I think the hardest thing for me at the moment is that my OH, or ex-OH, is a lovely person, a loving partner and fantastic dad - he's done nothing wrong. I think I just "fell out of love", and believe me I tried everything to get it back, counselling included, but I knew in my heart that it was gone. I've carried a lot of guilt for a long time about not being able to return his feelings, I couldn't go on shouldering it. I believe we can be better parents apart, and we hadn't got the the stage of screaming matches and fights so hopefully we can remain friends. We definitely agree on doing the best for the children.