curvesncurls
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Yeah it's a funny one, the mother-daughter thing - the way they can say TONS with just a short pause before the comments. People don't like change, even when they really love us. Guess it's just a reaction to that. She wants you to be happy, but is afraid that she won't recognise you or that you're highlighting what she's not doing herself.
(Can you tell I'm struggling with this with my mum too???!!!! She's stuffing herself and getting more depressed about her weight, but doing nothing about and giving digs to my bro about his weight!)
I've another slant on this going on at the moment. I've 2 anorexic/bulimic friends, obsessed with exercise and starving/bingeing and purging. To quote one of them, "I'd be suicidal if I was over a size 6". (I'll not even be a size 6 in shoes - 7 1/2...) They keep pushing it like it's a health fest, but it's an illness. Can't understand me getting any male attention, comments like I need to just make up my mind to lose weight if that's what I want and then, oh I should just forget it cos I'm lovely the way I am, or I'm just jealous.
I didn't mean this to turn into War and Peace, but I think that people like to have you in your box, they know what way things are and where they stand with you, but then are uncomfortable if that changes. It's just having the strength to keep going even when they're not happy...
(Can you tell I'm struggling with this with my mum too???!!!! She's stuffing herself and getting more depressed about her weight, but doing nothing about and giving digs to my bro about his weight!)
I've another slant on this going on at the moment. I've 2 anorexic/bulimic friends, obsessed with exercise and starving/bingeing and purging. To quote one of them, "I'd be suicidal if I was over a size 6". (I'll not even be a size 6 in shoes - 7 1/2...) They keep pushing it like it's a health fest, but it's an illness. Can't understand me getting any male attention, comments like I need to just make up my mind to lose weight if that's what I want and then, oh I should just forget it cos I'm lovely the way I am, or I'm just jealous.
I didn't mean this to turn into War and Peace, but I think that people like to have you in your box, they know what way things are and where they stand with you, but then are uncomfortable if that changes. It's just having the strength to keep going even when they're not happy...