Barb's going at it a little differently!
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RainbowRose
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You will get back to where you feel totally focused Barb, hang on in there x Bodies and minds need to adjust to change, and as you know when the lightbulb clicks on..it will be on forever! Take each day as it comes, even not so good days count towards the long term goal...those mixed in with many good days still benefit us in the long term 
Sorry to hear your eyes and lungs are still uncomfy. Ask your doc about the eye irritation or your local phamacist, there will be something out there to soothe them. Take it gradual with the exercise hun, look after those lungs...maybe mention it again to doc?
Have a nice weekend
Sorry to hear your eyes and lungs are still uncomfy. Ask your doc about the eye irritation or your local phamacist, there will be something out there to soothe them. Take it gradual with the exercise hun, look after those lungs...maybe mention it again to doc?
Have a nice weekend
Size 16 Will Do
Silver Member
Morning Barb
Don't beat yourself up about the swimming, have a walk instead a few days till your eyes settle, at least you are still moving.
You are doing great keep it up x
Don't beat yourself up about the swimming, have a walk instead a few days till your eyes settle, at least you are still moving.
You are doing great keep it up x
Barb
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I am struggling girls and coming on here finding all your lovely comments makes me feel ashamed for not being more focused.
I feel panicky about the swimming and not being able to go and yet i know I have to be sensible. I have not been good this weekend at all and am seriously considering skipping weigh in on Tuesday. Then really getting down to it so that the next result will def be a minus. I think if I get on the scales i will see a gain and be so cheesed off.
I now have just 3 weeks till we go away and want to make a difference. Isn't it funny how I set that goal to get 4lbs off for the end of August and have been off track ever since? Makes me think I am not a person who copes well with that kind of pressure.
So, come on, I have to do this.
I feel panicky about the swimming and not being able to go and yet i know I have to be sensible. I have not been good this weekend at all and am seriously considering skipping weigh in on Tuesday. Then really getting down to it so that the next result will def be a minus. I think if I get on the scales i will see a gain and be so cheesed off.
I now have just 3 weeks till we go away and want to make a difference. Isn't it funny how I set that goal to get 4lbs off for the end of August and have been off track ever since? Makes me think I am not a person who copes well with that kind of pressure.
So, come on, I have to do this.
Size 16 Will Do
Silver Member
Or Barb you will get back into it. Draw a line and start fresh in the morning, you have done so well as it is.
If you don't want to weigh then that is your choice, personally I cant keep off the scales which sets my mood for the day!! Not good x x
If you don't want to weigh then that is your choice, personally I cant keep off the scales which sets my mood for the day!! Not good x x
Barb
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You are right size 16, I can't keep off them either and i decided today, a day earlier than normal to weigh and find out the damage. It is not as bad as I thought, 3lbs on but by tomorrow that will be less and by next Tuesday it will be a proper loss again. So not recording the gain 'officially' and will wait for proper weigh in till next Tuesday.
TBH I am relieved, i have been so off the rails these last few weeks it could easily have been a 10lb gain.
So, onwards and downwards.
TBH I am relieved, i have been so off the rails these last few weeks it could easily have been a 10lb gain.
So, onwards and downwards.
clarri
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Barb,
You have to do what is right for you. Do you keep a food diary?? Perhaps revisiting the first few weeks?? You know you can do this. Its hard when your routine is a bit out of kilter, and lets face it you have had a few weeks of socialising which is bound to set your mindset a bit off.
You know you can do this, you know that you want to do it - remember that shock you got that really motivated you to do this.
Dont set goals. You arent in a race, its your journey, little bit at a time, and its going down. Look at how amazingly you have done so far. Just keep it in your mind that you are going to be that healthy woman that doesnt have diabetes.
hugs. xxx
You have to do what is right for you. Do you keep a food diary?? Perhaps revisiting the first few weeks?? You know you can do this. Its hard when your routine is a bit out of kilter, and lets face it you have had a few weeks of socialising which is bound to set your mindset a bit off.
You know you can do this, you know that you want to do it - remember that shock you got that really motivated you to do this.
