Cheb
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Anyone with info or advice about Aspergers please share with me.
My DS has always caused me to worry, lots of his 'funny ways' I've put down to his age and excused him but he's now 10 and I think the penny has recently dropped for me that there's a bit more to his behaviour than just naughtiness and quirkiness.
He was referred to the school Inclusive Learning Tutor just before the summer hols. I had a real heart to heart with her and described my DS in detail, as I was telling her I didn't voice my thoughts about possible reasons but at the end of my long emotional tiarade I raised my question, that having heard about him from his teacher too, did she think Aspergers may be a possibilty? She didn't allay my fears but confirmed what I already knew that lots pointers were plainly there. I felt quite upset but in other ways relieved as somebody was listening and not telling me it was my imagination or that I was just trying to find excuses for his behaviour or my poor parenting.
The Counsellor had very little success with forming a relationship with my DS and he has now refused to work with her further. She is keen for us to have a referral for asessment but I don't know if this is the best thing for him. Will a diagnosis be helpful, or just label him as different? What will it achieve?
He is very bright and if left to work alone is no trouble at all, he finds it very hard though to work or play alongside others. Often this results in him overreacting and becoming aggressive and angry increasingly lately this has led to physical violence. I feel I want to pull him out of school to keep him out of trouble but I know that at some point he will have to live in the real world and will have to learn to cope.
Not sure waht to do, so I guess my question in the first instance is should I accept the referral and go for an asessment?
My DS has always caused me to worry, lots of his 'funny ways' I've put down to his age and excused him but he's now 10 and I think the penny has recently dropped for me that there's a bit more to his behaviour than just naughtiness and quirkiness.
He was referred to the school Inclusive Learning Tutor just before the summer hols. I had a real heart to heart with her and described my DS in detail, as I was telling her I didn't voice my thoughts about possible reasons but at the end of my long emotional tiarade I raised my question, that having heard about him from his teacher too, did she think Aspergers may be a possibilty? She didn't allay my fears but confirmed what I already knew that lots pointers were plainly there. I felt quite upset but in other ways relieved as somebody was listening and not telling me it was my imagination or that I was just trying to find excuses for his behaviour or my poor parenting.
The Counsellor had very little success with forming a relationship with my DS and he has now refused to work with her further. She is keen for us to have a referral for asessment but I don't know if this is the best thing for him. Will a diagnosis be helpful, or just label him as different? What will it achieve?
He is very bright and if left to work alone is no trouble at all, he finds it very hard though to work or play alongside others. Often this results in him overreacting and becoming aggressive and angry increasingly lately this has led to physical violence. I feel I want to pull him out of school to keep him out of trouble but I know that at some point he will have to live in the real world and will have to learn to cope.
Not sure waht to do, so I guess my question in the first instance is should I accept the referral and go for an asessment?