Absolutely FED UP.

[KayMarie]

I need to vent some fed up-ness.

So far on Xenical, I have lost 21lb. Now, I lost most of this in the beginning and the last month has just been an absolute nightmare.

I started at 277 a few months ago and am currently down to 256.

I gained 6lb on holiday, which took me from 258 to 264, then when I came back from holiday I dropped back down, then the week after stayed the same and this morning I was 256.6. I weigh myself first thing on a morning, with just my knickers on, so I know its accurate, yet if I weigh myself at the end of the day, with clothes on I can be 264, even if I have weigh at 258 on the morning????

I haven't got back in to the swing of going to the gym, because to be quite frank I'm knackered from uni work, placement, my house etc... and I know its no excuse, I'm back at my spinning class tommorow. And I have had a few lairy nights out since being back and eaten out etc... but i have restricted myself when out and been semi sensible!

I have noticed a lot of difference clothes wise, i'm in size 18 dresses now and bought a size 18 denim jacket at the weekend and I do look better which is really nice...I just want it to keep going...

I just feel like its not happening quick enough. I want it all gone. This is the last of my missions and I want to be slimmer and enjoying going to the gym and enjoying exercise but I can't, because as I am now, it's bloody hard work.

Whats frustrating is, before I started all this and up until recently, I was happy, I wore what I want, did what I want and it didn't bother me like that, but now I feel like I am fixated on my appearance and losing weight and If i don't lose or don't feel like i look better it totally gets me down, when it didn't before.

I want to go on Lighter Life. I wanted to do that originally, I have been working my money out and I would just be able to do it, it would mean not socialising for 5 months (hopefully less) but it would be sooooo worth it! And then it would be gone and I could carry on eating healthily, enjoying working out and maintaining like I have been doing for a long time now, its not maintaining I struggle with, it's shifting it.

But as soon as I mention it to Curtis he goes balistic, says it's stupid, its ridiculous money and dangerous to starve myself and if I did it, it would be the end of us and thats not fair!

I don't tell him he can't go on track days and risk his life because its dangerous and a lot of money do I? and as soon as I say - "well i don't want you doing track days then or I'll leave you!" I'm being ridiculous and its not the same.

I'm frustrated and I'm SICK OF IT. I've never posted a whiney post liek this before and I know I need to buck my ideas up but I'm seriously exasperated at the minute.

/end of rant

 

[flabbybumbum]

Chin up chuck!! These men are a nightmare arent they! One rule for them, another for us. Actually, he's probably just looking out for you, Lipotrim and the like are seriously low calerie. I know that this may not be what you want to hear but in my opinion, vlcd's are not realistic. Ok, so I know the temptation to lose weight that fast, but what does it teach you? You need something that you can do for life, and drinking powder shakes isnt a normal lifestyle. I dont want to sound like I'm lecturing you, I do know where you are coming from, we all want it gone asap! By the way, I don't know if you saw that programme on BBC1 tinight but I just caught up with it on iplayer. It had some interesting points and maybe a few suggestions you can try? Let us know if your fedup-ness passes or if you do take the leap to lipotrim. Best wishes x

 

[flabbybumbum]

Sorry, meant lighterlife!

 

[chocolateandskyblue]

hun please vent all you like, its what were all here for.

The choice is obviously yours, however I believe more steady losses are the long term investment we need to make, the danger with losing it fast is it tends to go back on and more just as quick. Also as flabby as already said its not a "real" way to be so it wont actually re-train your eating habits which is definately instilled with xenical.

I too, hit a bit of a plateau over the last few weeks losing an average 1Ib a week, seeing the losses on here made me re-evaluate what I was actually putting in my mouth and I stepped up the game with the exercise. This resulted in a 5 1/2 loss this week.

I am sure you can do it, as you have said yourself you havent been as in to it since your holiday, maybe all you really need to do is get fully back in the game.

i think your fella is concerned as there have been some bad stories about VLCD's and unfortunately men often dont express concern in a great way and it can end up as coming across wrong. Also if your not feeling great bout things at the mo it can affect how we hear/interpret what is being said to us.

