Bank Holiday Weekend from Hell! and advice please!!!

[RenewMe]

I am flagging at the moment. Had to go to a Wedding Reception yesterday and so wanted to remain on plan, so I had my meal pack and protein together an hour before we turned up. There was even a free bar at the reception which was hard as even though I don't drink, (just the odd Malibu and Pineapple and a Baileys at Christmas time!!!) there were literally NO options for me, and I DID NOT want to look pathetic and order a mineral or soda water so I ended up having one miserable diet coke which obviously threw me out of Ketosis to start with... then I ignored the delicious looking buffet but had some chicken pieces... Not a major fail but to me a fail all the same....

Today I have been good, but find this so depressing. With it being Jubilee Weekend am I the ONLY one who feels 'deprived'? Our 'treats drawer' in the kitchen is bulging with naughty things for hubby and DD, but they are very controlled unlike me, and things can end up going out of date in that drawer they are so good!!! ATM, I find myself daydreaming about everything I can scoff.

I am estatic about my weight loss and have been 100% all the way. I find S&S the best ever VLCD I have done and because of the options, I find it easy to stick to and the results are fantastic. I have mentioned earlier that I have moved my goal slightly lower than I intended for my 2 week holiday booked for the end of July. This will give me a whole STONE of 'play' over the two week period. I am only 2 pounds off from my actual goal of 9st but want to get to 8.7 or lower for this holiday so I can enjoy myself and not just suck on a lettuce leaf ...... I have purchased enough S&S packs for my return in anticipation of an inevitable weight gain before I do a re-feed.

On Tues we have been invited to Hubby's friends in Bournemouth, they know I am NOT a drinker but they will want us to go out for a meal. I have refused solely on this basis and said to Hubby he can go with DD and I will just stay, but he is really angry and cannot grasp why I cannot have a 'day off' and start again. He is now also beginning to find this diet is compromising not only mine but his social life/our social life as a family....
Can someone please advise me???!!!

 

[BordersGirl]

To be honest I have always managed to have meals out and find something that fits with the diet to eat. I haven't let the diet dictate my life. Can you not ask to see the menu beforehand and have a think about what you might have that will be more or less on plan? Can you help choose the type of restaurant? I have found more things to eat in more traditional places than Indian or Chinese for instance. Maybe you could look for somewhere that does grilled fish, chicken or prawns and some salad or vegetables maybe, and if the dish comes with rice or potatoes just ask for some more salad instead? Even steak is ok for a one off (S&S have confirmed this). Don't cause a row with hubby, it's just not worth it.

And diet coke doesn't kick everyone out of ketosis. There are some people who are susceptible to it but certainly not all so don't worry on that score. It's more likely that you didn't get kicked out of ketosis, and it's not like you drank gallons of it. Chin up and don't let the diet rule your life, just make sensible choices and all will be fine.

 

[Maka]

I agree with Bordersgirl. You're bound to find your hubby more supportive if you make some leeway for him too.

It's to your advantage that you're not a drinker, so how about following an atkins-style eating plan for the Bournemouth weekend? Stick to meat/protein and veges? It's a different kind of ketosis I think, but maybe you might find that when you get back, you are still in ketosis

 

[RenewMe]

Thank you both BordersGirl and Maka!! Hubby has agreed that I do not have to go and that is a huge relief. I think he realises how important this is to me and is making the excuses for me although he is extremely disapointed...:sigh: I think as they are more Hubby's friends it may appear I am being difficult by not eating and being awkward and I really don't want to explain myself to them.
I know there will probably be plenty of options for me when it comes to restaurants, but I am feeling pretty 'fragile' ATM especially with these Jubilee Celebrations. I still have to get my head around the fact that I can socialise without it solely being a food issue.

I felt more positive today and enjoyed a delicious dinner of plain chicken and Cauliflower 'rice' with my Mac and Cheese meal pack poured on top totally on plan!
Good luck to you both xxx

 

[Saddlebag]

Hiya, just wanted to say I know how you feel when family and friends are putting on pressure to eat and drink. It's not intentional but my nearest and dearest will often ask me to go out as they don't want to exclude me- usually I am happy to say "sorry... Still on my sachets..." but after a few times it gets a bit awkward!
I have not been one to make excuses to eat- if I can find a way around sitting at a table with people, I have. When push comes to shove though, I have done. Despite my obsession and greediness with food, I'm finding being on a VLCD is making me really think about my food choices.
Last week I had to go away with work for 3 days and I did not want my colleague to have to go out and eat alone. I stuck to sachets for my lunch as there were facilities but for breakfast and dinner I dined with her, picking chicken and salad (sounds dull but it was at Nandos!), and a Wagamama broth without the noodles but with the fish and chicken. I really enjoyed the food and went back on plan when I got back. I don't weigh in until Wednesday, but after having a sneaky peek I reckon I'll still have a 3lb loss. So it can be done!! If I can get back on plan, anyone can- I am very greedy! I could easily polish off 3 big macs and would do so quite happily... But losing weight means more to me than the flavour of food now.
As for the diet coke, don't worry about it- I've been drinking it for about 3 weeks and not noticed any difference. Everyone's different. You can still do a VLCD without ketosis, it just helps with the side effects!

 

[RenewMe]

Thanks all for the great advice! I am just getting annoyed with it all at the moment as I have stayed the same for the past week and when that happens, I always end up sabotaging myself... Hoping to shift the last few pounds now.

My Hubby is getting a bit worried about all this and constant reminds me that this is not a 'Lifestyle' and says (obviously) I cannot live on VLCDs forever. After my holiday, I am looking to lose the anticipated weight gain on my return and have stocked up on enough packs for that and then will aim for an Atkins style programme/lifestyle change as carbs appear to be my personal enemy!!
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