A place to keep my focus on being good!

Finally remembered to take a pic of tea tonight!
It was a southern fried chicken breast with lettuce & that new mayo which has cracked black pepper in it , all in a wrap :)
So full now! Xx

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thelifeofpieface said:
Finally remembered to take a pic of tea tonight! It was a southern fried chicken breast with lettuce & that new mayo which has cracked black pepper in it , all in a wrap :) So full now! Xx <img src="http://www.minimins.com/attachment.php?attachmentid=148592"/>
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That looks lovely x
 
No I'm not into spicy food either, it just hurts my mouth lol I think it was a mix of the southern fried chicken & too much of the pepper mayo x
 
I dunno if anyone can give me shy advice but here goes..
I have my brother & his son down at my mums house (2 minutes away from my house) , we have VERY different parenting styles, and different interests. We just clash. Everything is civil and that but I just don't like being in his company with my daughter.
I've made excuses for a few days but tommorow we need to see them really cos we've been avoiding them for so long. It wouldn't matter if I could easily say "ok we're going home now" after an hour or 2, but whenever I say we're going he's so passive aggressive. For example "well it's just nice for the kids to actually see each other but if you have to go.." Or "right... Ok well we'll just have to find something else to do" .
Just winds me up! I guess what I'm wondering is how do I just be firm with him, like it's so hard because of the way he's so passive aggressive.
Sorry for the rant. Food wise I'm doing ok, had a smoothie, pack of quavers & a babybel so far.. Need to have some tea soon xx
 
thelifeofpieface said:
I dunno if anyone can give me shy advice but here goes.. I have my brother & his son down at my mums house (2 minutes away from my house) , we have VERY different parenting styles, and different interests. We just clash. Everything is civil and that but I just don't like being in his company with my daughter. I've made excuses for a few days but tommorow we need to see them really cos we've been avoiding them for so long. It wouldn't matter if I could easily say "ok we're going home now" after an hour or 2, but whenever I say we're going he's so passive aggressive. For example "well it's just nice for the kids to actually see each other but if you have to go.." Or "right... Ok well we'll just have to find something else to do" . Just winds me up! I guess what I'm wondering is how do I just be firm with him, like it's so hard because of the way he's so passive aggressive. Sorry for the rant. Food wise I'm doing ok, had a smoothie, pack of quavers & a babybel so far.. Need to have some tea soon xx
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I would just say we have to leave in ten minutes as we have lots to do, if he is rude just say, it's nice to see you for the time we can, we will do it again soon. Be firm you have a right to leave if you want, well done for going for the hour x

How long are they there for now? Will you have to see them many more times? X
 
Thanks binkybonk - yeah I think I just have to be firm , I'll try my best. He's here till next Monday but we're gonna do our own thing on sat & sun so just gotta put up with it this week & maybe Monday. So annoying when it's family cos there's not much u can do about your family :/ x
 
I think you can be calm, Kind and firm without it escalating. You could do it a couple of ways. When you get there

" It's so nice we can do this, I'm always so busy * cheeky eyeroll* but its so nice to get the kids together when we can. I can only stay an hour today, I'd love it to be more but sadly I've got lots on. Oh well, They can have a nice catch up in that hour I suppose. So Have you got any plans for later on?"


Boom. Its to the point but almost manipulative to the point you're not giving him a chance.

If he says " Oh, It's a shame you can't stay longer "
your reply is " I know, I'm so glad I managed to find this hour or they wouldn't of got together at all! There really isnt enough hours in the day!! "

If he says " Well what other stuff do you have, Can they stay and you go? "
your reply is " Thats a really sweet offer, I'll bare that in mind for next time I'm a bit short on time, Don't worry about it for today though. I've got a plan! haha. * insert subject changer in here*


THEN when it comes to leaving " Ahh where does the time go!! I have to get going, Thanks so much for having us over, even if it was only for an hour, It's been lovely catching up, Hope you have fun doing * whatever he said his plans were * and don't work too hard and close the conversation, Don't leave it open. Boom. Drive home as fast as you can :p

lol xx
 
Thank you for the advice lovely, I'm gonna use those lines tommorow! I'm a proper wimp when it comes to any sort of confrontation , but I am slowly getting better. I really appreciate you taking the time and sending such a detailed helpful answer, thanks :)
Xx
 
I've decided to have a "free" day today. So whatever I eat I eat. I've been doing pretty well recently so I think I'm gonna have a day off to give me a kick start over the weekend. It seems like whenever I have a naughty day I feel really motivated to be good afterwards ... Weird! :/
Hope everyone is having a nice day :) xx
 
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