Littleslimmingbee
Gold Member
this months red magazine features a page of letters, written by ladies, to thier teenage selves, now that they have grown up and have the wisdom to see the error in thier previous ways.
Anyways, although its not quite the same, it got me thinking about how much we (or even maybe just me?) rely on others to tell them how great thier weight losses are, and how fantastic they look, how nice your hair may look today, or how fashionable that new piece of clothing you would have never wore before looks on you. Its as if it validates what we were already hoping was the truth, and i thought to myself. the most valuable compliment, is one to myself. Because it must be the truth, it must be more heartfelt and full of emotion because its from yourself. A Nice thing, said to yourself. That you feel is the truth.
often i look at myself and think i could still loose a few pounds.. even though in my heart i hope that i look great as i am, and its not just me 'settleing' rather than pushing for more of a weight loss, and i seek the validation of my other half to constantly re-assure me that i do not.
2 weeks ago, my best friend told me out of the kindness of her heart, and for my best interests only, that her Oh had said ( not in a horrible way) but that if i were to lose anymore weight, i would no longer be womanly. Now, you could read into this and get offended, but i knew (in bloke language) that he was concerned i'd lose all my extra curves, and to him, no longer pocess what he sees as making me womanly.
and do you know what, i agree! - and god, all i wanted was for someone to say it. . not just 'you look great as you are' or 'but you don't need to lose anymore'
So. I thought as a nice thing for ourseves. We should all, say out loud, to ourselves, how we feel about ourselves. Recognise our achievments, and maybe identify our weaknesses, but we should validate our own thoughts, feelings, opinions.. about ourselves.
Am i just rambeling or do i make any sence?
i have just looked at some photos taken over the last 6 months which at the time i thought i didnt look 100% as great as i wanted to, but now looking at them, i think how great i look.. and now, ahlf a stone maybe even more lighter now that im at target, i feel like i must look even better.
so heres my message to me.
To Fern.
Being happy is not being in control. Being happy is love. love for yourself. Love for those around you. Love for the life you are in, and being happy about the love that is given by friends and family. When you are happy, your body is happy. you feel good, you feel healthy. you feel lighter. feeling lighter makes you relaxed, and thus ridding the stress that makes you unhappy. You are happy now, and you do not need to lose anymore, just incase someone else thinks you need to but is too afraid to say.
You are happy.
remember that.
Lots of love, fern xx
Anyways, although its not quite the same, it got me thinking about how much we (or even maybe just me?) rely on others to tell them how great thier weight losses are, and how fantastic they look, how nice your hair may look today, or how fashionable that new piece of clothing you would have never wore before looks on you. Its as if it validates what we were already hoping was the truth, and i thought to myself. the most valuable compliment, is one to myself. Because it must be the truth, it must be more heartfelt and full of emotion because its from yourself. A Nice thing, said to yourself. That you feel is the truth.
often i look at myself and think i could still loose a few pounds.. even though in my heart i hope that i look great as i am, and its not just me 'settleing' rather than pushing for more of a weight loss, and i seek the validation of my other half to constantly re-assure me that i do not.
2 weeks ago, my best friend told me out of the kindness of her heart, and for my best interests only, that her Oh had said ( not in a horrible way) but that if i were to lose anymore weight, i would no longer be womanly. Now, you could read into this and get offended, but i knew (in bloke language) that he was concerned i'd lose all my extra curves, and to him, no longer pocess what he sees as making me womanly.
and do you know what, i agree! - and god, all i wanted was for someone to say it. . not just 'you look great as you are' or 'but you don't need to lose anymore'
So. I thought as a nice thing for ourseves. We should all, say out loud, to ourselves, how we feel about ourselves. Recognise our achievments, and maybe identify our weaknesses, but we should validate our own thoughts, feelings, opinions.. about ourselves.
Am i just rambeling or do i make any sence?
i have just looked at some photos taken over the last 6 months which at the time i thought i didnt look 100% as great as i wanted to, but now looking at them, i think how great i look.. and now, ahlf a stone maybe even more lighter now that im at target, i feel like i must look even better.
so heres my message to me.
To Fern.
Being happy is not being in control. Being happy is love. love for yourself. Love for those around you. Love for the life you are in, and being happy about the love that is given by friends and family. When you are happy, your body is happy. you feel good, you feel healthy. you feel lighter. feeling lighter makes you relaxed, and thus ridding the stress that makes you unhappy. You are happy now, and you do not need to lose anymore, just incase someone else thinks you need to but is too afraid to say.
You are happy.
remember that.
Lots of love, fern xx
