curvesncurls
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:cry:Just back from the breast consultant for the routine two year check up. My dad's cousins were diagnosed with breast cancer about 6 years ago and I was sent to the consultant as a precaution. They're both healthy and well, thank God, having both made full recoveries.
The point of the post is that I'm crying my eyes out, as I do every time I see him. He's a nice man, very factual and straight to the point. The first time I saw him, he gave me all the worst case scenarios and told me that I may have to cut off both my breasts as a precaution - it's a choice some women make. Got over that - but hey, it was tough.
The point of the post is that every time I go, he asks me if I've had a child yet. I'm 33 and single - looking like it's gonna be forever at this rate. He then tells me about how it's so much better to have kids under 25, but def before 35 'cos it's so dodgy afterwards. He always makes me feel as if I'm a total waste of space as a woman 'cos this hasn't happened for me yet. (I do know that's not what he means, but it's said in such a flippant way). I do worry from time to time that it's never gonna happen for me, esp as I've friends so much younger than me married with kids and pregnant again.
I tried to distract him by asking him if I was going to lose any weight of my breasts, cos they weren't gettting any smaller - to which I was told no, it's mainly breast tissue because it's waiting for me to get pregnant before it's too late. :cry:
He said they were too small to be reduced and then I sat up after the examination and he went "Oh, they do hang though don't they? And the nipple points down, but nothing can be done about toning them up, cos they wont turn to fat until the breast tissue contracts when you're hitting 60". Ah, they're about the only part of my body that I like - the rest is pretty flabby and ****, so I really needed that like a bullet in the head.
Sorry guys, I know this is a long one and pretty negative - but I was buzzing about the weight loss and feeling good, now I just feel totally hopeless, like I've let life pass me by and that it's downhill from now on. So I guess I'm looking for stories of people who did meet someone and have kids in their lates 30s or 40s - I'm losing the will to live here, I really am - I need a glimmer of hope before I face into the baby talk at work again tomorrow.
Oh, and to top it all off, I dropped a dress size this week - but put on 4 pounds at weight in - have no idea at all how, but doesn't help matters!!
The point of the post is that I'm crying my eyes out, as I do every time I see him. He's a nice man, very factual and straight to the point. The first time I saw him, he gave me all the worst case scenarios and told me that I may have to cut off both my breasts as a precaution - it's a choice some women make. Got over that - but hey, it was tough.
The point of the post is that every time I go, he asks me if I've had a child yet. I'm 33 and single - looking like it's gonna be forever at this rate. He then tells me about how it's so much better to have kids under 25, but def before 35 'cos it's so dodgy afterwards. He always makes me feel as if I'm a total waste of space as a woman 'cos this hasn't happened for me yet. (I do know that's not what he means, but it's said in such a flippant way). I do worry from time to time that it's never gonna happen for me, esp as I've friends so much younger than me married with kids and pregnant again.
I tried to distract him by asking him if I was going to lose any weight of my breasts, cos they weren't gettting any smaller - to which I was told no, it's mainly breast tissue because it's waiting for me to get pregnant before it's too late. :cry:
He said they were too small to be reduced and then I sat up after the examination and he went "Oh, they do hang though don't they? And the nipple points down, but nothing can be done about toning them up, cos they wont turn to fat until the breast tissue contracts when you're hitting 60". Ah, they're about the only part of my body that I like - the rest is pretty flabby and ****, so I really needed that like a bullet in the head.
Sorry guys, I know this is a long one and pretty negative - but I was buzzing about the weight loss and feeling good, now I just feel totally hopeless, like I've let life pass me by and that it's downhill from now on. So I guess I'm looking for stories of people who did meet someone and have kids in their lates 30s or 40s - I'm losing the will to live here, I really am - I need a glimmer of hope before I face into the baby talk at work again tomorrow.
Oh, and to top it all off, I dropped a dress size this week - but put on 4 pounds at weight in - have no idea at all how, but doesn't help matters!!