Dont set goals. You arent in a race, its your journey, little bit at a time, and its going down. Look at how amazingly you have done so far. Just keep it in your mind that you are going to be that healthy woman that doesnt have diabetes.
hugs. xxx
Barb
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Thank you Clarri, what very wise words. I am not in a race, you are so right. But isn't it frightening how easy it is to start slipping backwards? I will revisit my food diary, which I do keep every day and I still have that beating diabetes future very much in mind.
Lovely of you to come on and help, I need firm words right now, to get me back on the straight and narrow!
Lovely of you to come on and help, I need firm words right now, to get me back on the straight and narrow!
RainbowRose
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Hi barb, now you and I both know that wee gain will be back off in no time at all. I know how much you miss swimming, but I always know how much you want to change your lifestyle..and exercising in the pool is only part of that lifestyle change...so re-focus hun, sit comfortably back on the track *here. squeeze in next to me..i've managed to leave a wee space for you!!! *.....and do your own thing, in your own time..the results will be the same for all of us...ONE HAPPY OUTCOME .and as Clarris says, it's not a race..look on at as a nice steady jog!
Instead of swimming for the moment, try a nice walk around a park or somewhere..even around town window shopping is exercise you know
I'll repeat what my nurse told me weeks ago, 20% of weight loss is due to exercise...the rest is you, your food intake, willpower and self belief!
have a great week ahead Barb, how is your mum these days?
*.....and do your own thing, in your own time..the results will be the same for all of us...ONE HAPPY OUTCOME .and as Clarris says, it's not a race..look on at as a nice steady jog!Instead of swimming for the moment, try a nice walk around a park or somewhere..even around town window shopping is exercise you know
I'll repeat what my nurse told me weeks ago, 20% of weight loss is due to exercise...the rest is you, your food intake, willpower and self belief!
have a great week ahead Barb, how is your mum these days?
Barb
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Thanks Rose, such wise words as always. Kicked one of those lbs into touch already so feeling pleased with myself.
I am not stressing over the swimming, I can get back to it when I am properly better and that is not yet. As DH says, breathing has to be my priority and everything else has to fit in after that. I am hoping that when the children all go back to school the pool people will put a little less chlorine in and that will make it doable again for me. After all, I was fine with it till the school hols, so that could be it.
I also agree about the food etc. I know I can lose weight by cutting out the bad stuff and eating healthily, the exercise is just a bonus that i would like to get back to, but there is no real hurry. I am getting there.
So not altering my ticker, not prepared to put such a temporary gain on there. Bring on next week when a loss can be recorded!
I am not stressing over the swimming, I can get back to it when I am properly better and that is not yet. As DH says, breathing has to be my priority and everything else has to fit in after that. I am hoping that when the children all go back to school the pool people will put a little less chlorine in and that will make it doable again for me. After all, I was fine with it till the school hols, so that could be it.
I also agree about the food etc. I know I can lose weight by cutting out the bad stuff and eating healthily, the exercise is just a bonus that i would like to get back to, but there is no real hurry. I am getting there.
So not altering my ticker, not prepared to put such a temporary gain on there. Bring on next week when a loss can be recorded!
RainbowRose
Gold Member
positive attitude barb..well done, wise words and great advice from your hubby
have a good day hun x
have a good day hun x
Barb
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Had a good couple of days, feel more on track again. I do wonder if there are some 'pre-holiday' feelings creeping in to de-rail me. You know the kind of thing, brain saying, 'oh well you are almost on holiday so you might as well get in practice enjoying yourself'!
Well brain, it is 2.5 weeks till we go and I want to go lighter than I am now, not heavier!
Well brain, it is 2.5 weeks till we go and I want to go lighter than I am now, not heavier!
RainbowRose
Gold Member
Wise words Barb....and the right frame of mind, these next couple of weeks will blast of some pounds just in time for the holiday mood!
Barb
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Wow OTW, you are going great guns. Fantastic achievement and very motivation for others to see.
I'm still being weird. I was very good yesterday again but i feel so depressed. Had good cry yesterday about my Dad, it just came over me in waves. He has been gone 20 months now and it just doesn't seem possible. Also my sis has gone on hols for 16 days which leaves me totally alone caring for Mum and it all just feels too much.