Take some time and think it through before you make a decision, were here for you if you need to talk more. x

 

[billygroat]

Hey KayMarie

I'm a little the same, I am continuously thinking about how I should look etc, its more apparent cos losing weight is forefront on my mind as I am achieveing but slowly.

When I was almost 16 stone it didnt matter, i was me and that was it. Now Im julie, losing weight and updating freinds and family on my progress. I am a very impateint person and like you feel it should be disapearing mich faster, i want the last stone and a half gone, now....

We are all somewhere at the in-between stage, not fat, not thin but dieting/changing the way we eat and it will take time, more time than it took us to put it on probably.... BUT I have another 40 years of my life to live and so do you so perhaps put things into perspective?

I am sure the fast losers on VLCD and lipo whatever struggle to maintain, its just a quick fix IMHO and not a manageable change that you can keep up for the next 40 years is it?

Like you I like my weekend binges but if we need a bottle of wine then lets have one to help us along the way.

I need to pick my chin off the floor and did an hours exercise again last night and I felt a hell of a lot better for it (after not during haha) I run my own company, house, have 3 kids and never get time to myself BUT you get out what you put in darling so keep on track.

Vent more if you neeed to, dont be ashamed, its better out than in!!!!

xx Julie

 

[pancras]

Hi Kaymarie

Sorry to see your frustrations over this diet. I am here to put in a good word for Lighter Life. I am currently doing that diet and I find it fantastic. While I know it is not for everbody LL is different from other vlcd as they actually do counselling classes with you to help you recognise why it is you over eat. They also work with you when you stop taking the shakes and introduce food back into yur diet.

I would get your boyfriend to look at the lighter life threads here on mm, so he can get a better understanding of how the diet works and how successful some members have been on it.

Anyway good luck on your choice and I hope everything works out for you.

 

[iona.1985]

sorry you're feeling peed off Kayleigh! Curtis is prob worried about the LL - I think it is quite a scary thing tbh to lose so much weight that fast!

If you want a motivational gym buddy you know where i am (although i'm broke at the mo!)

 

[Silence]

Awww Kay Marie I know how you feel! I find the whole dieting experience very frustrating, I get so impatient and worry that I'm too image conscious as well. I also hit plateaus every few weeks with my weight too!

R.e. weighing at night with clothes on... clothes weigh a lot...the other morning I weighed myself in my pants and then again after I'd got dressed (and I'm talking 5 mins after) and I was 5lbs heavier!!! Also consider that our weight naturally fluctuates throughout the day dependent on food and liquid intake, toilet trips and general hormones. The best piece of advice I ever got on Minimins was "don't put too much "weight" on the scales", meaning they're just numbers and as long as the general trend is downwards you're headed in the right direction.
I also agree with most other people in saying that the slow way is probably the best way.

Keep your chin up lass and keep cracking at it.

~Silence~

 

[KayMarie]

Thanks for all the positive messages guys, I appreciate it. I still feel a bit *humph* today but I'm just going to try and channel my energies in to boxing tommorow night.

I went shopping for some newgym clothes today to cheer myself up and gota nice size 18 (I am a 20-22 normally) Head, gym vest and bottoms to go with them, soi'm pleased at that.

I am still very seriously thinking about LL, I am due at doctors on Tuesday, I think I may talk it over with him. Curtis has banned me talking about it (ha!) so I've told him I'll just do it anyway. So I'll see how I feel in a few days time.

I have spent the last 2 years changing my lifestyle which has seen me drop and maintain, that'snot the issue, its shifting what I put on from when I had a bad lifestyle. I want to enjoy the exercise as well...

I'll think about it over the next few days...

Thank you xx

 

[chocolateandskyblue]

Sounds like a great idea to take some time to think it through and chat with your GP.

Means your decision will be made less hastily and from disappointment.

Let us know how you get on hun. x

 

[SacredSilence]

Huge huge hugs to you x

I know EXACTLY how you feel and if i`m honest, I have also considered LL myself

I am not having good weight loss at all, despite eating well and exercising and it is SO soul destroying

I don`t think my DH would be happy if I tried something so drastic, But I know he would support me. I think maybe your DH is just worried x

Let me know how it goes with the Dr,

**more hugs**

LiSe Xxx

 

[KayMarie]

I went to the doctor today and told him how I felt. According to his scales I have lost half aKillogram which isn't much but he was really pleased anyway.

