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Hi Miniminners!
Something has changed recently that I've found quite strange to get my head around!
My Mum has always had an obsession with weight, her own and unfortunately mine too ALL my life, constantly commenting on it and watching what I've eaten! I am sure this has contributed greatly to my unhealthy relationship with food and consequently problems with my weight, but I'll let bygones be bygones as I must take, and am taking responsibility for my own issues and should not blame others!! However everytime I have seen her over the years (every 3 months or so since I have lived 3 hours from home for the past 14 years) she has either made comments or made it obvious that she is biting her tongue when I have tucked into heartier than SHE would like portions or indulged in puddings, or when the topic of 'weight' has arisen!
So anyway, since becoming quite a lot slimmer (was size 20, now size 14), I have noticed that she has gone completely the other way, telling me not to lose much more, that I'm now very slim (I'm not!!) and actively encouraging me to indulge in a muffin or a slice of cake during morning coffee- "surely ONE won't do any harm....."!
I find it fascinating how things can change so much! Don't get me wrong, it's lovely to at last feel that my Mum 'approves' of my 'acceptable' slimness (it's shocking in itself to have spent so many years feeling such pressure!), but I find it quite unnerving! I know that she's genuinely pleased for me- I'm making her sound like an old bat here but she's actually a very caring lovely person- she was brought up by a gaggle of weight-obsessed women so I suppose she just can't help herself, it's been engrained in her! It just feels bizarre that someone can go from one extreme to another in their approach! As a teenager I remember threatening that I would become anorexic to 'show her' (what an awful thing to say) and her response would be "don't be so ridiculous!" and now I think she's actually worried that I WILL take it too far!! I certainly haven't given off any signs of deprivation- I eat really well (and I am still 10lb above the top end of a healthy BMI) I just feel that 2 hours after a good breakfast I don't necessarily need to eat cake before my lunch and I'm OK with not having chocolate and a glass of wine infront of the TV in the evening!
Has anyone else experienced any interesting or unnerving changes of attitude from close family members?
Something has changed recently that I've found quite strange to get my head around!
My Mum has always had an obsession with weight, her own and unfortunately mine too ALL my life, constantly commenting on it and watching what I've eaten! I am sure this has contributed greatly to my unhealthy relationship with food and consequently problems with my weight, but I'll let bygones be bygones as I must take, and am taking responsibility for my own issues and should not blame others!! However everytime I have seen her over the years (every 3 months or so since I have lived 3 hours from home for the past 14 years) she has either made comments or made it obvious that she is biting her tongue when I have tucked into heartier than SHE would like portions or indulged in puddings, or when the topic of 'weight' has arisen!
So anyway, since becoming quite a lot slimmer (was size 20, now size 14), I have noticed that she has gone completely the other way, telling me not to lose much more, that I'm now very slim (I'm not!!) and actively encouraging me to indulge in a muffin or a slice of cake during morning coffee- "surely ONE won't do any harm....."!
I find it fascinating how things can change so much! Don't get me wrong, it's lovely to at last feel that my Mum 'approves' of my 'acceptable' slimness (it's shocking in itself to have spent so many years feeling such pressure!), but I find it quite unnerving! I know that she's genuinely pleased for me- I'm making her sound like an old bat here but she's actually a very caring lovely person- she was brought up by a gaggle of weight-obsessed women so I suppose she just can't help herself, it's been engrained in her! It just feels bizarre that someone can go from one extreme to another in their approach! As a teenager I remember threatening that I would become anorexic to 'show her' (what an awful thing to say) and her response would be "don't be so ridiculous!" and now I think she's actually worried that I WILL take it too far!! I certainly haven't given off any signs of deprivation- I eat really well (and I am still 10lb above the top end of a healthy BMI) I just feel that 2 hours after a good breakfast I don't necessarily need to eat cake before my lunch and I'm OK with not having chocolate and a glass of wine infront of the TV in the evening!
Has anyone else experienced any interesting or unnerving changes of attitude from close family members?
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