Avoiding social gatherings

[hchappyh]

I also say I'm full - why is it that when you tell people you are on a diet, that instinctively want to offer you more food and not the healthy option either. If one more person says to me, one won't hurt, think I'll scream!!

xx

 

[sugar_fiend]

I'll have to try that! Certain people always try and offer me food. I tend to just say I'm trying to be good and not go into detail that I'm calorie counting - sounds like saying I'm full will get them off my back

 

[tarotwoman]

Yep, saying you're full, not hungry etc defo keeps them off your backs. I never say I'm dieting any more because that's like a red rag to a bull.

Tracey

 

[kellierocks]

Whether eating out or at other people's houses, I tried watching what thin people do. They eat what they want and are happy to leave things.

It's not easy, but I try to force myself not always to say yes to food or nibbles. Anything I think is too fattening, I refuse on the basis that I've just eaten; I don't like it; or I'm full up. I've found that people accept these reasons whereas if you say you're dieting they keep on trying to tempt you.

It may be lying but quite frankly I don't care.

Tracey

Best tip ever-thank you!

 

[JoeyJoJo]

Mmmm indeed - i choose staying in and watching tv rather than going out *sigh*

Not great really!

 

[hchappyh]

Mmmm indeed - i choose staying in and watching tv rather than going out *sigh*

Not great really!

I've just 'spoken' to you on another thread....you really do need to go out and socialise...sorry to nag, but it's not healthy for you...you need to meet people and make more friends...

Going out can be a positive thing. Choose something that you really like wearing and feel comfortable and sexy in...take a deep breath and just go for it. I often find the waiting to go out is worse than the actually being out!

Good luck and you know where we are for positive reinforcement...

xx

 

[Danielle_]

I dont mind going out , but when i am out i lie about what im drinking for instance i will say im drinking vodka and coke but really its just a diet coke. I only do it because i hate drawing attention to myself. However if i have to eat i will fret about it all day :/

 

[sugar_fiend]

Danielle if you think you'll have to eat out check out the menus online at home - there's almost always a semi diet friendly option! A lot of places have the nutritional info already there for you, some don't but it's not too difficult to make an educated guess in comparison to other places selling similar stuff.

Me being me I've checked out pretty much all the places local to me that I'd be likely to end up eating in, and already know what I could choose if I go to any of them now.
That might seem slighty over the top to some, but it stops me from stressing out and worrying.

 

[breadbin]

yeah i hate drawing attention to myself too, always just want to blend in and not be centre of attention but that said i always enjoy myself when i'm out. i think the social aspect outweighs the dieting. as a nurse we're learning all about the holistic care and biopsychosocial models and that its not just one or two aspects of our health we should be looking at but all aspects, can't have true health if one of these are sick.

 

[Dustyroad]

I always have good intentions when going out and im always fine if its just a meal out. Its the parties that im no good at. I say ill just have two glasses of wine then by that time im nibbling at anything going. So unless its an important night out ive been staying in and being good....only until im under control...lol

 

[hchappyh]

dustyroad, that seems like a sensible idea only going out for the real important night outs...On the other hand, you don't want to become a hermit and not go out at all...it's important to have a sensible balance...As breadbin says we need to look at our full health and be happy and that means having friends and socialising as well. It doesn't all have to be about food. A coffee or just a chat is just as good.

Good luck
xx

 

[breadbin]

i find that too once i have a few drinks in me there is no stopping me eating - straight to chinese or chipper!!

 

[hchappyh]

I don't drink when I'm out. Only time I did that was when I was a student. Can't handle it now, so I never end up at the chippy or whatever...At least I don't get fat on a night out, 'cept tend to go out for more dinners so have to be careful what I order!

xx

 

[kellierocks]

oh finally soemthing good about me- I rarely eat after nights out, if I do its very very very unusual. This is not due to willpower trust me, it just never occurs to me!!! woohoooooooo

 

[Lucky Cat]

I don't drink when I'm out. Only time I did that was when I was a student. Can't handle it now, so I never end up at the chippy or whatever...

Oh yeah, those were the days! When you went out and had several bevvies and stopped off at the chippy on the way home for chips and curry sauce! I can almost feel the grease on my lips even thinking about it

 

[hchappyh]

Oh yeah, those were the days! When you went out and had several bevvies and stopped off at the chippy on the way home for chips and curry sauce! I can almost feel the grease on my lips even thinking about it

Best days of my life....loved being a student..Not that I don't love being married and having kids but you know what I mean. Not a care in the world. Out till all hrs..etc etc. The Good Old Days and eating what I liked, when I liked. How I regret that now, but at that time, loved it!

xx