I explained that I had been on holiday and gained 6lb while I was there, lost that and the half a killogram he has recorded,so it was fustrating because I could have lost loads more excess and he said that its still good and that I had lost plenty if that was the case.

I mentioned lighter life and he didn't really say much. He said it was my mood and that I should give it a good go this month and see how I feel!

So that's what I am going to do! Starting with my spinning class tonight! My foof has never had such a battering as what the exercise bike seats do to you! Bloody nora!

Thanks everyone though, I'll give it a good go, up my exercise this month and see how I feel xxx

 

[lucylastic]

Just wanted to add my thoughts - I've been on LL for 13 weeks now, and have lost 4st 1lb, and have gone from a size 20 to a size 14.

That is obviously fantastic, and has improved my self-confidence no end, but what is far more impressive to me, is that through the CBT that LL provides, I have learnt so much about myself - why I have been a yo-yo dieter, what my food triggers are, and what techiniques I can use to maintain my weight in the future, for example.

Soon I will move from the Abstinence part of the programme to Route to Management, which is when you start to re-introduce food. This is done in a controlled way, over a 12 week period, all the time continuing with the CBT and Transactional Analysis.

So, for those that have a negative impression of VLCD's, I would urge you to look at the facts of LL - it is about changing your life, not fast weight loss.

 

[x Nee x]

Chin up chuck!! These men are a nightmare arent they! One rule for them, another for us. Actually, he's probably just looking out for you, Lipotrim and the like are seriously low calerie. I know that this may not be what you want to hear but in my opinion, vlcd's are not realistic. Ok, so I know the temptation to lose weight that fast, but what does it teach you? You need something that you can do for life, and drinking powder shakes isnt a normal lifestyle. I dont want to sound like I'm lecturing you, I do know where you are coming from, we all want it gone asap! By the way, I don't know if you saw that programme on BBC1 tinight but I just caught up with it on iplayer. It had some interesting points and maybe a few suggestions you can try? Let us know if your fedup-ness passes or if you do take the leap to lipotrim. Best wishes x

Sorry to post this here, but what was the programme called?

PS... I hope your feeling brighter now chick and that your partner is supporting you x

 

[iona.1985]

sounds like your doc is nice and supportive Kayleigh! I'm booked in tomorrow with the nurse .. i don't really know what to expect tbh!

 

[flabbybumbum]

Sorry to post this here, but what was the programme called?

PS... I hope your feeling brighter now chick and that your partner is supporting you x

10 things you should know about losing weight - you should find it on bbc iplayer.

Kaymarie - I'm so glad you have decided to take your doctors advice. Give it your all this month and you will hopefully be suprised at the end. You can always re-evaluate depending on the outcome, but at least you can make the choice knowing you've given it everything you've got. All the best, let us know how you get on.
Oh- and I can empathise about those blinkin bike seats - you'd think with all my padding they would'nt hurt but they still do!

 

[KayMarie]

Just wanted to add my thoughts - I've been on LL for 13 weeks now, and have lost 4st 1lb, and have gone from a size 20 to a size 14.

That is obviously fantastic, and has improved my self-confidence no end, but what is far more impressive to me, is that through the CBT that LL provides, I have learnt so much about myself - why I have been a yo-yo dieter, what my food triggers are, and what techiniques I can use to maintain my weight in the future, for example.

Soon I will move from the Abstinence part of the programme to Route to Management, which is when you start to re-introduce food. This is done in a controlled way, over a 12 week period, all the time continuing with the CBT and Transactional Analysis.

So, for those that have a negative impression of VLCD's, I would urge you to look at the facts of LL - it is about changing your life, not fast weight loss.

This was my understanding of LL Lucy, and being a mental health nurse (well 3rd year student) I know CBT is a powerfull tool that would help me.

I'll see how I feel next month. Thanks for your input everyone