big bear
A bear on a mission!
Hi guys
I don't know where to start with this need some advice.
We've only been married 2 years & have 2 little ones but I can't live with him any more & don't know if I love him. He works nights for RM & I think this is another factor in our relationship, when he was a postie at least he was around.
Basically he comes home in the morning & starts to drink & drinks about 5 cans of lager, then eats, then goes to bed...then he's up for work & then the cycle starts again...
I've asked him to stop drinking as its making him sleep all day & he rarely spends time with the kids. If he does he can only 'deal' with them for an hour...then starts moaning at me to help him.
I'm at the end of my tether & think that I'd be better off on my own.
We've got a mortgage together, a loan & the other obv bills. We are in arrears with some of the utility bills. I only work 3 days a week so I'm unable to afford rent on another place. I've got absolutely no family here but he has. I've asked him to move back to his Mums but he's being nasty & refuses & says I should just move back to my home which I don't want to.
I think that maybe if we had a trial separation & he goes back to his Mums he may have a reality check & try & change things & possibly we could work it out.
At the moment he's driving me nuts, always wanting sex without any affection love or wooing...we've not been out together since January (apart from cinema a few weeks ago)
So where do I go? As we've a mortgage I don't believe the council will help me with housing...
Do I go to CAB or does any one know the best place to get advice from?
I can't go on like this as its making me ill...
I don't know where to start with this need some advice.
We've only been married 2 years & have 2 little ones but I can't live with him any more & don't know if I love him. He works nights for RM & I think this is another factor in our relationship, when he was a postie at least he was around.
Basically he comes home in the morning & starts to drink & drinks about 5 cans of lager, then eats, then goes to bed...then he's up for work & then the cycle starts again...
I've asked him to stop drinking as its making him sleep all day & he rarely spends time with the kids. If he does he can only 'deal' with them for an hour...then starts moaning at me to help him.
I'm at the end of my tether & think that I'd be better off on my own.
We've got a mortgage together, a loan & the other obv bills. We are in arrears with some of the utility bills. I only work 3 days a week so I'm unable to afford rent on another place. I've got absolutely no family here but he has. I've asked him to move back to his Mums but he's being nasty & refuses & says I should just move back to my home which I don't want to.
I think that maybe if we had a trial separation & he goes back to his Mums he may have a reality check & try & change things & possibly we could work it out.
At the moment he's driving me nuts, always wanting sex without any affection love or wooing...we've not been out together since January (apart from cinema a few weeks ago)
So where do I go? As we've a mortgage I don't believe the council will help me with housing...
Do I go to CAB or does any one know the best place to get advice from?
I can't go on like this as its making me ill...