kingleds
Gold Member
Need a bit of advice please. I have 2 friends whom have fallen out - not entirely sure what over, as I have been trying to keep out of it. I met friend 'b' through friend 'a', and it seems that friend a is basically got all bent out of shape that I, and other people spend time with friend b when she's not there.
Anyway, it's been going on for weeks now, and I categorically told them both, I wasn't interested in hearing about, I wasn't choosing sides, it's not my argument. Friend b did not come to my bday party as she felt it would cause issues, me, assuming that fiend a was a grown up, tried to convince friend b to come, to not avail. So I invited fiend b round for dinner & drinks the weekend afterward. Friend a went mental, and got upset - when I explained that it was because she hadn't come to my party, friend a says, "well i'd have been really upset if she had been at the party'. Held my tongue (hello? Exactly at what point did it become acceptable to dictate who I have have at my party?).
So, 2 days before NYE I am supposed to have friend b round for drinks. Hubby mentions to friend a's OH (his best mate) that we are having a few drinks, would they like to come round. It all kicks off because we are now apparently seeing friend b 'behind friend a's back. I loose my rag a little bit and tell them both to sort it out one way or another, I don't care if they are friends or not, just don't get me in the middle. We go to friend a's house for drinks as they can't get a babysitter & Friend b is there. Wicked I think, all sorted, they have talked it through. We have a very pleasant evening together. All good. Friend a says to me - do you think friend b will be alight coming to the NYE party? I say, I'm sure it's fine, but will check with the host, who's says , it's fine.
SO, given the above tale, can someone please explain to me how it is that they end up fighting all night at the party, and it's somehow my fault cos I invited friend b (????????) and she is 'pushing in'. Again, not friend a's party anyway, and no the host of the party says she didn't say it was okay! My hubby was there when she said it was, and pointed this out!
Am I being a complete idiot here? Is it actually acceptable to dictate who is at someone else party? Have I suddenly gone back in time to junior school & why the hell can't they just be grown ups? I have to spend time with people I don't particularly like all the friggin time. It's life isn't it??.
Personally, I am tempted to ignore them both till the grow up. But actually, at the moment I am pissed that anyone thought they had the right to tell me who I could have at my bloody party! Am I being unreasonable?
Anyway, it's been going on for weeks now, and I categorically told them both, I wasn't interested in hearing about, I wasn't choosing sides, it's not my argument. Friend b did not come to my bday party as she felt it would cause issues, me, assuming that fiend a was a grown up, tried to convince friend b to come, to not avail. So I invited fiend b round for dinner & drinks the weekend afterward. Friend a went mental, and got upset - when I explained that it was because she hadn't come to my party, friend a says, "well i'd have been really upset if she had been at the party'. Held my tongue (hello? Exactly at what point did it become acceptable to dictate who I have have at my party?).
So, 2 days before NYE I am supposed to have friend b round for drinks. Hubby mentions to friend a's OH (his best mate) that we are having a few drinks, would they like to come round. It all kicks off because we are now apparently seeing friend b 'behind friend a's back. I loose my rag a little bit and tell them both to sort it out one way or another, I don't care if they are friends or not, just don't get me in the middle. We go to friend a's house for drinks as they can't get a babysitter & Friend b is there. Wicked I think, all sorted, they have talked it through. We have a very pleasant evening together. All good. Friend a says to me - do you think friend b will be alight coming to the NYE party? I say, I'm sure it's fine, but will check with the host, who's says , it's fine.
SO, given the above tale, can someone please explain to me how it is that they end up fighting all night at the party, and it's somehow my fault cos I invited friend b (????????) and she is 'pushing in'. Again, not friend a's party anyway, and no the host of the party says she didn't say it was okay! My hubby was there when she said it was, and pointed this out!
Am I being a complete idiot here? Is it actually acceptable to dictate who is at someone else party? Have I suddenly gone back in time to junior school & why the hell can't they just be grown ups? I have to spend time with people I don't particularly like all the friggin time. It's life isn't it??.
Personally, I am tempted to ignore them both till the grow up. But actually, at the moment I am pissed that anyone thought they had the right to tell me who I could have at my bloody party! Am I being unreasonable?
