polly.cantle
Member
Hello all!
I'm brand new to this forum - my name is Polly and I've rejoined Slimming World last week (today is my first weigh in!) after originally joining in January and falling off the wagon. I've had weight problems all of my life and have been left a little mentally scarred by the whole issue - it's a long story but I've basically been left being used to not talking to anyone about my weight. I've always been the type of person who prefers to keep my issues to myself and not let them burden other people. Therefor, it's stewed into a physical and emotional problem which now needs sorting.
To try and make a start in getting onto the straight and narrow, my boyfriend had long chats with me about how my weight problem and insecurities were affecting him. He insisted that I get a personal trainer. So, I did and I also joined Slimming World in January. However, my mind wasn't fully focused and I slipped off course. I only ended up losing about 5lbs and a couple of weeks ago, I decided to face up to the fact that I'd gone off track and start afresh.
My main problem is to do with my boyfriend: he feels very hurt that I went off track, which I can understand considering he was so honest with me about how he felt and I had promised him things would change. I've apologised and have gone back to the good old SW routine - counting every Syn and Healthy Extra like nobody's business. I've even given up everything bad that sent me off track before. However, I feel that no matter how well I do, he still brings up the fact that I failed before.
He keeps telling me how he wants to see 'real' results and that I'll only get there by going without sweets, chocolate, crisps, fast food - anything (not even the Slimming World replacements). I've tried to explain that Slimming World isn't about cutting things out entirely and have asked him to come with me to a meeting so he can learn about the program and support me further in getting me to goal. However, he doesn't want to. He insists he knows the program (even though I know he doesn't know it entirely) and that he thinks that I'm in denial if I think I can reach my goal using SW alone.
It's really really frustrating as I have already sacrificed a lot for him - I've gotten a personal trainer despite my concerns at letting someone else into my problem, which he was very insistent on. Plus I've done many other things for him. Yet he won't come along to this meeting with me or listen to me when I try to explain my method of weight loss. I've even tried to compromise by saying I'll go for one month without any chocolate/baked crisps, but this isn't good enough either.
I'm completely torn in what I should do - whenever I try to explain things from my point of view, we get into an argument. So, should I give up everything for him, or show him what I can do my way?
Thank you all and sorry for rambling!
I'm brand new to this forum - my name is Polly and I've rejoined Slimming World last week (today is my first weigh in!) after originally joining in January and falling off the wagon. I've had weight problems all of my life and have been left a little mentally scarred by the whole issue - it's a long story but I've basically been left being used to not talking to anyone about my weight. I've always been the type of person who prefers to keep my issues to myself and not let them burden other people. Therefor, it's stewed into a physical and emotional problem which now needs sorting.
To try and make a start in getting onto the straight and narrow, my boyfriend had long chats with me about how my weight problem and insecurities were affecting him. He insisted that I get a personal trainer. So, I did and I also joined Slimming World in January. However, my mind wasn't fully focused and I slipped off course. I only ended up losing about 5lbs and a couple of weeks ago, I decided to face up to the fact that I'd gone off track and start afresh.
My main problem is to do with my boyfriend: he feels very hurt that I went off track, which I can understand considering he was so honest with me about how he felt and I had promised him things would change. I've apologised and have gone back to the good old SW routine - counting every Syn and Healthy Extra like nobody's business. I've even given up everything bad that sent me off track before. However, I feel that no matter how well I do, he still brings up the fact that I failed before.
He keeps telling me how he wants to see 'real' results and that I'll only get there by going without sweets, chocolate, crisps, fast food - anything (not even the Slimming World replacements). I've tried to explain that Slimming World isn't about cutting things out entirely and have asked him to come with me to a meeting so he can learn about the program and support me further in getting me to goal. However, he doesn't want to. He insists he knows the program (even though I know he doesn't know it entirely) and that he thinks that I'm in denial if I think I can reach my goal using SW alone.
It's really really frustrating as I have already sacrificed a lot for him - I've gotten a personal trainer despite my concerns at letting someone else into my problem, which he was very insistent on. Plus I've done many other things for him. Yet he won't come along to this meeting with me or listen to me when I try to explain my method of weight loss. I've even tried to compromise by saying I'll go for one month without any chocolate/baked crisps, but this isn't good enough either.
I'm completely torn in what I should do - whenever I try to explain things from my point of view, we get into an argument. So, should I give up everything for him, or show him what I can do my way?
Thank you all and sorry for rambling!