I didn't weaken, despite feeling in desperate need of something 'nice' but this morning after a sleepless night feel down and out of sorts. What on earth is going on with me?
I'm still being weird. I was very good yesterday again but i feel so depressed. Had good cry yesterday about my Dad, it just came over me in waves. He has been gone 20 months now and it just doesn't seem possible. Also my sis has gone on hols for 16 days which leaves me totally alone caring for Mum and it all just feels too much.
I didn't weaken, despite feeling in desperate need of something 'nice' but this morning after a sleepless night feel down and out of sorts. What on earth is going on with me?
RainbowRose
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awww Barb {hugs} the way you feel is perfectly normal for someone who is recovering from being unwell, is tired, and is also coping with looking after an elderly relative.
Sometimes in life, there are many days like this, when we feel the pressure getting to us, and crying is a great release valve when everything seems to get on top of us. You'll always miss your dad hun, there is no time limit to you feeling 'okay' after a certain amount of time after a loss hun. Sometimes certain times of the year, or events just trigger a memory, so just go with the flow hun, remmber your lovely dad with fondness and great memories.
You are probably reaching out for him, wishing he was here to take a wee bit pressure of you while you are feeling out of sorts, as I said its perfectly normal and very understandable.
It won't be long until your lovely holiday, focus on that today, lovely relaxing thoughts, time to unwind and concentrate on yourself and hubby.
Is your mum still in hospital hun? Could you limit your visiting time to a whole afternoon, or a whole evening visit..and allow the staff to take great care of her while you are not there?
Don't burn yourself out Barb, prioritise everything you need to do today and the following days, i hope you feel a bit better later..a good cry is recommended, so don't feel bad for needing to..it will help in the long term
if you've got the time, go and have a lovely long soak, lots of bubbles..have a wee cry if you need to, and clear your mind...then smile and take on the rest of the day...calmly and slowly x
Sometimes in life, there are many days like this, when we feel the pressure getting to us, and crying is a great release valve when everything seems to get on top of us. You'll always miss your dad hun, there is no time limit to you feeling 'okay' after a certain amount of time after a loss hun. Sometimes certain times of the year, or events just trigger a memory, so just go with the flow hun, remmber your lovely dad with fondness and great memories.
You are probably reaching out for him, wishing he was here to take a wee bit pressure of you while you are feeling out of sorts, as I said its perfectly normal and very understandable.
It won't be long until your lovely holiday, focus on that today, lovely relaxing thoughts, time to unwind and concentrate on yourself and hubby.
Is your mum still in hospital hun? Could you limit your visiting time to a whole afternoon, or a whole evening visit..and allow the staff to take great care of her while you are not there?
Don't burn yourself out Barb, prioritise everything you need to do today and the following days, i hope you feel a bit better later..a good cry is recommended, so don't feel bad for needing to..it will help in the long term
if you've got the time, go and have a lovely long soak, lots of bubbles..have a wee cry if you need to, and clear your mind...then smile and take on the rest of the day...calmly and slowly
x
Barb
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Bless you Rose, what a lovely thoughtful post. I appreciate it so much, you are such an understanding person. I just seem to be in a very strange way at the moment, kind of lost and i don't know whether the pressure to lose weight on top of everything else is tipping the balance too far for me. I just feel completely overwhelmed. Mum is not in hospital but is in a lovely retirement home where she has her own little flat and meals etc are provided. Trouble is she has got used to seeing me most days and my sister also, so now will expect me every day in addition to phone calls morning and evening. I will do anything for her, she is a wonderful Mum and she misses Dad so very much, and I know I am so lucky to have her. It is just the demands from other family, work, my own health, or lack of it, are too much right now.
I will try and relax a bit. Just not sure how, want to go swimming but still not well enough. Sorry, I am such a misery.
I guess I want a magic wand waved and there simply isn't one. I'll get over it, just a phase I guess.
I will try and relax a bit. Just not sure how, want to go swimming but still not well enough. Sorry, I am such a misery.
I guess I want a magic wand waved and there simply isn't one. I'll get over it, just a phase I guess.
