow yourself to see whatever happens not as failure, but
    as "information." Gather and access this new information and revise
    your plan. Figure out how to adjust your plan and decide what the
    next step will be. Keep going. Immerse yourself in other's success
    stories and model your behavior in a similar fashion.

    Failure can be used as another tool on your journey to a deeper
    appreciation of self and love for self. Failure can be used either as
    a way to close your heart down even more to yourself and others, or
    failure can be a stepping stone to opening your heart even further.
    You can view failure as evidence of your inherent internal flaws as a
    human being. Or you can look to find the emotional and spiritual
    lessons embedded within the failure. To be human is to experience
    failure. Nothing is, or ever was, wrong with you.

    Failure can guide you towards a leap of faith. You can overcome any
    obstacle, any problem, any situation. Find within you the courage to
    walk towards what you really want in life. Learn to encourage
    yourself. Love that you are overcoming fear and attempting something
    new - no matter what the outcome. Of course there will be failures
    along the way. You're learning an entire new set of skills. When
    you occasionally fail -- get up, dust yourself off, access the new
    information, believe in yourself, and begin again.

    ~Author Unknown~
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  3. sumayyah

    sumayyah please try again

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    thank you for posting that
  4. canireallydothis!!

    canireallydothis!! Gold Member

    Hey KD, has anyone told you that you have a very uncanny knack of saying the right thing at the right time x
  5. Busybee

    Busybee Silver Member

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    very good - thank you x
  6. botozi

    botozi Full Member

    Thank you for sharing this eye opener.

  7. Barb

    Barb Gold Member

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    Flippin' heck KD - thats a corker. So much of that applies to everyone and everything, it just shows, it's all an attitude of mind. We get to choose how we view things it's just most of the time we forget that.
  8. dropsofjupiter

    dropsofjupiter Lurks a lot

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    "Failure is really just feedback telling you how to adjust your plan"


    Great post, Thanks Karion.
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