went throught hesame thing when i first joined but i got there in just a few days. You need 50 posts to be able to do everything you want on here. look for the word games and have fun playing and posting. once you have posted 50 times you will get it. youll know you are there cause when you go to 'quick links' in the blue area at the top of the page you will see that 'personal messages' have been added to the things you can do.